Jun 17

Dear Dragon, I have been with my boyfriend for a few months now and I really think he’s the one. We have a very active sex life and I honestly do enjoy it. However, I have a more kinkier side to myself and I am afraid of scaring him away. How do you suggest that I introduce that side of me without him feeling like he’s doing something wrong?Thanks, Karen

Hi Karen, unless your man is one of these repressed religious types that is drunk on the Kool-Aid I can put money on it that it’s game on if you try him. Wait! You aren’t trying to put a deal in his deal or anything are you? There are lines that most men won’t cross so I would encourage you to feel him out during one of your sexy chat moments or one night when he’s good and tipsy. Listen your man may act reserved but chances are he does it for the same reason you have been – he doesn’t want you to run away. Has he tried anything forbidden?

Here’s a better question for you, does he watch porn? If the answer is yes then it’s game on baby, throw him down and have your way with it. Men who are into porn are desensitized to plain boring coitus and more often than none have some sort of secret fetish. Just think about the explosion if you suggest something that he’s secretly into but thought you too prudish to do it… we’re talking Super Nova, clean up on aisle 4 type of feedback. In other words its better to try and have him squirm out of it than to let assumptions bore your sex life to death.

Communication and action is the key…

If he’s anything like me then he doesn’t want to talk about it, but he’s still 100% down for it. Believe me when it comes to sex the woman is high lord and master. Make him do the things you’re wanting to do, if he squirms away then try something else. Trust, its like porn, you get into watching it with all sorts of preconceptions, but after enough viewings you begin to accept certain things as being naughty instead of nasty – feel me? I have never met a man who complains about his chick being too freaky, you know why? The rest of us would be like “motherf— if you don’t want her don’t waste her time, what’s her number!?” Real men do not want to be out-freaked by their girlfriends trust me.

So Karen, grab your man’s johnson and NIKE (just do it). If he objects then it’s his loss, he won’t dump you for being a nasty girl, he’ll probably think it’s cute.

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