When a man talks about sex in a slang-sense to his fellow man (or on blogs) you will find that most of our terms sound like something you would do to someone you hate as opposed to someone you aim to pleasure. The reason for this is because men with all of our pragmatic, graphic thinking, normally refer to the act of the penis entering the vagina (or other orifice) and not the entire act of love-making. Women who see the big picture of foreplay – intercourse – climax – spooning have no doubt overheard men talking and got the wrong idea… 3 examples of violent terms used for sex by American males: Phrase: “I beat it up!” or “I beat that little thing up!” Meaning: The “thing” that is getting beat up is the vagina, not the woman and the beating is a pleasant beating because “beating it up” comes with the supposition that… [Read more]

I would like to share my thoughts on a book referred to me by one of our Lady Dragons: Cherry Tigris. The book entitled Toilet Paper People is a quick read but has such a strong message that I found myself thinking about it weeks after finishing it. Toilet Paper People is about a form of bullying that cannot be remedied by telling your parents, fighting back or even standing up for yourself; the type of bullying that I am referring to is that of a parent bullying a child. Many of us remember the 1981 movie Mommie Dearest where a popular actress was shown to be a psychotic child-abuser behind closed doors. The movie was entertaining and shocking for its time, leading to many quotables and memories of the onscreen antics of Faye Dunaway portraying the film queen Joan Crawford as she beat her little girl with wire hangers and competed with her in the… [Read more]

Aqua Bar and Grille 813.675.8700 7627 Courtney Campbell Causeway, Tampa, Florida 33607 THE WESTIN TAMPA BAY aquabarandgrille.com Primarily a seafood restaurant, the name speaks for itself. Set inside the Westin Hotel on the water of Tampa Bay, Aqua has beautiful scenery both inside and outside of the restaurant. Walking in the first thing you notice is the low green lighting which slowly changes to a clear marine blue. The color change adds the necessary ambiance to impress a first date, as well as the fun lighting for happy hour with your coworkers. The service at Aqua is very good when you are sitting in the dining room. The staff is very attentive and knowledgeable about the wine list. All three times I visited they were able to help me select a perfect wine with my meal choices. The food is divine down to the bread and honey butter they serve with every meal. I recommend… [Read more]

One of our Lady Dragons brought up the subject of dating a blogger to me and I thought that it would be best to discuss it in an article as opposed to Twitter where it originated. She had read on another space that us opinionated writer types were a bit of a bear to date for one reason or another which gave me pause but I thought about it and there may be some validity in that claim. The main issue of course is jealousy (female readers can be verbal about their appreciation of you, and some girlfriends don’t like it). The other thing is time, many of us are workaholics who write whenever we aren’t working. Then you have the guys that write about their lives – whoa, now that should give any woman a complex. Good looking male bloggers who reveal themselves at seminars, via video blogging, podcasting, about me sections or whatever… [Read more]

On its surface intramural sports for grown men seems like the perfect opportunity to get in shape, bond with a couple guys and praise the gods with the spirit of competition. Well it may be these things if you play in a league of friends who all know and respect one another but for the standard leagues that you will join it is not. My experience with intramural sports having done it for both basketball and football is that there are 3 types of people who come out to play against you. The first is the dad who wants an excuse to run around in hopes of losing his beer gut, the second is the ex-athlete that misses the game and the third (who ruins It for every one) is the never-was, the once-was or the wannabe. This third player is a guy who is either disillusioned that anyone outside of his screaming wife cares… [Read more]

Dating can be fun but many times after what you thought was an awesome first date, you are stuck wondering why your phone calls aren’t being answered or the person’s profile (for you online daters) is no longer viewable. To help you understand what it is that you may have done to lose that perfect date, we have made a list of secondary red flags that people see that aren’t as popular as the typical stuff. You know the standard flags of: bad hygiene, being rude to waiters, texting or using the cellphone, not really listening but waiting to talk, those type of things. Check out the list of innocent red flags and if you’ve been guilty of one in the past, you may want to reconsider doing it on future first dates. 10 things that may impact your first date negatively: 1. Admitting that you are only attracted to her because of her nerdiness… [Read more]

Many of you will read the title of this article and be immediately put off by the word “bitch” which is one of those hot button words that gets people fired up; so I must warn you that I will be using the word continuously throughout this article so if you’re offended by it I would encourage you to read any of our other wonderful articles that do not contain the word and spare yourself the trauma. I wrote this to point out to men that there is a difference between someone who hates them and someone who is just aggressive and tough by nature. I believe that a lot of men are missing out on wonderful women due to the fact that they misjudge the strong for being something that they’re not. When it comes to hating men, the term is misandry but we wont be using that word because I want everyone to… [Read more]

“The End is important in all things” – Yamamoto Tsunetomo (Hagakure) In this great pursuit of the good life, I think that one of my biggest fears is that I will get to that big apple in the sky and forget why it is I sought it out in the first place. Something about the grind, the ups and downs, and the people that we meet has a way of twisting and changing our course to where we end up old, lacking focus and only knowing how to seek for more. This is a depressing end to a journey isn’t it? You see epic movies and stories like Lord of The Rings, where an end goal is stated and fought for and in the end when the heroes have achieved it, they gather around, raise their tankards and breathe out in relief of having thwarted that danger, defeated that grand dragon or rescued the fair… [Read more]