Results For "attitudes"
Sep 11
dragon bites

We’re not only writers; we’re readers and below are some of the highlights of the past few weeks that we wish to share: What it’s like to be addicted to sex “Why am I like this?” is the most common question I encounter, as a sex researcher working with hypersexual men. Problems with pornography and cheating have had severely detrimental effects on their lives and they are desperate for a solution. After ruling out bipolar disorder or borderline personality disorder as the underlying condition (as high-frequency sexual behaviour is a common symptom of these disorders), this is what I have found. (The Independent) Does A Man Have To Plan Everything While Dating? A lady I follow on Twitter whose ideas I usually am in agreement with got me scratching my head. The basis of her series of tweets was that if a man approaches her… [Read more]

Jan 16

When CNN recently cornered Chairman of Gun Appreciation Day Larry Ward to ask him why his event conflicted with Martin Luther King Jr. Day he made the statement: “I think Martin Luther King, Jr. would agree with me if he were alive today that if African Americans had been given the right to keep and bear arms from day one of the country’s founding, perhaps slavery might not have been a chapter in our history.” While I want to chalk this statement up to being careless trolling, the teacher in me wishes to correct him and any others who think like him on this sentiment. First of all to say that arming the slaves would have prevented slavery is a careless fantasy at best and secondly I wish that people would treat the narrative of American black slavery with the same reverence they do with… [Read more]

Aug 14
black woman thinking

Reading the articles and general attitudes of the single women in the Washington DC area it seems that the search for a good, successful, single man is done out of want for a status symbol as opposed to a loving mate. Ladies correct me if I am completely off base with this but what would you assume if a man was to write the following inquiry from a place where women are scarce: “I have everything a woman could ask for around here; I have a new Benz, a plush apartment, all my teeth, a Doctorate, AND I’m about to make partner! Why are all the good girls around here acting as if they’re gold that I can’t afford?” I’m going to go out on a limb and say that question would put you on the defensive even without me having to name the area,… [Read more]

Jun 30

A man’s perception of the dating game is this: Any woman can walk outside, trip, fall and land on a penis (slang translation: there are so many men desperate for women that no effort is needed by a woman to get a man). While this is crass, It does truthfully reveal how we think when it comes to women and dating. Part of the reason is because we see so many desperate “good” men settling on low value women. We’ve also seen women turn down men in our lives (that we know are good men) then complain about a lack of good men to date.   The problem with our assuming that women can have whatever they want is that it is a male’s perspective. Women in reality tend to be picky about their mates while men are quantity over quality. Give a woman a hundred guys and she will turn… [Read more]

Mar 23

So you’re dating an artist and everything has been lovely so far. He calls you daily; he’s drawn your beautiful face, sculpted your bust and has written a song that led to you riding him for dear life after you stopped crying. But the honeymoon period is slowing down, your nosy friends are starting to talk and your bank account is revealing that things are different with this guy than the stiff lawyer that you used to date. Sure you love the way that life slows down when you are in his company but you don’t really love the way that you’re picking up the tab on most of your luxurious dinner dates. You begin to wonder at the future, if there is a future and will this man ever have the means to pay his part and more. The answer to this question is… [Read more]

Mar 14

My name is Greg Dragon and I have Alpha Privelege. Having said that, you readers may be wondering what I mean by alpha privilege. Well alpha privilege is a state of being in a place where you are the least likely to get tried by anyone to fight and being the most likely to be picked by a woman for relations. While I do not claim to have both of these attributes, I will say that more often than not people back down from me if i am imposing enough and I have not had many issues with getting in relationships. Most guys won’t admit to having alpha privilege just like most men won’t admit to having male privilege. Denying one’s privilege seems to stem from the attitude that having privilege and admitting to it means that somehow you are cheating the game or you… [Read more]

Mar 07

Recently I joined a bunch of friends in starting an intramural flag football team. We’ve been playing for some weeks now and I’ve started to notice a strange parallel between an intramural team and starting a small business with partners. The parallel is so solid that it’s almost scary, because like an intramural team everyone goes into a business with big thoughts, big plans and they see the end goal moreso than they see the reality of what it will take to get that end goal. When you join an intramural team you start to reminisce on being 18 or 21 years old and in the best shape of your life: rebounding hard, jumping to catch passes, falling and tumbling without regard to your body, knowing that injuries will heal no matter what. Yet when you go out there as an older man and you… [Read more]

Jun 08

There is a social dilemma in the black community, brought to light by blogs, news stories and opportunistic authors looking for sales. The dilemma is an ongoing meme that there are no black men for black women and that the women themselves are practically unlovable with the bad attitudes and high expectations of the professional thug/ ball player who stands over 6ft tall and can blow her back out with his super penis while keeping her draped in diamonds with his super bank account. This stereotype is there for a reason (bare with me), it is constructed from many experiences with the wrong kind of black woman and has made itself the avatar of what a black woman in the dating world is. Who are these women, and why are they so bad? Most of us men go for ass over class, looks over books… [Read more]