Jul 01
man with woman

“I promise you that this is not about cat calls” Many of us have been guilty of staying in a woman’s face even when we know that she isn’t going to be open to any of our advances. It’s a nervous tick that puts us at the mercy of a woman for fear of seeming rude, or mean for our actions. But is it rude, or “mean” to politely break a conversation to attend to something else? Men will show up late to work, miss a bus, or any number of things just because a pretty girl was holding court on a subject he could care less about. It’s true–pretty women are magnets to unsure men–and a man doesn’t have to be shy to be guilty of this. Some men are jerks and will cut a woman off just because there is some small pleasure in having the… [Read more]

Jun 30

Recently, I sat watching one of Tyler Perry’s older plays on DVD with a girlfriend of mine. This particular play starred two brothers who, by general female standards, would be considered “hot.” One of them was actor Christian Keyes; the other, actor/model Ryan Gentles. Almost every time a particular scene in the play involved Christian Keyes, my girlfriend would bite her lips and say to me “Ooooo girl, he is fine! He can get it!” Even my Mom, who was visiting for the weekend, passed by the TV, took a look at him and said “Now that’s a handsome young man!” As my Mom and friend fawned over Mr. Keyes, my thoughts drifted off in another direction, and pretty soon I wasn’t paying attention to the play any more. I began to think about my preferences when it came to a man’s physical appearance, and… [Read more]

Jun 25

In a memorable episode of AMC’s Mad Men the leading man Don Draper ran into his ex-wife (pun intended) at a location where her husband and his wife weren’t in attendance. Scandalous? Sure It is, but realistic? A bit more than we would like to admit. I have always felt that matters of the heart are one thing but sex is in its own category of things. When we have broken the barrier of nakedness and sex with a partner, rekindling those old flames to “jump right back in there” tends to not feel as taboo as it should for us, now does it? This is the main reason why I had to tell my long lost beauty of a college sweetheart goodbye when I settled down with the woman of my life. I knew that if she was anywhere within reach, horny, and trying me – chances… [Read more]

Jun 24

Okay, I don’t normally issue warnings when I write would-be offensive material but I am issuing one right now. People for whatever reason love to associate themselves with others that are being called out, and I am more than sure you readers will do the same. If you are a complainer, or an “activist” in name only, that looks for things to be pissed about so that you can post, hashtag, or appropriate for the sole reason of playing the part of victim then you should be offended by what I am about to say. If you are a person who points out social injustice, offers up solutions, or actively does things to make a change (besides “bringing awareness to it” #rollseyes) then you have no reason to be offended. With that being said you have been warned. A complaint about our modern culture of complaint Am… [Read more]

Jun 23

Maybe I’m odd, but I can honestly say I have never looked at another woman and wanted to copy or steal her look. Sure, I see women from time to time and give them a mental thumbs-up for on-point fashion sense, but I’ve never wanted to take a picture so I can transform myself into a carbon copy of any of those women.  When I express this to my female relatives and friends, they tend to look at me with slightly raised eyebrows. They think I’m not telling the truth. I hear things like “Come on, Dani…you mean to tell me you’ve never ripped off someone’s look?” And because of this cliché response that I get from them, I’ve come to realize that it is a common and prevalent thing for women to imitate each other’s appearance/style. Despite it being a common occurrence, I still… [Read more]

Jun 18

Men, do you have a career deal breaker when it comes to your dating? If not, why don’t you? It’s a rhetorical question really, being that I know for a fact that we still think in a traditional sense when it comes to a mate and what he/she brings to the table. There is still pressure on the male to have ambition, have a career, and have money, but as men our pressure on women still goes toward the physical, ie: stay skinny, be pretty, don’t annoy me. Why is it that we aren’t looking for our mates to have a career that is deemed “respectable”, and why aren’t we saying things like “a woman that does (insert job) is not a woman that I want to date”? It has been perfectly okay for women to proudly proclaim that they don’t date “(insert job)”, so… [Read more]

Jun 16

We’re slowly approaching a dark time on the sports calendar. Both the NBA and NHL season just concluded, football is still a few months away, and the MLB season takes reign as the only sport to watch during the dog days of summer. Hell, you can even throw in the fact that the latest Game of Thrones season has just ended too. But there is a saving grace that occurs every 4 years that saves us from those dark times. That saving grace is the 2014 FIFA World Cup in the host country of Brazil.  So you’re probably thinking that “Americans still don’t genuinely care about soccer.” You’re absolutely right. The general consensus has remained and still remains that America pretends to embrace the World Cup every 4 years. But it’s difficult to ignore all the hoopla of a sports tournament that’s so influential on a global level. During the month… [Read more]

Jun 14

Well it’s Father’s Day weekend (as of this writing), and I have a new book out… You DO see where I am going with this right? In my new book Lady Hellgate, the lead character “Helga”, is influenced by her father and various father figures throughout her military career. Fathers have been the topic of many discussions throughout the media but more “spoken of”, versus “spoken to”.  I would love to add something positive to the climate by putting together a few responses from real dads about how they love fatherhood. But I wouldn’t just ask… I know better. How about I give you some good reading in exchange for your voice? Here’s an excerpt from Lady Hellgate: The dark man in white stood up suddenly and touched Helga’s arm with the rod. It was cold to the touch and it made her happy. She was no longer… [Read more]