Results For "assumptions"
Sep 27

Have you ever been out with a girl and she runs into her ex or another male friend, doesn’t introduce you, and the conversation turns into a lengthy one? Of course you have, we all have, but what did you do? Did you fidget, did you force an introduction, or did you make a scene? When this situation occurs, you can’t help but feel like a fool and you will either walk off to find something else to do, or stand there looking lonely and awkward. There is a way out of this awkward situation if you’re willing to listen, but it lies in the aspect of “becoming that guy” at the opportune moment. Normally a good girl will introduce you to the guy so that you aren’t left stranded, but some won’t remember and you will be left to fade into the background like a theater prop. If this is the… [Read more]

Jun 02
Happy couple kissing in park

“I always questioned why is it when I do my hair really nice, do my make-up all cute and wear flattering clothes … no men approach me, but when I just be kind of basic, wear jeans and a t-shirt, put my hair in a pony tail and wear little to no make up, guys seem to have more compliments for me.” – Dakota On a former article (Dear Dragon: Why Do Men Seem Intimidated By My Beauty), Dakota made the above comment which received quite a number of answers. One which struck a chord with me due to it’s familiarity: I want a girl that I can just relax with, someone who is chill and confident and knows that I like her the way she is, and someone who likes herself the way she is. If I see a girl who looks nice but… [Read more]

Jun 09

Male and female relations in a general sense are not unlike race relations… It’s very important for a single male to keep female friends and attractive women who are genuinely good people are an absolute necessity. Why? Well, as a single man going through life it can become very easy to see women as an alien race with feel-good cookies that are only available if you can get past their defenses. Much of this thought process comes from the many toxic women that we come across in life and if a man has no balance—like a good female friend—it can be very easy to go down a dark path. Consider a day when you—the standard male with no female friends—goes to work and sits in a meeting where you are being liberally harassed sexually by female coworkers. In the back of your mind you check their privilege,… [Read more]

Oct 01

I don’t think that it is a bad thing for a man or woman to fade away from someone that they have been on one or two dates with. The beginning phase of dating is still a “getting to know you” period and while an overly invested person will dislike the split, you are still strangers with no attachment to one another. Almost daily I come across articles where men are being called cowards, mean, evil, and many other names for disappearing after date number 2 or 3. Usually these names are being hurled by women that have dated men, assumed that things were great (assumption is a common theme) and then get upset when that perfect guy stopped communicating. The last time that I was on The Love Jones Experience we discussed this very topic and myself and author Pamela Antoinette Lordette both agreed… [Read more]

Sep 19

Ladies, how well do you know us men? Are you guilty of the base assumptions that we all want to run around unwashed, play video games and sleep with anything that lets us? Do you see us on a deeper level, one mired in the traditions of the guys that get portrayed in movies, books and other media? Well the following points are some things that you may or may not know about us. Sure every man is different in his own way, but I would be willing to bet that most (outside of #2) are guilty of the following: 1. We Like What We Like Almost daily I read articles by women that somehow feel that putting down a sad story in blog form will convert the men that continue to ignore them into changing their minds. Many men are stubborn and while you… [Read more]

May 21

As we become more vocal about our needs, wants, and humanity, a lot of things that have been stereotyped as the norm for us have been proven otherwise and it is blowing women’s minds. One of these “things” happens to be the stereotype that all men are sex-craved animals. Some women get into marriages assuming that they can use their Mountain of Venus as a bargaining chip, a reward for hubby washing the car, mowing the lawn, or any number of other chores; but chances are nowadays that hubby ends up barely being in the mood to begin with. What comes of this is a woman desperately seeking answers to the lack of sex-drive that her man seems to have and then the accusations begin to fly… Does he have another woman, is he obsessed with porn (you gotta love this one), is he drinking… [Read more]

Apr 30

As a grown man who loves music there may be times when your instinct is to dress according to the musical culture as opposed to the safe boundaries of “grown folks” gear. We’ve all seen it… and we have all judged the man based on his clothes. You know exactly what I am talking about; men in sideways caps and jerseys, old 80’s rocker t-shirts, wife-beaters… I can keep going. See the problem with dressing this way is that you are expected to do a bit better than follow “the wave” as a confident man. Some old-school rappers still dress a certain way but even though it represents the culture, and is expected of them, it still looks childish to anyone on the outside looking in. This is why we stress a time and a place for your wardrobe. Clothing for the metro-man is like armor for… [Read more]

Feb 21

I recall the blissful days of youth when there were 3 levels of rejection to get through in order to score a girlfriend. 1st – you had to ask her out somewhere… to a movie, good eats, or for a walk – it didn’t matter. The point was that she was given a question, you were left to her mercy in accepting and it was an uncertain outcome. 2nd – you had to ask her out again… depending on how well you clicked in the first date or if you were lucky to have been liked way before all of this the answer was again a gamble but this was the sweet point. See scoring date #2 normally means that there is a chance, and if you’re really vibing she may even let you kiss her at the end. 3rd – you have to ask her to… [Read more]