Mar 14

Since pretty much forever, there’s been all types of people. Some skinny, some fit, some with a little extra, some straight up fat. As the centuries have progressed, that last group has been increasing its numbers. Now that a lot of us sit in comfy chairs all day and eat our food from packages, it’s pretty easy to understand how there’s just more fat people around in general. Up until recently there’s really been no change in how fat people are viewed. So lets see, usually when you see some extra heavy person walking around, there’s certain things that go through the average mind. Some of those may be “lazy”, “lacks self control”, or even a simple “gross”. Hey guess what? those are valid thoughts. They’re not universally true of course, but they’re about as true as seeing a fit person and thinking “active”, “self… [Read more]

Feb 10

There’s a lot to be said about hustling. You will find that a lot of “hustlers” brag on their ability to take a beating and “do what it takes,” but is that something to brag about? Their life is not really enviable, is it? It’s not enough to hustle, just like it’s not enough to be self-employed. – which people brag about quite a bit. Speaking from experience, a good number of people who brag about having their own thing are not doing as well as they would have you believe. Remember, entrepreneurship is a lonely journey. After several years of writing my own checks and grinding out 12 hour workdays, the idea of “being my own boss,” paled in comparison to the idea of “getting out.” I never bragged about my hustling but I know that a lot of people envied me for “setting my own… [Read more]

Nov 24

The other day I thought to myself, how do you know when someone is a friend? How do you differentiate between a friend and someone who finds you useful and convenient? This was a tough question and while many people have varying answers to it, I boiled mine down to scenarios. A friend will come to help you even when they lack the resources and means to. A fine example that I can refer to is my nightmarish moving days when I tried to do it solo and a random friend would pop up to help. While you may see this as trivial, you have to consider the full story. I had given out ample notice that I would need help moving at x date yet everyone who promised help couldn’t attend. I’ve had this happen three times in my life and all three times, three… [Read more]

Nov 09

Many of us have had ideas that we wanted to turn into reality. Most of us sit on it, tell everyone we know about it, and let it drift off into the clouds of “what-ifs”. We are satisfied that everyone either said it was a good idea, or give up after learning that it has already been invented. Then there are those strange folks who think of things, build them, and then fly overseas with little else but a dream in order to get a factory to manufacture it… Most of us don’t know too many people like this but guess what? I got to sit down with one of these crazy people in order to pick their brains on what it takes to bring an idea into reality. It was a late night when I visited Master Hoon Park’s dojo “J Park Martial Arts”… [Read more]

Oct 28

I happened upon an article that happened to hold some excerpts that hold the claim to assist in understanding the male brain. I tentatively clicked on this article, wondering what would be found within. Would there be some meaningful insights that would shape the way that I would from here on in understand men?? I would not. Dr. Eric Haseltine, author of Users Manual for the Male Brain posits a theory and then a practical application for understanding the male brain. Theory: The male brain is better at spatial tasks, such as visualizing objects in three dimensions, than verbal tasks, such as recalling words. Practical Application: Explain difficult concepts—like why it’s important to keep the house neat—in visual terms, not verbal terms. Better still, show what you mean, don’t say it. For example, illustrate the benefits of tidiness by going to the other extreme. Scatter… [Read more]

Oct 26

While the contents of this post are very factual, this article is meant to be taken in a lighthearted manner. So if you do not have your sense of humor cap on today then kindly keep it moving. Without further adieu, I present to you the way to a man’s heart from A-Z: Adventurous: Most men want to travel, want to try new things and want to play “dress up” for sex but WE ARE LAZY! We need a soul mate to push us over the edge and expose that side of our spirit. Beauty: A man may not compliment you every time you change your hair color or your shoes, the fact of the matter is he does appreciate the extra effort on your part to be beautiful. Cleanliness: Sugar and spice and everything nice – most men believe women should be the clean/neat… [Read more]

Oct 12

Author’s note: Recently I did an article for fellow author Mark Gardner’s website. He gave me carte blanche to write about anything and I chose to talk about diversity in books (primarily Science Fiction). Here’s an excerpt and link to the actual article: One of the biggest praises I get from men when it comes to my books is that I write men to be authentic of who we are. You would think that being a man would make this automatic, but I read a lot of books written by men where the male characters are stereotypes as opposed to what you would find in a real person. My portrayal of men comes from a long history as a relationship blogger. When you’ve been forced to dissect why your gender does certain things—and behave certain ways—for as long as I have, you will find that… [Read more]

Oct 02

With the campaigning starting we are seeing the pandering beginning already. Seeing someone running that is outside the “norm” brings forth issues concerning “ism’s” again. With Obama, racism was brought up and questioned on its overt or subversive nature. And now with Clinton re-entering the fray questions of sexism and a glass ceiling are floating around. This is not an issue about candidates; this is simply about what is and what isn’t evident. Just as many people would stake claims that racism is over, they like to say that sexism is over as well. Sorry, but that just is not the case. Sexism, ideals regarding what men and women are capable of and should be able to do. Simone de Beavoir, author of The Second Sex (1949) is such a foundational piece in the women’s rights movement and feminism. “Representation of the world, like the… [Read more]