Oct 02

With the campaigning starting we are seeing the pandering beginning already. Seeing someone running that is outside the “norm” brings forth issues concerning “ism’s” again. With Obama, racism was brought up and questioned on its overt or subversive nature. And now with Clinton re-entering the fray questions of sexism and a glass ceiling are floating around. This is not an issue about candidates; this is simply about what is and what isn’t evident. Just as many people would stake claims that racism is over, they like to say that sexism is over as well. Sorry, but that just is not the case. Sexism, ideals regarding what men and women are capable of and should be able to do. Simone de Beavoir, author of The Second Sex (1949) is such a foundational piece in the women’s rights movement and feminism. “Representation of the world, like the… [Read more]

Sep 25

People always say that its only when pet peeves and annoyance comes into play that you realize how much you are willing to put up with when it comes to dating. Once you know how much you are willing to put up with (and what you definitely are not) you tend to migrate towards and settle with someone who fits that mold. Then there’s that woman.  We all know who she is. The one who for whatever reason makes her issues the sole controller of her emotions when she meets someone and gets close to a real relationship.  It almost seems that she is more comfortable when she is getting screwed over, doesn’t it? I have known women in the past who have put up with a lot of wrongdoing and they truly didn’t deserve it.  Makes me think that nice girls really do finish last.  It’s like when… [Read more]

Jun 02
Happy couple kissing in park

“I always questioned why is it when I do my hair really nice, do my make-up all cute and wear flattering clothes … no men approach me, but when I just be kind of basic, wear jeans and a t-shirt, put my hair in a pony tail and wear little to no make up, guys seem to have more compliments for me.” – Dakota On a former article (Dear Dragon: Why Do Men Seem Intimidated By My Beauty), Dakota made the above comment which received quite a number of answers. One which struck a chord with me due to it’s familiarity: I want a girl that I can just relax with, someone who is chill and confident and knows that I like her the way she is, and someone who likes herself the way she is. If I see a girl who looks nice but… [Read more]

May 11

Bachelors, do women find it intimidating when you keep your home spotless? I would think this to be false but quite a number of men have reported that they get snide remarks and more when they bring a woman home to a clean place. “Dragon, I’ve come to the unfortunate realization that a lot of chicks actually get intimidated by a man with a ‘together’ pad. It seems to take some of the ‘challenge factor’ away from you. Through my experience, showing chicks my crib has hurt me, more than helped me.” – Anonymous male So if we’re to believe anonymous, would it be better to dirty up the place before bringing a girl home? Should we not be embarrassed if the dishes pile up and our clothes are all over the place? Should we settle on a “he tried to clean up but not… [Read more]

Mar 10
bald woman holding head

“Ugly is a field without grass, a plant without leaves, or a head without hair.”
Ovid “The Silent Woman” The meaning of being bald as a woman: “What does it mean to be bald as a woman?” One possible sentiment might be “Oh, she is beautiful!” and as exampled in the following quote, typically this comment is reserved for the woman who lost her crown to the fight against cancer: “A bald woman on chemo is beautiful.” Yes, being bald as a woman often represent sickness, or maybe just getting old–er. Then there are those of you who are more forward thinkers and can rattle off the names of beautiful iconic bald-headed women in the entertainment industry who are not cancer survivors such as Amber Rose, Megan Fox, and Erykah Badu. Many of whom a shaved head is a matter of style or stance and choice… [Read more]

Jul 21

It seems that at times when talking to women about what we men consider sexy, I get the feedback that we like one particular type of woman. Knowing men whose tastes are extremely varied, I find it odd that women think that there is really one make and model that can attract all men. Unintentionally Sexy Women You can never box men in on our tastes in women. There are a host of women that are viewed as sevens on the ten point scale that attract men who consider them to be dime pieces (tens). Women will see these supposedly average-looking women being doted on by men and wonder what the hell it is they see in her. A man will even keep a woman as his secret crush, because if she’s an unconventional beauty, he cannot imagine that his friends will cosign on her. Sometimes a woman isn’t even trying to be… [Read more]

Jul 02

The orgasm… a woman’s joy and a man’s seal of approval. Isn’t it funny how we men make the orgasm more about us than it is about her? Keep it on the low though… she still thinks you care. But i’m just a writer with an opinion, we should probably hear what an expert has to say about it. Lets’ see what Dr. Lehmiller of Sex and Psychology has to say about why the female orgasm exists: Women have the potential to become pregnant whether or not they reach orgasm during vaginal intercourse. This observation has generated a long-standing scientific debate about why women have orgasms in the first place. If the female orgasm is not essential for reproduction, then what purpose does it serve? Although scientists do not yet agree on the answer, a number of interesting theories have been offered. Some have argued… [Read more]

Jun 30

Recently, I sat watching one of Tyler Perry’s older plays on DVD with a girlfriend of mine. This particular play starred two brothers who, by general female standards, would be considered “hot.” One of them was actor Christian Keyes; the other, actor/model Ryan Gentles. Almost every time a particular scene in the play involved Christian Keyes, my girlfriend would bite her lips and say to me “Ooooo girl, he is fine! He can get it!” Even my Mom, who was visiting for the weekend, passed by the TV, took a look at him and said “Now that’s a handsome young man!” As my Mom and friend fawned over Mr. Keyes, my thoughts drifted off in another direction, and pretty soon I wasn’t paying attention to the play any more. I began to think about my preferences when it came to a man’s physical appearance, and… [Read more]