Apr 30


As a grown man who loves music there may be times when your instinct is to dress according to the musical culture as opposed to the safe boundaries of “grown folks” gear. We’ve all seen it… and we have all judged the man based on his clothes. You know exactly what I am talking about; men in sideways caps and jerseys, old 80’s rocker t-shirts, wife-beaters… I can keep going.

See the problem with dressing this way is that you are expected to do a bit better than follow “the wave” as a confident man. Some old-school rappers still dress a certain way but even though it represents the culture, and is expected of them, it still looks childish to anyone on the outside looking in. This is why we stress a time and a place for your wardrobe.

Clothing for the metro-man is like armor for a warrior, there is so much that can be gained from doing the damn thing right and so much you can lose for being aloof. Take for instance shoes, we have reminded men constantly on this site that shoes are the panty-droppers for women at a distance. A nicely dressed man bleeds power and authority while a frump looks like he needs a woman’s help. You may ignore the assumptions of a stranger but dressing like crap will make you lose out on business deals, a date, money… let me repeat…  MONEY.

So to summarize – a well-dressed grown man has a winning hand at all of the base desires: money, sex, respect, and authority. Still think dressing nicely is a privilege for dandies?

Improving Your Eye For Dress

One of the biggest obstacles for us as men when it comes to dressing well is the homophobic stigma we have let dominate our brains and keep us blind to what looks good. The ads meant for men in magazines are often ignored for fear of staring at what we see as an effeminate guy when what we are missing out on is the badass shirt and pant combination that he is sporting.

Figure out what style complements your body-type, lifestyle, and wants, then own the hell out of it. For instance I love the old 1920’s era, Boardwalk Empire, wear a suit everyday type of thing so I put a little bit of it into my clothing. I am dark-skinned so I find the brighter colors that make me look like a modern day Chalky White on a budget.

Define who you are first, then work on building up a presence through your clothing. You cannot wear what I wear and look good unless we are similar in enough traits. Even still, my confident strut may allow me to pull off a pastel yellow vest whereas your slumped shoulders may make it look feminine on you. Do you understand?

At the end of the day it’s about your clothes making YOU more pronounced to your audience. It isn’t always about you looking like you fit in, or looking marginally good. Open your eyes, look at the models for what they are wearing and start paying attention. In time you will find that you will know exactly what you want whenever it is time to purchase some new clothes.

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  • Lonnie F

    I switched up my style maybe 5-6 years ago and it took a couple of years to find what worked for me. I started out flamboyant and eventually became more conservative. Now that I have my own style, I own it and I’m complimented often. I dare somebody to copy. It’s not gonna work for the exact reason you mentioned. It was like trial by fire. A journey. But during that time I did get a lot of funny looks from dudes (in the hood or from the hood) thinkin I was sweet. The ladies thought I was corny or was only interested in white women. Now, I’m at a happy medium where IDGAF who thinks what, but I believe in what I’m doing. In the hood I look like a cool old head and outside I look sophisticated but dangerous. My strength is knowing where/what to spend on and what to save on.
    Anybody who asks what I paid for something I make it a point to show contrast.

    How I got here is that I got better at filtering influence and inspiration. Some of these metro blogs, ads, whatever are definitely steering mofos in the wrong direction in terms of being metro/gay and overly materialistic. That edge matters. Following style blogs I lost my edge.

    • Really good points and your journey is what many men have to go through in order to find their style then boom you’re set for life. I follow some of the communities, blogs etc. for men’s fashion and to be honest with you the best I get out of them are ideas on new shoes and watches; lots of men cross the line but in good communities the rest of the people ignore them when they post trash. Good places to buy suits, pocket squares etc. can also be snatched from those spaces but you definitely have to know what fits you.