Results For "definition"
Mar 29

The word ‘Man’ comes with a variety of definitions from many different people who (respectfully) have their own means and agendas doesn’t it? Man is defined through the individual’s subjective opinion, influenced (and not lightly) by religion, society, race, prejudice and theories. This of course includes myself so let me start by saying that this is one man’s opinion. There is no universal codex on what a man is. There is however a code that a person can adapt and abide by for life–which makes him stand out as an extraordinary individual–therefore earning the label of “A Man”. This code is what being “a real man” is about. Not a specific type of man, but a certain type of man: a gangster and a gentleman all rolled into one. A man is defined by his actions. His honor above all else, and then there is… [Read more]

Oct 04

We’re not only writers; we’re readers and below are some of the highlights of the past few weeks that we wish to share: Am I a feminist – or a sexist? Whether you identify yourself as a feminist or not, a man’s language is always open to attack. It’s not about your intent, it’s about wheedling out your latent misogyny and there are crack squads of radical vigilantes ready to remind you of it. It’s a pity we wasted “unkindness” as the collective noun for ravens. It was begging to be applied to internet commenters. Online, it can feel like you need one PhD in Woman’s Studies, another in semiotics and a barge pole if you want to say practically anything.  (TELEGRAPH) On Behalf Of True Christians: We’re Not Here To Judge, And Trust – We Don’t Want To Anyone can throw out a scripture… [Read more]

Jun 18

Many people want to wear the “hustler” label because it sounds cool and all of the ex-drug dealers who rap are making it out to be the essence of manhood. The truth of the matter is that many so-called hustlers (especially self-proclaimed hustlers) are just wannabes, busy-bodies, or small time businessmen who hustle backwards. To be a hustler you have to do exactly what the definition says – you have to be “about it”, on your game, and seize the moment whenever it presents itself. hus.tle (hus.tled | hus. tling): a : to obtain by energetic activity <hustle up new customers> b : to sell something to or obtain something from by energetic and especially underhanded activity <hustling the suckers> c : to sell or promote energetically and aggressively<hustling a new product> d : to lure less skillful players into competing against oneself at (a… [Read more]

May 09

Is marriage the gold standard that all couples are meant to reach in their relationship? If we do not have a diamond ring and wedding bands circling the third finger of our left hand, a home with a picket fence and children are we missing the mark somehow? Speaking strictly from my own experiences of dating, love and marriage – I don’t think so. Some research has shown that cohabitation is a sort of illusion of a trial marriage type of thing. And that is only correct if we are assuming that marriage is the end goal. And also assuming that marriage equals commitment; and sadly to say that when we have a human factor involved – there is no guaranteed commitment. To be clear, I am not anti-marriage but I am also not pro-marriage; I am in a committed relationship with my partner and… [Read more]

Oct 31
betty draper

Many of us get called things that we dislike and hate but usually there is a reason behind the name-calling that extends beyond childish attacks and bullying. Lately I’ve seen a few articles by women who are upset at being labeled “bitter” by their male and female counterparts. It rings hollow to me when I know of instances where the author has thrown around words like misogyny to label men—who did not deserve it—and other names towards people who didn’t agree with her. Some people ARE bitter but don’t want to deal with the label when people write them off with it. Let us observe the word as it is defined by Dictionary.com: bit·ter adjective, bit·ter·er, bit·ter·est, noun, verb, adverb having a harsh, disagreeably acrid taste, like that of aspirin, quinine, wormwood, or aloes. producing one of the four basic taste sensations; not sour, sweet,… [Read more]

Sep 11
carmelita jeter

Watching the Olympics in London this past month I recalled a moment when the American women had cleared the finish line in the relay and Carmelita Jeter was the anchor that finished it up for them. In my excitement I referred to Carmelita as a “beast” which basically meant that she was a powerful, unstoppable force. But a woman within earshot of hearing me say it assumed that I was somehow talking down on Carmelita’s looks (as if I’m blind). It is funny how different this word is when it comes to the sexes. To call a man a beast is the highest of compliments; it hints to strength, power, fighting skill, and the unwillingness to give-up in any situation. For a woman it becomes a brutal insult referring to her looks as being rough, masculine, ugly, hairy, unwanted, and scary. Yet it all becomes… [Read more]

May 31
two men staring at a woman

Believe it or not, men do care whether or not your nose, breasts, butt, or eyes are real. Some men may pretend to not care, and a few actually don’t, but if we’re talking about men in a general sense then you would get a resounding “hell yes” from the populace. When men talk there tends to be high value placed in women who are blessed with good genes and lovely lady lumps. Women with natural beauty, natural breasts (or a good enough plastic surgeon to fool us) are now called “wife material”, “sexy as hell”, and dare I say “hot”. There is extra emphasis placed on breasts where an enhanced d-cup walking by will make our eyes go crazy, but a woman with obvious real ones will make the eyes pop even more. It can be confusing to an outside woman watching because it… [Read more]

Mar 01

Have you ever made the mistake of assuming a co-worker or classmate is a friend when in actuality you were merely their “work-buddy”? It is a mistake that many people make, given the fact that the joking, stories exchanged and favors borrowed are very much like the interactions we have with our actual friends in life. While I have met a number of real friends through work and school, I always made sure to mentally separate them from the people I am cool with who aren’t truly my friends. Don’t get me wrong, while it sounds harsh on the surface, what it does is to remind me that certain expectations should not be placed on the work-buddy. In our adult lives it can become very easy to have one’s job become one’s life. You start out ambitious, ready to impress but before you know it… [Read more]