Finding romance is hard, many girls have found comfort in the reliable pattern that romantic comedies follow when it comes to finding love.
Generally speaking, the pattern goes as follows: there is a single girl; she’s kind of different from her other friends but endearing none the less. She is usually pining away for a guy – enter Mr. Wrong/Mr. Right Now – this guy has some kind of rugged or simple attractive quality to him that makes him generically swoon-worthy; whether that is the size of his arms, the dimples that appear when he smiles, mesmerizing eyes or if he just appears unattainable he is the guy that ladies know all too well.
Whether the leading lady ever bags the guy or only dreams of landing the guy; that single girl in the audience completely understands the situation. All of this is key to the plot because this allows for the leading man to enter the story and catch her unaware; the presence of Mr. Wrong allows for Mr. Right to be “oh-so unexpected” and all the more romantic when they two leading characters realize that all along “you were right in front of me…”
Well, the idealized process of falling of love can be dangerous in your real life love life. In a study posed by the Journal of Communication in 2006 researchers studied college students that frequently watched romantic comedies and found that they were “…more likely to believe that their partner should know their innermost feelings and that their wedding day will be the happiest day of their lives.” (Rozenfeld, 2013)
Relationships are hard work and this is not to say that we can’t get entertainment out of romantic comedies, but seriously, we’re watching the highlights and lowlights of a relationship in about ninety minutes – they can’t really showcase the really mundane parts of dating like the multiple times you have to ask you partner to not leave their socks under their desk…I’m just saying.
The spin of the movie reel relationship might strike a chord with the leading ladies inside us all – maybe only aspects for some women – but they are rarely a true depiction of love and romance and if we are trying to have our life emulate this form of art, we may be facing a world of disappointment.
Jeremy Olson, the author of the study and assistant professor of communications at Albion, states that “the biggest factor contributing to divorce is going into marriage with unrealistic expectations.” Our partners do not know what we are thinking unless we talk to them about it, and finding love in an unexpected friendship, well that does sound pretty perfect but it’s not always the case; some friends are just friends.
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