Oct 02
sporty chick

This was the feedback I received from a number of black women when I wrote a guest post about the positives in dating a tomboy. The women who responded seemed to come from 3 separate camps – those who genuinely liked the article, former tomboys who appreciated the article, and religious bigots who wanted to spin it into a “gays are running our Christian earth” type of thing. Here’s a quote from one of the responses that took my sexuality to task: Jo: “sooo, are you saying you’re bi or something? I’m sorry, but if you like a girl who acts like a man, hates other girls (or pretends that other girls except herself are “catty” is a HUGE sign of ugly insecurity and hypocrisy), likes beer and football and farting, well, guess what? You dont like a girl, you like a guy.” Thank goodness… [Read more]

Sep 24
arguing couple

If you’ve ever tried having a civil discussion with a “strong” woman of today you will know all too well what happens when you suggest that women of a former age were a lot more feminine, lovable and supportive. We as men lose the chance to speak when we utter certain words – namely: feminine, submission, and gold digger. Any of these words will turn the conversation into an argument and you will have gone from a “man” into a “misogynist” in her mind. As a Modern Gentleman it is no longer our prerogative to tell a woman what to do and what to say. Using the word submit, obey, or “cater” will bring forth the wrath of every self-proclaimed feminist to tar and feather you into the netherworld of shame. Today’s woman will not be treated like a Betty Draper or a Margaret Schroeder…. [Read more]

Sep 17
beautiful black woman

In my old age I’ve found that women send back signals that many of us should pick up on but don’t due to our inability to understand them. No I don’t mean obvious crap like touching your hand, giggling, or I don’t know – flirting with you. What I am talking about is the involuntary mannerisms that let you know whether or not she’s approachable. Think about the things that a woman does when she’s comfortable around you and think of the other things that she does when she doesn’t care for you. Everyone is different and we all have our own ways of showing discomfort and relative comfort with one another. Within a setting of many people, different interactions and uninterrupted focus, a focused man can determine whether it’s worthwhile to ask a woman out or not. Real Life Example – The Meeting with… [Read more]

Aug 27
sad woman with abuser

Many people assume that prostitutes are unintelligent victims of overly smart street hustlers with a hard backhand, a 9mm handgun and a lack of empathy but the truth of the matter is that there is a method to the madness that is The Game and the art of making and breaking a prostitute. The main source of power that a pimp has over his/her product is called psychological imprisonment and I would warn that many of you judging the prostitute may be a broke day and an act of loyalty away from being one yourself. The following 7 rules are a variation of The Laws of The Game that have been used by pimps since time immortal and they are accompanied by my insights as to how your marriage or relationship could very well be along the same lines as a pimp/prostitute relationship. Sure your… [Read more]

Aug 22
disappointed black woman

It’s a fact that I am out of the dating pool, but there are times when I look at the current swimmers and notice certain patterns that make it hard for one group of people versus another. One such group are the agnostic and atheist black men. If you’ve been paying attention, you know that African American culture is very much of the church in more ways than one – especially women (nods at Tyler Perry). This isn’t to say that ALL black women are bible beaters because as a group black women are a million times more diverse than the media presents. But in the dating pool it can seem very one dimensional for a young man…  If you are anything but a Christian and you are into American black women, I am going to go out on a limb and say that it… [Read more]

Aug 14
black woman thinking

Reading the articles and general attitudes of the single women in the Washington DC area it seems that the search for a good, successful, single man is done out of want for a status symbol as opposed to a loving mate. Ladies correct me if I am completely off base with this but what would you assume if a man was to write the following inquiry from a place where women are scarce: “I have everything a woman could ask for around here; I have a new Benz, a plush apartment, all my teeth, a Doctorate, AND I’m about to make partner! Why are all the good girls around here acting as if they’re gold that I can’t afford?” I’m going to go out on a limb and say that question would put you on the defensive even without me having to name the area,… [Read more]

Jul 27
hot blonde on date

Men how many times have you read articles written by confused women asking why it is that they are single when they have sooo much to offer? How many talk shows, Reality TV interviews, books, etc. have shown us this drop dead gorgeous woman complaining about her inability to find a guy? Tons of them right? What does a man say when he reads, hears or watches this stuff? A man thinks to himself “that’s all fine and dandy, but I bet she has a real annoying personality, or even worse – a ridiculous sense of entitlement.” I know that’s what crosses my mind, having known enough strong women in my time who remained chronically single, unaware that their poisonous demeanor was the culprit. I have learned that we all have a poor sense of self when reflecting back on why a date went south…. [Read more]

Jul 17
socially awkward woman

It’s a bit sad that we cater so much to the outgoing social women that we tend to generalize and paint every woman with the same brush. While many women may have girlfriends, take pleasure in using girl power to make things harder in the dating game and comment on relationship blogs, they are not the whole. Socially awkward women are everywhere, some are beautiful physically, some are beautiful mentally, and others are just normal. We never speak to them because they shrink back into the background as props and watercolor to our animated series of life. The bold, sometimes loud girl commands attention in a room; she likes us but wants us to chase her while her socially awkward friend would love to talk to us but doesn’t know how to make it happen. As men we know it’s as simple as some eye… [Read more]