Apr 27

Competitive girls gaming

The point of this article is not to defend women per se but to plead to those who game in public, to stand up for yourselves whenever a douchebag gets brazen enough to cross the line. Too often have I seen situations like the cross assault debacle go down, where the victim smiles and takes it on the chin instead of going ape on the offender.

I’ve never seen a fight break out in the arcade over a game, and I have been gaming heavily since I was about 8yrs old… up until the arcade scene died with the creation of next-gen graphical beasts like the Sega Dreamcast.

The reason why I bring up the arcade is because it was as public as you will ever get and I never saw a man calling a woman the things I hear on games now that we are all invisible faces behind a cute handle onscreen. It isn’t fun to be associated with cowards, especially being someone that has always backed my words with fists if ever it needed to be. Yet here I am part of a sub-culture that is deemed to be angry, virgin, white males, devoid of any social skills whatsoever.


So what is to blame for the change in dynamics between the arcade I so loved and the much more convenient confines of my living room and a headset? We all know what it is, its anonymity. Random analogy incoming… It’s as if you give a prude a masquerade mask and a sexy corset and all of a sudden she’s her alter-ego, the lusty femme fatale. Many of us are guilty of playing the masked troll, drinking from the painful tears of victims too green to fight us back, but when it gets to the point where it becomes habitual, it makes you into something else altogether.

If you want to see gamers at their lowest, even in a public place, train an above-average looking girl to be a badass player and then have her enter EVO (major Street Fighter Tournament) and then go watch her compete on any internet stream. You think big, muscular jocks are douchebags? No sir, you have it quite wrong, douchebags can have long neck beards, a gut, body odor and wicked combo skills on fighting games all the same. The commentary and text on those streams will learn you, yes siree they will learn you good!

Fight Back or Nothing Will Change!

Like with other forms of bullying I always say that the victims ought to clap back at their aggressors (but in an effective way, not senseless arguing).

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At the root of offensive jokes and hateful comments there is a loser looking for attention or laughter from other men who are too weak or afraid to be called a “white knight” to step up. If you are a woman, at a gaming tournament, who gets chewed out by one of these social pariahs, you should absolutely take the opportunity to rip his head off and throw it at the screen. The nerds would absolutely worship you for it.

Too often do women that self-identify as nerds worry for being seen as a bitch if they fight back against the worst of our male members. You won’t be a bitch; you will be an example of someone who doesn’t stand for being disrespected.

For X-Box bullies and PlayStation haters who dole out abuse and harassment liberally just because they’re anonymous, the gals over at Fat, Ugly or Slutty have found a great solution… EXPOSURE! To this great point this is why I felt the need to resurrect this topic of racist and misogynistic nerds – it needs to be exposed. It needs to be beaten into the ground until the majority of mature gamers who want no association with these guys stop supporting their tournaments, stop playing with them on servers and mute their asses into oblivion until it is the good minority who represents our culture and not them.

“All that is necessary for evil to triumph is for good men to do nothing” – Edmund Burke

The time for playing nice with bullies is over my dear readers and this goes to every corner of the world, even the digital gaming one. Stand up for yourselves and if the nerd rushes at you, then kick him in the nuts (just kidding). Thanks for reading.

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  • Just found this gem on another site detailing a project about this very topic being conducted by Anita Sarkeesian. Check out the quote and the link below… it’s amazing how much support she is recieving and not surprisingly the threats and harassment from the usual suspects!

    “As a gamer, a pop culture critic and a fan, I’m always working to balance my enjoyment of media while simultaneously being critical of problematic gender representations. With my video web series Feminist Frequency, I look at the way women are portrayed in mass media and the impact they have on our culture and society.”