Have you ever opened a door for someone, or held it open out of courtesy only to be scoffed at or unappreciated for doing so? Chances are after a few times of experiencing this within a given area, you will stop doing it and conform to the ways of the people around you. If you are the type who doesn’t look for a “thank you” or a smile in return for your graciousness then more power to you, you are a rarity. For most people however, a show of courtesy deserves a show of gratitude in return. Think about it, when someone opens a door for you or helps you up into a train etc., a simple smile and nod or a “thank you” does not take much at all. When you do not return this to the helper, you are instantly seen as a snooty, bitch with a sense of entitlement or an ax… [Read more]

I’ve been meaning to write this article for some time but held off on it due to my not wanting to step on toes etc. I have a married friend who has not spent any time in prison, has a beautiful family and has no street gang or organized crime affiliation. Yet without hesitation I can say he is the most “gangster” individual I know. How is this? Well the term originated with organized crime, it was something that outsiders would call the wiseguys and the clubs of fellas that were doing their gang thing on the streets back in the day. As time passed and Hollywood became involved, the dangerous wiseguy of the slums became idealized into a street knight who chooses illicit ventures to profit while sticking to a harsh code of discipline. When musicians started claiming to be gangsters, they would reference street legends and movie stars, the latter being the majority… [Read more]

Written by Ed The Sports Fan from his excellent sports blog edthesportsfan.com. This list of 20 things is only appropriate for the self respecting alpha male who finds the need to posture, pose and stunt a tad childish. Read on and enjoy, I know I did when I saw it reposted on AverageBro.com, it isn’t just funny, it should be common sense. So since Jay-Z came out with “Excuse Me Miss,” The term “Grown and Sexy” has been thrown around more than Karrine Stephens backstage at the BET awards. If you’re throwing a party, it’s for the Grown and Sexy. If you got a car that’s a sedan but not a lowrider or a slab, it’s grown and sexy. You went and bought a shirt that’s not a XXXXXLT white tee, you guessed it, grown and sexy. Grown and Sexy has kind of turned into our generation’s “Whoomp, there it is.” Ironically enough, the most… [Read more]

You’ve probably heard the saying don’t blame the player blame the dame, but what kind of boys do you have, if you can’t trust them to leave your girl. I remember the first time I ran into this problem was when I dated a really attractive girl in college. Some of my supposed friends thought it was cool to try and get with her behind my sleeping back, unknowing that she was reporting back to me about every incident. There seems to be two very different opinions on this thing, each placing the brunt of the responsibility on either side. What I mean is we have guys who believe that it’s the ultimate test of their girl’s loyalty if she can suffer the whims of the crowd and then there are guys who believe that their boys should know better, even if their girl is giving them positive feedback when they push up on her…. [Read more]

Such a cliché to say the nice guys finish last. I have had my share of bad boys and had numerous conversations with my girls about why we go for the bad boy type vs. the nice guy. All have several reasons but it boils down to a few general topics that will give a bit of insight to why women stay with the one who treats them like yesterday’s garbage, but that dude who showers her with compliments and is always there when she needs him is kept in the “glass jar”. Nice guys tend to have a weak chase game. Most women have an innate need to feel wanted and love being pursued. Nice guys have an approach where they give distance. They do not want to come off as rude or like they just want to get into your pants. This is not a bad thing, as women also love to be… [Read more]

Many of us have been caught up with an attractive woman who would not let us “seal the deal”. She does just enough to keep you around but when you proceed farther, she shoots you down or limps away quickly. The term for this is normally called Dick in the Glass Jar Syndrome because in essence you are being trained to become an extra dick in case the one she wants does not work out. Everyone hates to be lonely and the people who suffer most from this fear are people who have been in relationships for a long time. Some people avoid it by being serial daters or serial girlfriends, you never see them alone, yet they are never with someone for a good amount of time. Now I know guys will get defensive and macho then lie that they will dodge the syndrome if they see it coming. But let’s be honest about… [Read more]

Let me preface this article by saying that I may sound as if I am about to use the tired old “strippers are sluts and gold diggers” argument but I’m not. Read the article. Okay here is the thing. I remember when I turned 18 and I went to my first Strip Club. My buddy at the time warned me to play hard-to-get and stretch my money out because he wanted to be there for a bit… since he was dating one of them. Upon hitting the doors to the place, I am propositioned by a full nude woman and bam my measly $60 was done within 15 minutes. After that initial experience I fell in love with the Strip Club, I would go every other month for my lap dance, bed dance whatever the particular club offered but I never went alone, and I never fell in love. It dawned on me even as… [Read more]

One of the ways us men show affection for one another is through an activity called “breaking balls”. The term is referred to by many names but being who I am, I tend to go with that term over the rest. Synonyms include but are not limited to “ribbing”, “chewing” and “razzing”. Chances are you have heard one of these terms before. It takes a special kind of bond to get into breaking balls effectively, if you and your comrade aren’t on a certain level of friendship it will be misunderstood as an attack on his character. It is not a simple gesture being that effectively breaking balls weigh on not only the temperment of your friend but the results you seek in doing so. There are different reasons to break balls and different methods in doing so. The friendly jab – This is the norm amongst close guys. It is an ongoing thing that… [Read more]