Feb 23

Editor’s Note: One of the harshest “competitions” going on in life is the measuring stick of success that people seem to strive for. But guest author The Marksman brings to question “Isn’t success an individual journey?” A journey whose results are subjective at best? Of course it is, at least I personally agree but people still refer to others as being “successful” when they see nice cars, clothes and homes. Having been called “successsful” by quite a few people while feeling quite the opposite, I found the following article to really speak to me personally. I hope you find some value in it too.” – G.Dragon

Just because you drive an expensive car or live in a big house, does not mean that you are successful, that is a common misconception in this country.

Success is something that people measure differently, and most have opinions that conflict on exactly what being successful means.  Think about yourself for a second, how do you measure your own personal success? Many will look at the car that they drive, or the house that they live in, and use that as some sort of measuring stick for making it.

People often equate being successful to how much money they have in their bank account, but money in a bank account does not ever tell the entire financial picture.  If you have a lot of money in the bank, but no investments to speak of then you are cash liquid, but have nothing that is growing for you.

The interest rates that banks provide for a regular savings account are next to nothing, and won’t provide you with much of a return.  If your monthly bills are more than your income then that savings account will slowly start to drain to nothingness.

Some would argue that you’re as successful as the company you keep. Certainly there is a connection between our friends and who we are.  Sometimes spending time with someone who is perceived as “successful” can make us feel less successful, but the irony is that regardless of how successful we think someone is, we don’t actually know if they feel successful themselves.  Plus just because you hang out with someone who is rich or successful does not mean that you have become successful as well, actually in a lot of cases successful people surround themselves with friends or family who are not successful in an attempt to share their success.

Success is really one of those things that you have to measure and determine on your own. If you grew up aspiring to be the best trash man in the city, and you attain that then you can say that you are successful because you met your goal.  People have to avoid letting other individuals define what their success should be or whether they have achieved it or not.  Plenty of people encounter this conflict with their parents at some point in their lives; they want to be the artist and their parents want them to be a doctor.

You have to make the decision as to whether you will be more fulfilled doing what you want or what your parents want you to do.  The other side of this argument is that parents do often know what they are talking about, and will generally help to steer you in the right direction when you are growing up.

Studies show that over 90% of Americans don’t feel fulfilled by their work. Think about that. The vast majority of Americans go home at the end of the day without the feeling of success.  Imagine a world in which that statistic is reversed. That most people go to work every day to a job they love and go home at the end of the day feeling fulfilled.

If you wait on your boss or other people to tell you that you are successful then you may never feel like you have attained anything.  When you look in the mirror you have to feel that you have reached the goals and accomplishments you wanted in your life, and not live off the suggestion of others.

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