Oct 03

My dear women (and men) of the world, if you are silently complaining about the 3-minute man in your life, you do us all a disservice by keeping it to yourself.

If you think that a man automatically knows that he sucks at sex then you are wrong. If you think that a man knows the importance of satisfying your urges as much as his own then you are wrong. Finally, if you think that a man will not try to “fix” his sexual issue after he learns it then you are wrong. Machismo decrees that a man be a sexual dynamo for his woman but when you keep it a dirty little secret you both will lose.

Suck at Sex? Then She Will Cheat!

I don’t care if you’re the most humble woman in the world, if your guy hasn’t gotten you off in years and I come along and accomplish it in 30 minutes of torrid bathroom sex, you will be at my house every week. Some men lose their women with no knowledge that it was due to them being tender under the zipper or selfish in refusing to  have their tongue scout the necessary terrain.

This is fact, but oft times we aren’t told that we suck. No, we are pitied, left to “assume” or learn from articles such as this one. This is why I lay the blame on the women in our lives that spare us from this lesson.

You Hurt Us Verbally All The Time – So Why Stop Now?

Women act like this information will crush a guy’s ego into nothing. If it’s something that cannot be fixed (like your man having a small penis) then I get it, but I have to argue the same to this. Women spare our feelings if we have a little penis, can only last 3 minutes or lack any rhythm whatsoever sexually YET have no qualms with ripping a guy for:

  • Being shorter than 6′ (this hurts many men)
  • Being overweight
  • Being older
  • Being an overly nice guy

These critiques all affect a man’s ego and when a man is criticized on something that he can fix (ie: being broke), you better believe he busts his ass to fix it.

So if you have a man that you love, who is perfect but can’t last longer than a few minutes inside of you… Why play nice all of a sudden and refuse to tell him? Let the man know so that he can work on his stroke count.

Most Men Want The Power To Rock Your World!

Women have this knowledge, especially you freaky sex kittens out there. So why not teach him how to pleasure you? If your guy’s a selfish 3 minute lover then make him earn those 3 minutes by facilitating you with a lengthy tongue lashing. Chances are the dude is clueless and ignorant. So get your tutor’s cap on and force him to get you where you need to be before he gets his 3 minutes of Jack rabbit bliss. You never know, he may become a fan!

So if you’re reading this and you are guilty of sparing a terrible sexual partner this charge out of sparing his feelings – please stop. Tell him and rage be damned, force him to do better. At the end of the day, unless you’re with a trademark douchebag, he will get in the lab, work some angles and figure out a way to earn your respect in the bedroom.

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  • *J

    Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!

    Finally someone besides myself is voicing what women need to know. Women complain all the time, but they won’t open their mouths to give a man constructive criticism. What are they afraid of? Hurting a man’s feelings? That should never be an obstacle. If I wasn’t pleasing my woman I would want her to tell me. Don’t keep quiet! Let me know exactly how I can please you and I’m going to make it my top priority.

    Like you stated, there are other men who would step in at a moments notice, but a real woman should never let it get to that point. How can creepin’ be a better alternative than communication? It amazes me how taboo a face-to-face discussion has become in our society. No one seems to want to address things straight up. So many people wanna talking behind someone’s back or creep out the side door. That’s not the answer.

    I will definitely be sharing this post. Women need to be more vocal. Don’t just scream “I’m cummin!” & “Faster, Harder, Deeper!” go ahead and scream “You ain’t pleasing me!” “It’s time resolve this issue and improve our sex life!” It’s time to make that happen ladies.

    Amazing post!

    • Thank you! This line: go ahead and scream “You ain’t pleasing me!” made me laugh out loud because the visual is just priceless. The funny thing is that if a woman was to yell that out more often than none the man would be like “what do you want me to do?” and then take the lessons and master it.

      Women need to realize that them having the time of their life is the biggest ego boost a man can have and many men would break their neck trying to achieve it. I’m not sure why this is so hush hush but for any woman reading this, the bad sex man is not the same as the small penis man. You are allowed to tell us we’re wack, we can work on being better – that’s a lot different than challenging someone for something they were born with.

      Thanks for the reply!

      • *J

        Precisely! He would use that as a motivator and I believe that’ the way it should be. That’s a good point you made distinguishing the differences between the two types of men. I think to often women lump all men in one category. I don’t know if it makes things easier for them or what. But there are a number of different reasons why sex can be bad…and besides the things that can’t be changed, many things can be improved.

  • Preach!! A closed mouth don’t get fed. You need to pull that person to the side and have a talk about what please you. Even some hands on training can work wonders.

    I personally enjoy telling a man what pleases me, because I know what worked for her may very well not work for me. I’m a different breed.

    Jay your a mess @ Don’t just scream “I’m cummin!” & “Faster, Harder, Deeper!” go ahead and scream “You ain’t pleasing me!” “It’s time resolve this issue and improve our sex life!” It’s time to make that happen ladies.

    • “I personally enjoy telling a man what pleases me, because I know what worked for her may very well not work for me. I’m a different breed.”

      ^ THIS right here.

      Communication is key with sex and if you do get a selfish jackass that isn’t willing to listen then you will know quickly whether he is beyond hope or not. A healthy sexual relationship comes from each partner knowing how to drive the other crazy and since most of us know what our turn-ons are, why wouldn’t a man be willing to get that cheat sheet from his lady? If I ever find out I will be sure to share lol.

    • *J

      I had to keep it real Sunny. They should be screaming the things that matter. You know?