Last Saturday I went to dinner with a friend, and saw a reality show celebrity in the company of her husband, son, and another male at dinner. My dinner company was the first to recognize the son, and when I turned around I saw the familiar short, blond hair cut of the woman. I was amazed at how quickly my girl recognized them, and I had to admit this moment would have easily passed me had I been alone. Am I that unaware? Most importantly, I had no desire to “meet” her, and even as I walked past her table I had absolutely no urge to “holler” at her in the typical ways fans do. This led to a conversation with my friend who shared that another individual who is big in the game was highly insulted when Jasmine Guy did not acknowledge him as she danced to his music at a social event. Well,… [Read more]

Hey, I am a pole baby and well on my way to being bi-polar! Let me explain. I just bought into the fitness craze of pole dancing and I am hooked! After each weeks hour and a half class, I am sore in places I forgot existed!! I happily drive 28 miles 2 to 3 times per week to get my sweat on, and believe me when I say, doing the fireman spin or the merry-go-round on the pole is a lot more fun than running 30 miles per week like I used to, or even trying to mount my boring Stairmaster these days. For every routine learned on the right-side, I have to also perfect it on the left side – hence moving me to the perfectly balanced state of being “Bi-polar”. Get it?? I have supplemented these pole classes with the jam-packed “Jiggle-it” sessions that make Zumba seem like Company G’s trek through… [Read more]

In the macho camp there is an ongoing argument as to whether dancing makes a man look gay or not. Whether this is important means absolutely nothing, being that we have many of these such arguments within the man culture and they have been the basis of many so called man laws that seem more to reflect a frat boy sort of mentality than a gentleman. Some of the most macho men have danced; some of our idyllic fictional macho men would dance. I think of Dos Equis’ mascot, The Most Interesting Man In The World, and with as much adventuring and traveling that he has done, to have him not dance just doesn’t seem right, now does it? The man is a man of culture, dance is cultural, you see my point? So maybe dancing isn’t your thing. This does not make it any less masculine than having sex with a woman. In actuality… [Read more]

Grenades are dangerous and can ruin your day at the most unexpected times. For this, I try to avoid them as much as possible… I may motion the hawte over, strategize an approach when the grenade goes to the bar, or go full on stealth and get close to the hawte to start my approach while the grenade is distracted. These things I have tried in the past and somehow it would blow up in my face leaving me annoyed, and at times embarrassed by the grenade after she detonates. Knowing this to be a real dilemma for men in the dating world, I cornered a few experts on “game” and pulled their coats on dealing with grenades when flying solo. Strategy – Embrace The Grenade, Get Her Blessing B.Scott: I would at least make eye contact with all 3 and find a way to include the grenade in the convo….such as “how long have… [Read more]