So you use the internet for work, gaming and surfing porn but somehow online dating is still taboo to you. Why is this? Don’t you know that as time passes on and you become busier, more locked into a routine and more inflexible to change, the dating pool will shrink to a mere cup? With online dating you can have your cake and eat it too. Instead of forcing in time to troll the bars of TGIF and Bennigan’s looking for tipsy, happy hour single, you could easily login, scroll through some attractive profiles and try your hand at a connection. Given the stigmas with online dating and the “uncool” factor that gets associated with it, many people (especially women) will express their uncomfortable feelings about trying things via the internet. We are adults, if appearing “cool” still matters to you, then nothing I say will help your plight anyway. The people who find online… [Read more]

I seem to come across articles daily bemoaning the plight of the single black female, no not women of color but black women specifically. I will say this to you black women, you aren’t the only ones that are sick and tired of reading these statistics and blog fodder so don’t feel like it’s the world against you. One of the reason these articles are so hot for journalists is because it inspires immediate emotion and bitterness from the accused. Hell go to any blog about the subject and hear the echoes of how sh-tty us black men are and how you all need to start looking elsewhere. Well the dragon is here to help you move on and break the stereotype. Unlike other blogs who wish to highlight the problem and air out your dirty laundry, we offer you suggestions and solutions, from the viewpoint of a black male. One thing that I keep… [Read more]

People always say that its only when pet peeves and annoying ways come into play that you realize how much you are willing to put up with when it comes to dating… once you know how much you are willing to put up with (and what you definitely are not) you tend to migrate towards and settle with someone who fits that mold. Then there’s that chick.  We all know who she is, the one who for whatever reason, her issues are always the sole controller of her emotions when she meets someone and gets close to a real relationship.  Could it be that she is much more comfortable when she is getting screwed over because that’s familiar to her?? I have known women in the past who have put up with a lot of jackass activity and they truly didn’t deserve it.  Makes me think nice girls really do finish last.  It’s like when… [Read more]

So if you’re like me and you have had enough of Johnny Media and this Tiger Woods circus, you have probably started making jokes or contributing jokes at the cablinasian’s expense. Well one of the discussions among “the boys” about Tiger’s fall from alleged grace is not so much why’d he cheat but where did he go wrong in getting caught. To most men, and some women it seems that Tiger’s hustle was wrong, he teed up for a Player’s game but bogeyed every hole (no pun intended) by literally screwing the help. So in my quest to figure out what he could have done differently, I consulted a Wiseguy. After all wasn’t it Goodfellas that explained the necessity of a goomah to take out on fridays? Who better to ask than a practitioner and relative master of the art, of course all names will be withheld here but I wanted to know. How do… [Read more]

There are times when we men will take a woman out, swear we did well then wonder why the chick won’t return calls or texts. It’s time like this when you should apply the 3-strike rule and move on if she turns out to be a flake. The worst thing that you can do is to continuously chase a woman who has no interest in you. The second worst thing that you can do is to be on call for a woman who flakes out on you, then keeps you in her rolodex in case her current distraction does not work out. As always I stress self-respect over everything else. No matter how magical you think a woman’s nether regions are, your self-respect is not worth sacrificing for it. So you took her out and after 2-3 attempts she is either too busy or not answering at all. Here’s a list of things that may… [Read more]

If we’re going to talk badasses, I think it only appropriate to start with the man who comes to mind when I think of the congressional Medal of Honor. Audie Leon Murphy amassed a total of 33 medals in his day along with the congressional Medal of Honor for “conspicuous gallantry and intrepidity at the risk of his life above and beyond the call of duty”. Audie earned just about every medal there was to earn for being godly on the battlefield and then went on to star as himself in war movies before suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and clinical depression. Like many men of his time, Audie’s life was eventually taken by the one thing he couldn’t fight, a piece of crap private plane transporting him on a business trip. What makes Audie a badass? Well given the technology and advances in military weaponry you will never see a guy like this… [Read more]

This review is late in coming but I cannot stop listening to Ghostdini Wizard of Poetry. Something about the samples and guest artists mixed in with Ghostface’s tales of hitting on pretty pregnant women makes this thing work. My favorite track of the 14 or so hits is a song called Paragraphs of Love featuring Vaughn Anthony (John Legend’s brother) and Estelle (of American Boy fame). In this particular song, Ghost runs into a pregnant woman and it is love at first sight, strange right? that’s what you think until you hear him pour his heart out to her as Vaughn and Estelle coo in the background. The album is pure magic and I find the title very appropriate based on this, Ghostdini the wiz knows how to pick his R&B and his formula for mixing hip hop into it is pure mastery. The standard formula for Hip Hop / R&B has been a horrible… [Read more]

You know that you’re a bourgeois bachelor when strip clubs are required to have a touch of class for you to attend them… or at least pretend to. When the booze and food must compliment and not be sacrificed by the twirling pretty on the stage. When it becomes all about entertaining friends over getting your rocks off on the bizarre ritual known as the “lap dance”. Well when you have experienced the world and you have learnt to sip your wine over lushing out and getting drunk every time, then the prospect of the nude seductress will have lost it’s power and you will be rational and coherent in your choices of establishments. Is it wrong that I have a stripper bank set to the side specifically for the club? Does this make me the worst kind of trick or am I just practical? I mean, myself and a few of my single friends,… [Read more]