Do you ever notice that some folks get a free pass to be single whereas others are scrutinized? Probably not since nobody pays attention to the fact that a single person is pushed towards marriage while a divorcee is given a pass to never have to marry again. It’s almost as if getting married is the point but staying married is not as important. This strikes me as odd because if its all about people pairing up, why isn’t the divorcee pushed towards a second marriage as much as the person who hasn’t married in the first place?
As an unmarried man I have heard some of the craziest and dumbest reasons why I should get married and have babies. One female friend of mine actually got upset with me because according to her I am the type of person that should be having babies but choose not to – I am what’s wrong with the world (rolls eyes). As if I am hurting the human race by making my own decisions. Others just simply push me towards marriage as if its the last step in this so-called race to success. People sell marriage like they do Network Marketing.
To men like myself it all just becomes a huge bother and one that we see as no-one else’s business but our own. My divorced friends are not seen as potential bachelors, they are not scrutinized for their failed nuptials – they are just left to be people. Think about it, if a married man that has gotten divorced decides that he will no longer get married but instead chooses to play the field and live his life, chances are more people than none will agree with him and give him free reign to do that. It’s as if the expensive marriage and time spent has earned him the right to become a playboy versus the single guy that believes that marriage isn’t for him. what an annoying double standard.
I would never push someone into marriage even if I were married. Most of us just want the freedom to be ourselves but regardless of our feelings and personal choice we are preyed upon by people that are beyond eager to bring us into their world.See some words or phrases that you don't understand? Check out The Dragon's Lexicon.