Sometimes we have these small habits that may be born from insecurities, past experiences or being an introvert. The term “socially awkward” does not always mean a person who stands quietly in the corner staring at Reddit.com on their smart phone; it can also means someone who comes off as a spaz when engaged in conversation.
Many of us have friends who do things that are unacceptable in a general sense but since we love and accept them it doesn’t seem so bad… until a new person is added to our clique and reacts. Imagine if you were that person but nobody bothered to tell you that you are an annoying ass? Well this is why I felt the need to make the following list of things that tend to piss people off.
1. Unconsciously talking about yourself – Take it from an award winning listener like yours truly, people value your silence and observation over your relating to their story. So if you are the type who feels that one great story deserves another you should probably check yourself.
People who want so badly to identify with someone’s plight or story tend to inject their own as a gut reaction. If you find that you are doing this then concentrate your efforts on keeping it to yourself and actively listening to the person who is either sharing or complaining about their own personal strife.
2. Interrupting – While I know people who will never shut up unless interrupted, if you interrupt someone who hardly talks, or talks a fair amount then you will be mentally filed away as an asshole. We all have dealt with someone who interrupts and it comes off as if that person is so self-important that nothing you say will ever matter to them.
Conversation is a well-coordinated game of verbal tennis but if someone tends to interrupt the other on a constant basis it is akin to driving your serve continuously into the net. Soon the person watching you hit the net will get bored and quit. Try listening and letting the person finish before talking.
3. Diarrhea of The Mouth – Are you a nervous motor mouth? I ran into someone like this recently and it was amazing to witness. This woman interrupted me mid-speech, proceeded to make an example of herself in the same situation as mine, made her own jokes, laughed at them and kept on talking.
We were in a vehicle en route to the office and had offered her a ride (she works with us) but for the entire ride it was a one-woman show starring her. She kept going and going and going, which could have been irritating if I didn’t realize that she was going through one hell of a nervous twitch.
If you find that you are the one doing all of the talking in a situation and you aren’t a performer on stage, trust me, you are pissing someone off.
4. Grammar Nazi – You can file this under “being an elitist douchebag” because that is what people think of you. It doesn’t matter whether you are an authority or not – one adult will never feel comfortable with another adult correcting them in front of other adults. The only person you are helping with this is yourself and everyone notices.
No the only time to correct language and grammar is when asked and if you feel that doing so is improving society then you are sorely mistaken. The other part of this is that grammar Nazi antics stem from being socially awkward also since it comes from a wanting to show your intelligence.
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Look nobody’s perfect, but most people will agree that the 4 things listed above have been reasons for them slowing contact with an individual who does this. I have found that one of the worst things you can do to someone is prove to them that you don’t give a damn about them—by not listening—so think about that whenever you engage. It is better to be labeled a good listener than someone who doesn’t know when to shut the hell up.See some words or phrases that you don't understand? Check out The Dragon's Lexicon.