As men we can over-complicate the dating game to the point where we think we need formulas and metrics to get things right, but more often than none the more you over-think something, the more chances you have of losing confidence in yourself. Take as an example the act of “getting her number”, which has become the initial step in courtship. Some guys take the number, think on her for the entire day, brag to their boys about how “bad” (as in sexy) she is and then sit on it for a day before calling. You would think that with the amount of feelings the man had for that woman he would call her immediately, but he fears that he will seem desperate and possibly scare her away. Come on we’ve all been there with this thought, and it is so bad that we use this formula even when the woman isn’t the one who… [Read more]

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“Dear Dragon.. I am a woman who is very much in love with my boyfriend and we have been together for several years. I made the mistake faking my orgasms and I want to tell him so we can start our sex life over, but I don’t know how to do that without him hating me. I really love the person he is and I know he is “the one” which is why I want to come clean. How do you tell a man that you’ve been faking it without it sounding like he sucks in the bedroom?” - Signed, Tough Love Hey Tough Love, there’s a reason why men care about a woman’s orgasms and it isn’t very complicated. We men want to know that we are doing a good job so that there is no question as to whether we will get more job offers, or a possible referral. At the very minimum men… [Read more]

On The Surface: Physical Attraction – Let’s get this one out of the way right now as it’s what everyone knows and expects to be here. It is true, the first thing a man sees beautiful in a woman is her perfect, irresistible face and body. Every man has his own version of what traits makes for a woman to be irresistible but a lot of these traits crossover to enable a few women in society to be instantly recognized as beautiful to everyone looking at her. Humility – Confidence is fine, but many men get turned off by women who constantly remind the world that they are beautiful. The thinking is that a true beauty is still not that comfortable with it to wear it as a crown, men like the chance at reminding her that she is a drop-dead gorgeous woman. This is why the most successful courtesans would play coy with their… [Read more]

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A few days ago Samantha Brick of The Daily Mail wrote an article about how her beauty had made her an enemy of many women and helped her get ahead in her career with the men. While the contents of her article were no surprise to me, having observed the curse of beauty in women, it immediately went viral beyond anything that she was ready for. Do you want to know why? Samantha Brick happens to be a blonde, white woman with confidence in her looks, at least that’s what she came off as in the article and as we all know, the average woman HATES that and I will tell you why. When I penned The Curse of Being a Beautiful Woman, I had no idea that it would be a popular article on this site. I thought that a few people would read it, turn up their noses a bit and keep it… [Read more]

Hello my fellow IT nerds; one thing that I have noticed about our profession besides the loud discussions on MMORPG’s and the war of the cell phone companies is that we can be some of the most sloppy, uncoordinated dressers in the building. While I chalk this up to our attention being paid to other things that we deem important, it is still something that can be remedied… if you want to attract the attention of the new girl who you are instant messaging your buddies about behind her back… it can be as simple as taking time to adjust your wardrobe – you know, the trivial things! Let us start by discussing money… You make over $50,000 a year, you do not spend much of it (outside of video games and random hobbies) so you are naturally a “saver” that doesn’t spend too much time worrying about it. You have bread, and while a… [Read more]

Believe it or not the judgmental eyes that you worry about while running are mostly in your head. Most people are either oblivious to your running while the vocally negative are actually jealous. It takes a lot to put yourself out there to the spectacle of the jeering crowd but the difficulty that comes with jogging while fat is a thing that is mostly respected by all. People will barely if ever say mean things when you’re running with the exception of the occasional jackass who may insult you with his “run that shit off big girl” but even that is meant as encouragement in it’s own twisted way. Gym Rats Will Support You Whenever myself or one of my gym rat buddies see someone running our commentary has never been anything short of positive. To be honest the only people that I have seen making negative comments about someone heavy exercising have been people… [Read more]

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Editor’s Note: One of my favorite blogs to read outside of The Hall (yes the Dragon does fly off to different lands periodically is Revolutionary Paidera. The author and denizen of The Hall: Antonio Maurice Daniels, always writes gems that inspire deep thought and necessary reflection into our build-up. Recently he delivered an entry called “Drop out of popularity contests” which should be read by anyone who finds him/herself struggling to be relevant, cool, or impressive to outsiders. It’s all about DOING YOU and man if it doesn’t echo everything I believe in the way we should live our lives. Here’s a snippet and link to the rest… Too many people are far too focused on how they can get everyone to like them.  You must understand that everyone will not like you.  Some people will not like you without any rationale—don’t try to force them to like you because you won’t win them over. … [Read more]

I’ve never missed having a “father” in my life being that I had so many strong male influences growing up but listening to the late, great James Brown’s “Papa Don’t Take No Mess” I actually wish I had a cool ass daddy like he did. The song has very few lines but each one of them you can tell was heartfelt, impactful and coming from a place of deep love for his father. Check it out if you don’t know it (Video following the article). Lessons from Papa… “Papa digs the chick If she look real slick, Papa rap is very quick He definitely ain’t no trick.” What I get from this is that Papa spits his game directly and to the point; being that he is a man of confidence and stature, the chick either gets on board or keeps it moving. I love the hell out of this, Papa “definitely ain’t no trick”… [Read more]