In an ongoing effort to save guys from themselves I run into issues periodically where men just aren’t thinking before acting. After reading an article over at The Shooting Range about hitting on a teller, I thought about it and asked myself “why would you do this?” I don’t care if it’s Halle Berry behind the counter, the wrath of people in line and your 100% chance of appearing as a douche should tell you that maybe this isn’t the venue. Smart men on the dating scene know that certain jobs held by women have a 0-5% chance of success rate if you press them. These hardcore jobs will be explored in an upcoming series called “Breaking the Ice” where I talk to men who have successfully courted women in these positions and finding out how they managed to do it! 7 Jobs to Avoid When Scamming on Chicks Strippers Bartenders Bank Tellers Waitresses Traffic… [Read more]

There is a social dilemma in the black community, brought to light by blogs, news stories and opportunistic authors looking for sales. The dilemma is an ongoing meme that there are no black men for black women and that the women themselves are practically unlovable with the bad attitudes and high expectations of the professional thug/ ball player who stands over 6ft tall and can blow her back out with his super penis while keeping her draped in diamonds with his super bank account. This stereotype is there for a reason (bare with me), it is constructed from many experiences with the wrong kind of black woman and has made itself the avatar of what a black woman in the dating world is. Who are these women, and why are they so bad? Most of us men go for ass over class, looks over books and sex over common sense. Coming up as a common… [Read more]

If you are in a relationship that has run its course and you’re wondering whether it’s a good time to turn in or not consider this. How do you feel when you go out of your way to meet your lady? Do you anticipate a good time, is it no big deal or do you dread it because of an inevitable argument or bad experience? Most men will stick around, not for fear of loneliness, but because our analytic minds tend to weigh the good versus the bad and stick it out if it lean towards good. Godd for a man could mean that while she may be a total bitch, her looks makes for great arm candy and the envy of your friends. Maybe she only emasculates you when you’re with friends but when you two are alone she’s a sweetheart. It could be a number of things which were the tables turned, a… [Read more]

Do you know what being “office hot” is? It’s when you have a building full of average to butt ugly people and a regular, girl next door starts working there and everyone treats her as if she was Olivia Wilde. I am sure many of you have seen this phenomenon in action, whether you were the one admiring her, or you were the girl getting admired. Place this lady amongst the general populace and she would blend in easily, unnoticed by the masses, but when she goes to work, she is Venus on a half shell. This has nothing really to do with the hawte, so to speak, it has more to do with the length of time people are trapped in a building together and the ability people have of growing on you after a bit of time. I’ve been a victim of office hot, but I saw it for what it was before… [Read more]

Women, why is it that when a man tells you that he doesn’t want a relationship, he just wants casual sex, you stick around? Is it because you think that sticking around will somehow lull the savage beast into liking you as a person eventually? Do you look behind the shiny red eyes and imagine a possibility of love when all he wants is the prize between your thighs? Why does one saying this to you go right into one ear and out the other? You protest, act offended, get upset but there you are calling, hanging out and eventually giving it up, forgetting that this same man had told you that all he wanted was sex. Why is it that you then get angry when he stops returning calls and coming around? Why weren’t you listening? Why is it that a man will tell you that he is unhappily married but still loves his… [Read more]

Do I look fat in this dress? Well of course you do, you are fat. Where were you? I was getting blown by a stripper that my friends paid for to see me off on my bachelor party. What did you think of my friend Shelly when you met her? Oh Shelly was smoking hot. Of course everyone knows that the above conversation would place a man in the doghouse faster than anything imaginable, so the likelihood of a guy being this blunt is slim to none. Still women press on with the “you can be honest with me” or the “you can say anything to me” line, without considering the consequences of opening that door. As men we are rarely subtle, we rarely use our “intuitions” and we operate within the realm of black and white. What this means is that we are either going to say too much, or we are going to… [Read more]

She’s comfortable wearing a velour jogging suit, sneakers and no make-up when you go to the sports bar. She can throw a spiral as well as run a post to actually catch the ball. She hates how women backstab each other so she keeps at most one girlfriend choosing instead the company of guys. She either ran track or played volleyball in college, keeps up with a professional team and can stomach beer. She is sexy all the time but beautiful when she dons make-up and skirt for her friend’s wedding or dinner party. She is the quintessential hot tomboy. She is the woman that most guys go crazy over on paper, but few guys actively pursue in life. Most women like this are snatched up out of college; they are godsends, goldmines, and diamonds in the rough for an athletic type of guy. They make for low maintenance, highly loyal and cool girlfriends for… [Read more]

Happy Hour This is easy-mode scamming for the young wolf. Think about it, you have a collective of women from the office, some single, some unhappily married and most cougars that are looking forward to some two-for-one drink action, a little eye-candy (which is where you come in) and some good laughs (all you again). Attending Happy Hour frequently with the same bunch can lead to a chance at sexy Tina from Marketing or Julie from Accounting when she’s loose off of some Tanqueray. Just play it cool, keep your ears open for the clues and eventually you will be able to slide in and out of that spot with ease. This like all of my suggestions is not a 100% certainty, but there is no hookup easier than an office hook-up, especially when you see these women for 7+ hours in the day. Trust me you grew on them the same way they have… [Read more]