Jun 25

In a memorable episode of AMC’s Mad Men the leading man Don Draper ran into his ex-wife (pun intended) at a location where her husband and his wife weren’t in attendance. Scandalous? Sure It is, but realistic? A bit more than we would like to admit. I have always felt that matters of the heart are one thing but sex is in its own category of things. When we have broken the barrier of nakedness and sex with a partner, rekindling those old flames to “jump right back in there” tends to not feel as taboo as it should for us, now does it? This is the main reason why I had to tell my long lost beauty of a college sweetheart goodbye when I settled down with the woman of my life. I knew that if she was anywhere within reach, horny, and trying me – chances… [Read more]

Jun 24

Okay, I don’t normally issue warnings when I write would-be offensive material but I am issuing one right now. People for whatever reason love to associate themselves with others that are being called out, and I am more than sure you readers will do the same. If you are a complainer, or an “activist” in name only, that looks for things to be pissed about so that you can post, hashtag, or appropriate for the sole reason of playing the part of victim then you should be offended by what I am about to say. If you are a person who points out social injustice, offers up solutions, or actively does things to make a change (besides “bringing awareness to it” #rollseyes) then you have no reason to be offended. With that being said you have been warned. A complaint about our modern culture of complaint Am… [Read more]

Jun 23

Maybe I’m odd, but I can honestly say I have never looked at another woman and wanted to copy or steal her look. Sure, I see women from time to time and give them a mental thumbs-up for on-point fashion sense, but I’ve never wanted to take a picture so I can transform myself into a carbon copy of any of those women.  When I express this to my female relatives and friends, they tend to look at me with slightly raised eyebrows. They think I’m not telling the truth. I hear things like “Come on, Dani…you mean to tell me you’ve never ripped off someone’s look?” And because of this cliché response that I get from them, I’ve come to realize that it is a common and prevalent thing for women to imitate each other’s appearance/style. Despite it being a common occurrence, I still… [Read more]

Jun 18

Men, do you have a career deal breaker when it comes to your dating? If not, why don’t you? It’s a rhetorical question really, being that I know for a fact that we still think in a traditional sense when it comes to a mate and what he/she brings to the table. There is still pressure on the male to have ambition, have a career, and have money, but as men our pressure on women still goes toward the physical, ie: stay skinny, be pretty, don’t annoy me. Why is it that we aren’t looking for our mates to have a career that is deemed “respectable”, and why aren’t we saying things like “a woman that does (insert job) is not a woman that I want to date”? It has been perfectly okay for women to proudly proclaim that they don’t date “(insert job)”, so… [Read more]

Jun 16

We’re slowly approaching a dark time on the sports calendar. Both the NBA and NHL season just concluded, football is still a few months away, and the MLB season takes reign as the only sport to watch during the dog days of summer. Hell, you can even throw in the fact that the latest Game of Thrones season has just ended too. But there is a saving grace that occurs every 4 years that saves us from those dark times. That saving grace is the 2014 FIFA World Cup in the host country of Brazil.  So you’re probably thinking that “Americans still don’t genuinely care about soccer.” You’re absolutely right. The general consensus has remained and still remains that America pretends to embrace the World Cup every 4 years. But it’s difficult to ignore all the hoopla of a sports tournament that’s so influential on a global level. During the month… [Read more]

Jun 14

Well it’s Father’s Day weekend (as of this writing), and I have a new book out… You DO see where I am going with this right? In my new book Lady Hellgate, the lead character “Helga”, is influenced by her father and various father figures throughout her military career. Fathers have been the topic of many discussions throughout the media but more “spoken of”, versus “spoken to”.  I would love to add something positive to the climate by putting together a few responses from real dads about how they love fatherhood. But I wouldn’t just ask… I know better. How about I give you some good reading in exchange for your voice? Here’s an excerpt from Lady Hellgate: The dark man in white stood up suddenly and touched Helga’s arm with the rod. It was cold to the touch and it made her happy. She was no longer… [Read more]

Jun 11

How can you tell a disciplined person at first glance? Is it the way they carry themselves? The way they walk, talk, work? It is an interesting question being that we assume that we can get this insight from conducting job interviews, playing golf or cards with someone, or just inviting them to lunch for some small talk. There are many hints into a person’s discipline, but they can be hard to differentiate from quirks, compulsive motives, or habit. We can look at a bodybuilder and assume that the hard work and dedication he/she put into gaining a muscular body is a sign of a person that can make a goal and stay the course to attain it. Similarly we can look at a person that is an “other” in their career path, assume that they had to be twice as good to get there… [Read more]

Jun 09

Male and female relations in a general sense are not unlike race relations… It’s very important for a single male to keep female friends and attractive women who are genuinely good people are an absolute necessity. Why? Well, as a single man going through life it can become very easy to see women as an alien race with feel-good cookies that are only available if you can get past their defenses. Much of this thought process comes from the many toxic women that we come across in life and if a man has no balance—like a good female friend—it can be very easy to go down a dark path. Consider a day when you—the standard male with no female friends—goes to work and sits in a meeting where you are being liberally harassed sexually by female coworkers. In the back of your mind you check their privilege,… [Read more]