“I always questioned why is it when I do my hair really nice, do my make-up all cute and wear flattering clothes … no men approach me, but when I just be kind of basic, wear jeans and a t-shirt, put my hair in a pony tail and wear little to no make up, guys seem to have more compliments for me.” – Dakota
On a former article (Dear Dragon: Why Do Men Seem Intimidated By My Beauty), Dakota made the above comment which received quite a number of answers. One which struck a chord with me due to it’s familiarity:
I want a girl that I can just relax with, someone who is chill and confident and knows that I like her the way she is, and someone who likes herself the way she is. If I see a girl who looks nice but not dressed up, I assume that she is a more relaxed girl, who is confident and doesn’t feel the need to wear ridiculous clothing and a bunch of disgusting make up to look to feel she looks good and I appreciate her natural beauty.
If I see a girl all done up, I assume she is a high-maintenance, less chill, more always worrying about how she looks. Less just relaxing and being happy and more stressing because she is taking forever to get ready. Plus if one is wearing make up, I have no idea what she looks like without it, I could wake up next to a totally different person. Where as with a natural girl, I know what I’m getting into.
I know a lot of it is assumptions and probably not true for everyone, but that’s why I’d prefer a girl who looks like she doesn’t care so much. It’s just easier, and I feel I’d get along with her better, as well as the fact that knowing a girl is confident in herself and the way she naturally looks, is so much hotter then a girl who feels that she is ugly without putting in a massive effort.
Let me start by saying that what Alex says is how many men feel when it comes to women. Some will take issue with what he’s saying–despite it being the truth that we so desperately seek–because it contradicts everything women believe men to be.
Just this past month, I was out with friends and we were doing a bit of people-watching. Being that it was late and we were next to a club, quite a number of barely-can-walk-in-heels struggle bunnies rolled by and I asked my lady, why was it that women forced themselves into heels?
It was something like: “I love the way heels makes a woman’s legs look, but don’t get it twisted, it isn’t necessary to wear them to get my attention.” The women at the table all but told me that I was full of it, but the males backed me up in saying that a chick with legs is a chick with legs – heels need not apply.
Show me a banger in short shorts and some sneakers and I guarantee you that she’ll do as well, if not better than her sister in heels, make-up, and a designer dress. Your mileage may vary (this all being opinion from several men), but the last time I checked, straight men like attractive women – in general. This being evidenced by the comment made by Alex.
How many of you men reading have attended track meets to watch women run sprints and jump around in athletic gear? Yeah, quite a few of you … no heels were out there and you were super-interested. (I’m just saying).
I got so much push back from the women based on my assertion that it began to look like they wanted me to appreciate their dressing up. Read what Alex wrote at the beginning of this article, no, really read it, he’s saying what many men feel.
Why do you think that you get more men coming up to you on your off days than the times when you’re feeling good and dressed to the nines? “I’d prefer a girl who looks like she doesn’t care so much” – is what he said, and I am here nodding my head like: yeah, that, exactly.
This isn’t to say that a well-dressed woman isn’t appreciated (because you are), it’s to say that it isn’t always necessary. Like I told the women that were out with us that night: “women dress to impress other women, anything else is probably a lie.”See some words or phrases that you don't understand? Check out The Dragon's Lexicon.