I recall the blissful days of youth when there were 3 levels of rejection to get through in order to score a girlfriend. 1st – you had to ask her out somewhere… to a movie, good eats, or for a walk – it didn’t matter. The point was that she was given a question, you were left to her mercy in accepting and it was an uncertain outcome. 2nd – you had to ask her out again… depending on how well you clicked in the first date or if you were lucky to have been liked way before all of this the answer was again a gamble but this was the sweet point. See scoring date #2 normally means that there is a chance, and if you’re really vibing she may even let you kiss her at the end. 3rd – you have to ask her to be your girl… If dating was a football game this… [Read more]

1. Lists for the sake of lists – Let’s start with the title of this very post because we are guilty of it here too sometimes on The Hall… we have lists, granted they are good lists but we try our best not to go overboard – I wish other sites would do the same. I won’t lie it is the easiest filler for days when we simply have nothing to talk about; just think about it. If you come up with nothing but lists for your magazine/blog then you will have an endless stream of content. Sadly there are spaces who make huge money off of advertising who use the “X something that XYZ” title on a majority of their posts. Readers I have to ask you are lists really that great for reading? 2. Posting pictures of dead bodies in tragedies – Lots of the big daddy blogs tend to do this foolishness… [Read more]

This was the feedback I received from a number of black women when I wrote a guest post about the positives in dating a tomboy. The women who responded seemed to come from 3 separate camps – those who genuinely liked the article, former tomboys who appreciated the article, and religious bigots who wanted to spin it into a “gays are running our Christian earth” type of thing. Here’s a quote from one of the responses that took my sexuality to task: Jo: “sooo, are you saying you’re bi or something? I’m sorry, but if you like a girl who acts like a man, hates other girls (or pretends that other girls except herself are “catty” is a HUGE sign of ugly insecurity and hypocrisy), likes beer and football and farting, well, guess what? You dont like a girl, you like a guy.” Thank goodness there were some sane folks in the commentary, one being… [Read more]

We’re not only writers, we’re readers and below are some of the highlights of the past few weeks that we wish to share: Sexism, Racism, And Swimming At The London 2012 Olympics - I’ve been a little taken aback this week at the level of racism against China in the British and US media, and on longer-than-usual comment threads on various friends’ Facebook walls. I mean, I know that racism in sport and in the media is nothing new… (Racialicious) What is Your Secret To Body Confidence? – Since body confidence comes from trusting and loving your body, it would make sense that I had none of it. Especially at that time in my life. I was geeky and weird. Way too transparent. Intellectually smart but dumb in common sense. (Frugivore) You Don’t Call Until You Want Something - Stop telling lies about being “so busy” all the time.  You can find the time to call someone… [Read more]

Hate on Chad Ochocinco all you want, it is good to see one NFL player who has managed to keep his nose clean, take up the mantle for common sense in the NFL. The wide-receiver recently shared with the world his 6 rules for keeping out of trouble and I had to re-post them here for our NFL fans to see. From Chad Ochocinco: It’s unfortunate that a lot of my peers have been getting into some serious trouble this off-season. What is it like 28 now? I have lost count. Thus, I figured I would share with you the 6 AFC and NFC acronyms I use to stay out of trouble. Excuse the Ebonics by the way, it is a more fun way to really express how I feel about this. ALCOHOL So you want to get wasted. The dumbest –ish you can do in 2012 is publicly party like it is 99. Mofos in… [Read more]

Why is it so hard to reason with a woman using common sense? Why doesn’t the girl you have a crush on see how perfect you’d be together? Why hasn’t the cutie who was all over you earlier called back? If you’ve ever asked yourself questions like these, you’re not alone. Most guys find women to be fickle; unreliable; irrational. They struggle to connect with the opposite sex.   Guys who do understand women and their emotions are rare. They find it easy to deal with moms; sisters; girlfriends. And if that wasn’t enough to get you jealous, they get a lot of female attention. If you’re interested in becoming one of those guys, read on. How A Woman Thinks The idea that girls think differently is weird, crass and offensive to many people. We live in a politically correct society where men and women are supposed to be the same. Recent research, however, shows… [Read more]

While to more intelligent women the title of this article seems like common sense, it will surprise you to know that many women actually believe that men lack feelings. Recently a popular blog I follow ran a poll asking its female readers whether or not they believed that men had feelings and emotions. When the results came back, it was heavily in favor of us lacking. The fact that women believe that we have no feelings explains alot about the manner in which we are treated on dates, in relationships and in everyday life. A woman will disrespect you on a date and keep the conversation coming right after without even missing a breath. A woman thinks that she gets a pass to do foul things to a man and have it be forgiven when she tries to get back with him after the split, all because she believes that he will get over it…. [Read more]

Dating is a game, and with that game comes a lot of misconceptions. One of those misconceptions is when women think that they are “getting over” when they get a free drink or dinner from a guy – then they break off contact or don’t give him the phone number. This concept can be illustrated in the following quote taken from an article written by a woman who was lamenting on why she doesn’t like “nice men”. “On the other hand, to women looking for a quick ego fix or just a free drink, nice guys read “sucker”. Nice guys are easy to take advantage of and score freebies from. You teach people how to treat you, so if you act insecure and needy, people (and that includes women) will treat you as such. Insecurity is a major turnoff.” This is the problem with SOME women (please take note that I did not say all… [Read more]