Jun 21
sad black woman

I was talking to my best friend the other day, and we came upon the subject of love and whether or not true, all-consuming-can’t-live-without-each-other, love really exists. We unanimously decided that the answer is no. As women, we are sold the fairy tale of a one true love. A man who will travel the world to get you back after he screws up. A man who will break up a wedding in order to have the woman he really truly can’t be without. He will profess his love for her to the public and make an ass of himself just to prove to her he’s willing to do anything to have her. This fantasy of so-called “true” love is the death of happiness for women, as it is unreachable and does not exist. Real relationships are based on love (not being in love), trust, understanding… [Read more]

Jun 20
cleaning the kitchen

Are you a slob? Well if you answered “yes” then you have made the first crucial step in fixing it; you have accepted what you are and want to do something about it. Part of the reason people are messy or hoarders is due to the fact that we keep things around too long even beyond their expiration date. In the past I offered up tips to keeping your place clean but based on the feedback I received it may have been a tad too hardcore. Today I offer you 4 steps that will make even the biggest slob a neat freak in the eyes of his/her friendship base: Step 1 – Minimalize Your Belongings If you haven’t used something in 6 months to a year then chances are you don’t need it at all. This is what I love about my monthly minimalist ritual;… [Read more]

Jun 11
beautiful black woman

Many women who aren’t built like Angelina Jolie (beautiful face, rail thin body) seem to look towards these catchy ideologies to love themselves due to this perception that they aren’t sexy. Much of this is true if you were to listen to the media and the more vocal male populace (I exclude myself, I like many body-types). Instead of just embracing your body – which every woman should do if there is no will, want or ability to change – is to look towards men who love their current body-type! One joke that has been around for a while between black and white men is that when a skinny white woman gains weight she immediately starts looking to date black guys. Not my joke; kind of crass, but allow me to put a positive spin on it: If a certain type of man likes thicker… [Read more]

May 29
james dean

So what is the difference between High School cool and Adult cool? Well we define our own brand of cool when we become confident in our own skin (if you’re lucky), confident in our career, and confident in our love life. Adult cool can be the 40 yr. old father who still dresses like the cool cats of his day, or it can be the child-at-heart uncle who delights in doing projects around his house. Cool is a mindset, it is confidence, and adult cool to us here at the Hall of The Black Dragon is when you get to the point where nobody  can question your sense of style, you are good where you are. Teenage cool however is being accepted by everyone else, it’s a tribal type of mentality where you do things to be seen as normal by others. Many adults are… [Read more]

Apr 25
Hottie in a suitcase

Two things become immediately evident when traveling – The first is that people of color need to travel more, and the second is that prejudiced people need to travel more. These two observations are a known fact but if you have any doubt just take a vacation elsewhere and look around – it slaps you in the face with reality. Traveling is an absolute necessity for people because when we “stay home” we come up with some really prejudiced notions that can only be fixed through exposure to outsiders. It’s embarrassing to see someone look at a Rastafarian and assume him dirty because of his hair, it’s pretty damn ignorant. We all make mistakes like this (even though some people have enough couth to not joke loudly about it) but with more exposure to other cultures the less of a chance you have of being… [Read more]

Apr 23
Kristen Stewart looking bored

I mean no offense by this but whenever I hear an adult claim to be “bored” it just strikes me that they are a worthless, privileged person. Do you know how many struggling people worldwide would love to be bored at least once in their life? I know upon reading the title you thought I was going to dig into people for “not having a life” or being losers but seriously, teenagers get bored, adults should always be doing something, even if that something is relaxing and enjoying life; boredom is not an option. Granted this is just my opinion, but to people who are actively working on a future, working to provide for their families and working for a better quality of life, bored people are simply in the way. Bored adults call you up late at night to see what’s going on and… [Read more]

Mar 27
Basketball player Dwayne Wade sits with his son

When we see someone out there doing well, taking time to be an upstanding gentleman and curbing his actions to stay right when children are involved, we just smile and keep it moving. At the same time when we someone with more money than God, a large house, athletic ability and an incredible savvy for finances, we get upset at their transgressions because they are supposed to be role models. In my opinion it is up to us as people to switch this up and stop pushing the honor of role model unto bad men in hopes that they will feel scolded and change their behavior for the better. A role model is someone who is already in motion doing things worthy of the title, not someone who your kids latch unto for want of shooting a basketball just like them. A role model is… [Read more]

Mar 22

So you have been wanting a girlfriend (within your race) for some time and have found it to be a task. This could be due to a lack of that certain type of woman in your area, compatibility issues, bad luck, or something you personally do to turn women off. Whatever the reason, you find yourself at a crossroads in life – one path demanding that you broaden your horizons, the other will leave you lonely for years to come. What I am about to offer you men that are in this situation is a bit of perspective on interracial dating and what it is that disallows you from trying it – with a suggestion on how to get past it. Why Should You Branch out? Believe it or not, most men think the same way you do and it makes sense when you think… [Read more]