I have noticed that many people like to stress over the person that their ex has moved on to marry, date or sleep with. They observe the new lover and run comparison checks with themselves in order to laugh at her if she did worse, or feel salty if she did better. While I personally would never partake in this activity it seems to be a sort of curious human nature, which most people are guilty of. One of the most devastating things a man can fathom is that his girl of many years will run off and become a lesbian. It is a huge blow to his ego, an offense aimed squarely at his lack of a potent sex game. A blow that must not be known by his peers lest he be laughed at and lose face for being such a weak man that his woman would feel the need to forgo the… [Read more]

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A few times I have been blindsided by a woman giving me a compliment and having to fight my male assumptions to accept it and move on without playing myself. It took a long time of receiving compliments, assuming them to be flirting, returning the flirt and getting shot down for doing so, to get to this point of nonchalance. I’ve learned that women may flirt, but their version and our version are very different and it’s easy to misread their intent or overshoot your possibilities. Intelligent Reality vs P.Brain Lusting As a man we have 2 ways of thinking that can assist or negate our ability to co-exist properly with women. When you meet a woman and she breaks pattern to do things like: buy you a drink compliment you grab you on the ass grab your package We get excited, we freeze – confused, wondering why she would do such a thing, ego… [Read more]

I’ve heard that even the late Mafia Boss of all Bosses Salvatore “Charles” Lucania absolutely hated his nickname “Lucky Luciano”. Nobody wants to be known as “Lucky”, we all want credit for what we’ve rightfully earned. One of my biggest pet peeves is the fact that there is no real attempt at empathizing with people who are assumed to have money. If you came from nothing, ground your way up to a sky-rise through your own blood, sweat and tears, people will still have the audacity to call you lucky. Oh he has nothing to complain about, he has all the money in the world, I wish I was that “lucky”, blah, blah, blah. It boils my blood to no end when I see, hear and read this feedback. The only thing that the guy who made it is lucky with is that he wasn’t stuck being as carefree as the person diminishing his work. I know… [Read more]

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When men breakup, they take it the hardest. Women? We a) Cry b) Cry with our friends and c) Cry with ice cream on the phone to our mothers, friends, sisters and any other female within a 5 mile radius… The beautician, the hairdresser – everyone. No one looks at a woman weird for crying. If she tears up, at the end of the day she’ll say that she’s a woman to get out of it and no man will ever question her. Put a MAN in the same mix and dear God, his heart might be in shreds but because of social conditioning he FORCES himself NOT to cry. He is a man and crying is “weak”, its a woman’s thing and he cannot be eaten alive by all the other guys that are not crying out there. I cannot imagine as a female the pain that men endure deep within when something hurts them. I… [Read more]

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I think it was on Enterprise (the newest in the long line of Star Trek series) that first brought this phenomenon to light for me. T’Pol, a super intelligent and advanced Vulcan female became sub-Commander on the ship despite the racial tension with her human crewmen. The most tension she had came from her Captain Archer who had a deep prejudice with her people after they robbed his father of the honor of space exploration. T’Pol and Archer were always at it but as the show went on their rivalry turned into mutual respect and then shifted towards some hardcore sexual tension. Soon T’Pol knew Archer’s most intimate secrets and he hers having to aid her on private missions and council her as one of her only friends. I can recall yelling at Archer to jump that sexy little nymph whenever she would come into his room off hours to “talk” but the nerdy captain… [Read more]

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Barry Manilow has a wonderful song by the name of Copacabana, it is linked below this article for you younger folks who don’t know Manilow or his sound. The song details one club dancer by the name of Lola who fell in love with the bartender “Tony” at her club and ended up losing him to a gangster’s gun shot. The song is short, sweet and tragic but the tale is a familiar one for most guys who dread having to defend their lady’s honor in public. It was simple, Lola was hot as hell, gangster Rico came into the club and put down on her hardcore and for argument’s sake he probably palmed her ass as he has done 100 times before. Lola being an attractive club chick would normally melt into the arms of this made guy but she was already taken by Tony the bartender. So Tony seeing this going down, sails… [Read more]

If there’s anything a man shouldn’t be – it’s desperate. Yet 90% of the single guys I know–are. What you get are 3 categories of men: The super desperate one (let’s get married in a week!), the “lets play it cool” one (doesn’t call you for 2 weeks even after he took your number!) and lastly the rare dude that has struck the balance of the push and pull theory. Let me explain as to why being desperate (aka clingy and needy) is SO detrimental for a man. Ages and centuries have passed and MEN were once the gender that went out, fought and brought home food (and a lot of glory). To see a guy become desperate over a woman is truly a sad situation. Chill out with the marriage jokes guys, Jesus – the popular belief is that men run away from commitment, but the truth is they don’t. It’s the IDEA of… [Read more]

You mention “good smell” to a man and immediately he thinks of some super pretty boy in the mirror taking five hours to apply his “look” for the day. This stereotype leads to guys thinking that it is okay to “smell like a man”, ie: smelling like cheap cologne, sweat, or old lotion. The following paragraphs are a primer for these men in the ways of smelling good without taking a hit to your masculinity. Take it from me; these items work and you will be very pleased with the result. So what should a macho guy get in order to smell sexy for the ladies? Cologne As a man choosing your cologne wisely can make or break your ensemble when you’re out on the dating scene. When choosing a cologne what I used to do was to buy several of them and then wear each of them on different days when going into the… [Read more]