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Aug 31
stressed out single mother with baby

Editor’s Note: It seems like every time I go on a mommy website these days there are tips for scheduling your day, weekly menus, to daycare or not to daycare, or managing your adult life with your children. While these are all great tips, I never see anything about help for dealing with all of those decisions when they take a toll on your sanity to a point of self-medication. We all have a hard day now and then, and some of us just want to decompress on the couch when the kids go to sleep. But there are others, quite a few I might add, who put them to bed and say the cliché “I need a drink”. AND they mean it whole-heartedly. This is a telltale sign of the parent struggling with keeping it together while raising little people who watch their every… [Read more]

May 29
Scene from A clockwork Orange - Alex and Gang beat up a homeless man

On one of the writing forums that I frequent, a female member asked if the popular trope of men being at odds and fighting it out before become best friends is a real one. Quite a number of men chimed in—myself included—and we let her know that it’s unrealistic. As men, we seek out other men of like interests, and we meet our comrades doing things that we love. Violence is rarely a good cause and effect of positivity in a young person’s life. The friends that I fought in High School were already friends and the beat down to establish respect is a little different from our topic today, which is bullying and the misconceptions we have of it. Coming up we have all witnessed bullying, and many of us remember sitting back tight-lipped about it wondering: Why doesn’t the kid just fight back… [Read more]

Dec 12
Father playing with a baby at the beach

  “I have always been the one to carry the weight of this family/relationship. I work, and solely provide the support to sustain our household. He just finished school and aspires to be a career athlete and absolutely refuses to function in a typical work setting or “settle” for a 9-5 job.” – letter to me from a Lady Dragon If it’s one thing you realize when you grow up–I mean truly grow up–is that you were one bullheaded, young fool at one time. You thought you had it all figured out, and that your opinion on things would never waver.  Good girls came and went, but you were looking to smash (you’ll just find another one…when it’s time). Smash em, and smash em, and smash em all. SMASH, SMASH, SMASH, SMASH, SMASH, howl at the moon, and smash some more! That’s how we do… [Read more]

Apr 14

While studies may suggest a link between selfie-taking and mental illness, my experience has been anything but detrimental to my mental health. I would hazard to guess that many people who experience PTSD find selfie-taking a healing, rather than damaging activity. When growing up, I was discouraged from looking in the mirror and, as a result, was not able to identify with myself in ways that most children took for granted. I did not have pictures of birthday parties or other happy moments to refer back to. These kinds of pictures were simply not available to me. As a result, I grew up lacking a key foundational element in my development… | Read the rest at Toilet Paper People |

Dec 09

There is this new surge of effort going on to make Computer Programming a more popular choice for kids instead of the default ones that are out there (doctor, lawyer, police officer).  Part of the reason for this push seems to be our society’s rush to embrace tech, but the technicians (we nerdy, builder types) remaining a relative mystery to the world. This makes the philosophers of our time worried that little baby Steve Huffman’s are missing out on their programming goals due to being ignorant of the fact that there is no magical hamster inside of their computers. “If we want America to stay on the cutting edge, we need young Americans like you to master the tools and technology that will change how we do just about everything” – President Barack Obama Now we have presidential backed efforts to put Computer Science into school. Issue… [Read more]

Sep 09

I am often asked the question about what I would do if I won the lottery. Of course my answer is that I would give the large majority of it to The Toilet Paper People Foundation, a foundation created to serve child abuse victims in an attempt to give them new and creative futures outside of their abusive pasts. “Um, well once the damage is done to a kid, it’s kinda done isn’t it? Kids have plenty of opportunities that animals don’t.”Some well-intentioned people will ask me more questions of this nature until I have to wonder if it would have been more p.c. of me to have suggested I give the money to the Humane Society. In many cases question askers of this variety will go on in an attempt to discredit the already disenfranchised, “I mean, humans have more of an opportunity to… [Read more]