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As a woman, having and keeping female friends is one of the hardest things in the world. Well at least for me women are very hard to get along with. It’s a constant losing battle. I’ve done a lot of scary things in my lifetime – driving a car at high speeds, starting a business, approaching authority figures, dealing with death and crying over heartbreak; I’ve dealt with ALL of that. Yet nothing has scared me as much as female friends. Which is sad because it’s nice to have female friends with whom you can share your life with and bitch about men to (men need to accept that all girls do it… just like you all share sexual conquests with each other about us :p). The fact is that having female friends is a nightmare. Women are FABULOUS for relationships but a complete nightmare for friendships. Too bad that i fancy men and only… [Read more]

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A while ago we spoke on the hardship that beautiful women face in society from other women and men who lack balls. Well one of the most unspoken issues amongst men is that we too have a bit of that going on. Being a good looking guy is paralleled with being unmanlike, weak and at times it can even be dangerous (prison). I had a buddy named Girard, he was probably one of the nicest people I’ve ever known in life…  He was so morally good that being around him day to day just made you realize how corrupt and foul the world has made you. And it was genuine goodness, no religious posturing and no legacy or reputation to uphold, he was just a good guy. So for Girard to whore around or play the field it was damn near an impossibility, but damn if he didn’t have more chances than 50 guys combined…. [Read more]

I couldn’t find a better way to express two very rigid stereotypes of woman than that of the Man Eater vs The Shy Girl. There’s a common belief in our society which is that of the Madonna vs The Whore and it plays out in every situation that i’ve seen. It’s no wonder men have become partially schizophrenic; they are constantly told to respect the women that they are related to and treat the rest as sexual beings. I mean, we’re all women – right?! Talk about confusion! I have come across The Shy Girl many, many times… I know her well. Once upon a time (about 300 years ago) I was a shy girl that was embarassed to express my opinions. Looking back on it, I was the polar opposite of myself now. Back then talking to a boy was hard, let alone carrying on a full conversation with him! There’s nothing wrong with… [Read more]

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I am about tired of these commercials, not because of the underlying clueless racism in them, but the fact that they are tired and very late to the party. Last year (2010) it was open season on black women as blogs and the media took to task the “solving” of the black woman’s single problem. Every single day on “black blogs” there was post after post bemoaning the plight of these women in their single-hood, while an underlying and sometimes well hidden insult was  being ushered against the black male. This was black people attacking black people about a problem that isn’t exclusively black – but let them tell it. From the war that ensued between the successful  but single women and the “relationship experts” who chose to capitalize on it their rose the image of the bitter black bitch. Who is The Bitter Black Bitch? Well turn on your television and you won’t have… [Read more]

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I’ve been guilty of this several times over until recently when I made a promise to refrain from doing so in the future. The reason I came to this decision is because the act of talking bad on one’s ex is akin to whining and a gentleman does not whine, he deals and overcomes. For what it’s worth my exes haven’t been THAT bad, not enough to warrant discussion beyond how we met and why we split. To be honest we all owe our exes a degree of gratitude (unless they were cancerous to your soul). Our exes helped us grow into who we are today, like it or not this is a fact. Talking about your ex could also clue your current in on the fact that you aren’t fully over her. To discuss someone is to have them on one’s mind and it may not be the best hand to show when idle… [Read more]

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Here I thought that Gangs started in prison, the streets and other places of harsh realities. Who would’ve thought that sending your kid to a University may get him beaten, branded and raped (allegedly)!? I have never understood fraternities, while in the business world and life their members may tout all the wonderful things they do in society, the kids in the University system paint a very different picture.  When I was in school all I saw of Fraternities was a collective of guys throwing signs, stomping around, barking and being drunkenly obnoxious. The Sororities weren’t much different as more than a few women that “crossed the line” turned into completely different creatures after donning the mantle. It’s obviously a form of tribal fellowship that isn’t meant to be understood by us outsiders. I get that, which is why I have always reserved judgment on their practices, it’s their thing. On another site a brave… [Read more]

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I think I should start this article by saying this is primarily my advice for single people. It might apply to people dating/married but I tend to think if it did, it would be to a lesser degree. Ok so single people out there, sometimes in life we get to deal with annoying little reminders that we’re single and everyone else isn’t (or so it seems). One of the best reminders is when an ex gets married. Not only were you not good enough for the long term, but they found someone who was. One of the biggest temptations a person can have, or so I’ve experienced, is to hate on your ex. I know everybody is different, and hell some people are bff’s with their exes, but I think it’s time to cover some ground rules for this occasion. Some of the temptations will creep in to tell the person off and explain how… [Read more]

I read a lot of stories from supposedly single women on how they have trouble attracting men. To men who read or hear this we are oft times bewildered as to how and why. The more experienced dater will assume its due to bitchiness, a personality trait or unapproachable behavior. While this is the cause for a lot of guys refusing to step to a woman, the fact of the matter is that a lot of women just don’t know how to show availability. What Men Look For As Safe Openings Body language is as equally important as speech. I am sure you have heard that a million times over but it is true. As a harsh example, if you try talking to someone with your arms crossed and legs in a ready position, it will come across as aggressive. An approachable woman can have a genuine smile that draws you in, if she doesn’t… [Read more]