Jun 20


Have we become a culture of “First World Problems”, or is it mistaken intent when we take each other to task over strong opinions?

There seems to be a generational gap in hustle that I am seeing mostly in the younger men of our time. We can write for days on cause and effect but at the end of the day we need to figure out if there is a solution; a real solution to men losing their way. The age of the hustle is waning and more and more young men have resolved to being listless, drawling Omega Men with no ambition or aspirations towards the future. Oftentimes there is a family member or friend of these boys who comes to men like me and ask that we reach out and help the boys to “become motivated” or “get a job”. Let me be as clear as I can possibly be on these requests, you can drag a lame horse to a lake but if he isn’t thirsty enough to make the effort to drink it then we waste our time in pushing his face into the water. 

In my limited experience men ask for help by complaining and when you offer any advice they treat it as if it’s too much effort. I see so many posts written by men and women talking about how much life has given them but it isn’t enough because they aren’t married or have children. We see people complaining about celebrities not giving 30 million dollars to their school instead of the school that’s over there. People feel owed, they bring up the balance of the scales in terms of the haves and have-nots, and they tweet diatribes about their supposed plight.

It’s enough to make you think that nobody’s happy

When I sit down with a young person to donate knowledge to them, I have seen so much difference in young girls compared to young boys (I do hope my experience does not reflect the world). Little girls are fired up, ready to learn, and eager to seize the day and carve a slice out of life for their future. The boys seem sleepy and tired no matter what time of day it is and they complain about not having anything. Boys seem uninspired, unenthused, and as a person speaking to them about finding the answers, their defeatist attitude drains the life out of me. Several young men I know are like this and so far only one has broken out of Team Lazytown when he turned 21 and decided to grow up.

If you have been following my writing on here you have probably read my many observations of the lazy/cool that is the swagger of the youth today. I wish I knew why these men are so broken and what we can do to fix it. Many blogs seem to think that having a whole family unit is the answer but the men I know from single parent homes have been aggressive go-getters in life. Not all of them of course, but enough to where the assertion that one parent isn’t enough seems like an answer with no substance. Others tend to think it’s the tech that is to blame, that we have too many conveniences and video games so kids get older and lack the interest to use their hands. I can see that being somewhat true but how does this explain the gender differences that I am seeing?

Have any of you spoken to a young person lately and observed this cultural phenomenon, or am I unlucky in knowing a bunch of uninspired young men?

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