Now that I have experienced what it is to have a “failed marriage”, I often wonder why I am still hopeful about getting married again, and making it work. With the high rates of divorce and broken relationships, heightened by the recent debacle of Kim Kardashian, it is so easy to become cynical about “I dos”. Everybody has a personal rule as to what assures success or sure failure in marriage. I have heard advice ranging from “live with the person for at lest year, as in a trial run”, to the other side that says “If you shack up, your marriage is guaranteed to fail”.  There are also those who counsel – “Make sure you get to “know” the person. Date for at least one to three years”; yet I have a friend who got married two weeks meeting her husband, and in June of 2012 will celebrate their 40th anniversary. In twisted reference,… [Read more]

If you put a time restriction on your body, let it be a personal choice and not some magical number invented by a “Guru”. The men that you want (I didn’t say all men, or most men) won’t wait and you can throw as many names at us for this, but the fact is that you are getting false information and it may be detrimental to your dating life. Lets cut through the bull, the philosophy, the feel-good articles and the liars who write them. Women we want to sleep with you, and we want to sleep with you right now. If you turn out to be a cool, down ass chick on the way to the bedroom then we may or may not figure out that we actually love you and want to devote ourselves to you on a full time basis. In this modern microwave, test-drive, fake it till you make it society… [Read more]

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Do you ever notice that some folks get a free pass to be single whereas others are scrutinized? Probably not since nobody pays attention to the fact that a single person is pushed towards marriage while a divorcee is given a pass to never have to marry again. It’s almost as if getting married is the point but staying married is not as important. This strikes me as odd because if its all about people pairing up, why isn’t the divorcee pushed towards a second marriage as much as the person who hasn’t married in the first place? As an unmarried man I have heard some of the craziest and dumbest reasons why I should get married and have babies. One female friend of mine actually got upset with me because according to her I am the type of person that should be having babies but choose not to – I am what’s wrong with… [Read more]

The want and sometimes need that possesses a man to jump into bed with a strange woman is one that we have suffered from the beginning of time. Some cultures have marriage but the man is still expected to dabble with other women at any given time. In our culture some people tackle it peacefully by becoming swingers, I dip into your wife, you dip into mine, come back next week, rinse and repeat. Many guys keep the urge well into marriage, they see sexy women daily, they comment, they grab themselves and then they go home to the den and rub one out to Aria Giovanni on a porn website. Women as a majority are clueless about this whole, let’s call it “cooch fever”. Men admire women with the thought of getting into it and satisfying the cooch hound within. Ladies it is what it is, that’s how we’re wired. Church types like to… [Read more]

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Fellas, if you have a beautiful wife with twins – you may not want to be sneaking off into dorm rooms to dip your chips in some sour cream from next door… you get me? In June 2010, the New York Post reported that ex-Giants Running Back Tiki Barber (the dude with the 5-mile grin) was out of money and unable to pay his divorce settlement with his ex- wife. Now we learn that Tiki Barber will be returning to the NFL in order to cash in on a much-needed payday after going insane and letting his dick take over for his brain (was the booty THAT good Tiki?) I am not sure how well this will work out for Tiki as fans have booed him recently after he made some remarks about the Giants organization and Eli Manning. Tiki has a big mouth, and he apparently is a hardcore victim of “black man’s kryptonite”… [Read more]

Talking To Your Child About What Happened… Whether you were with your child’s mother/father for long enough for the kid to remember, or if it was something your kid never experienced, the day will always come where they want to know what happened between the two of you.  Let’s face it, more often than not, the subject leaves a bad taste in the mouth of the one who was left, disrespected, found the other in bed with someone else, etc.  Unfortunately, it’s hard to get over the issues due to the fact that you are never truly free of that person and are constantly reminded of them in the eyes, nose, or voice of the little person you both created.  When the time comes keep these pieces of advice in mind, as they will help to ensure that what happened does nothing to change the view of you in your child’s eyes. Use The Don’t… [Read more]

So I have heard this opinion more than once on blogs – usually of course from married guy or bitter single chick. While I can see some merit in the serial dater turned husband of the year giving advice, I can’t accept it as a blanket statement. Why would a guy who got married at 18-19 and has only been with his wife be a better dating coach than the guy with a book full of numbers and constant booty floating in and out of his bedroom? Look, while long-term marriage guy can tell me how to keep a woman, I wouldn’t look to him to tell me how to get her in the first place. The dating game can be pretty dynamic so advice should always be taken with a grain of salt. Still when it comes to who tells you what then consider the source, is his resume reflective of his advice or… [Read more]

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There aren’t any rituals, rites of passage, memorized chants or graduation ceremony for manhood or womanhood. As men our sisters get the benefit of nature assisting their ascension through puberty, the first period and several other private things. For men we get theories, comparison checks to our forefathers and conflicting feedback on what constitutes a “man”. It is something that we never think about in detail but it has to leave many guys pondering, “am I truly a man, or am I a boy pretending at this grown-up thing”? It seems as if the blood, sweat and tears spilled by women of the past to gain equal grounds with their testosterone fueled mates, has left many men scrambling to figure out our respective “roles” in a family structure. If you think I’m making this up just observe the barbs being thrown across gender lines in 2010 by the single, middle-class, each blaming the decline of… [Read more]