There are a lot of men out there who will sleep with anything.  Everyone has their own preferences, but there are many cases where a guy just wants to get some.  A lot of times they don’t care from whom, and this is where the problem lies. By lowering your standards people will talk, and word will get around that you will jump on anything that moves.  There are several reasons that you don’t want to be the person people are talking about. Building and maintaining a good reputation is one of the prime concerns for a man of worth, and anything that can have a detrimental effect on this can easily hinder his future actions and plans. If you start slipping and begin to entertain a certain “type” that isn’t up to your standards, word will get around. Lowering your requirements for the sake of a roll in the hay is something that desperate, lonely men… [Read more]

When a man talks about sex in a slang-sense to his fellow man (or on blogs) you will find that most of our terms sound like something you would do to someone you hate as opposed to someone you aim to pleasure. The reason for this is because men with all of our pragmatic, graphic thinking, normally refer to the act of the penis entering the vagina (or other orifice) and not the entire act of love-making. Women who see the big picture of foreplay – intercourse – climax – spooning have no doubt overheard men talking and got the wrong idea… 3 examples of violent terms used for sex by American males: Phrase: “I beat it up!” or “I beat that little thing up!” Meaning: The “thing” that is getting beat up is the vagina, not the woman and the beating is a pleasant beating because “beating it up” comes with the supposition that… [Read more]

It’s amazing how we men are known for our egos but when I hear the way a woman talk about sex you would think that the game was flipped and we (men) were truly the ones who play shy and innocent about our sexual inhibitions. Recently I was listening to an excellent podcast by Hall denizen Up4Dsn (Up 4 Discussion) and his partner (Goddess Intellect I think…) was saying how hard she would go at fixing the issue if she found out that she couldn’t make her man orgasm. This gave me pause as I remembered the many discussions I have had with women about the very same subject and felt I needed to respond. Women stop assuming, it’s always about you! There are many reasons for a guy to freeze up on orgasm, very rarely does it have to do with you being horrible at sex, or not sexy. Hell if a man really… [Read more]

As a child coming up, I used to see my mother and her friends have conversations around dinner and I was amused at how none of them could finish a sentence. As soon as mom would start to talk, the friend would inject with her own bit, then another would inject on her and the cycle continued. None of them raised their voice or got upset, yet the conversation continued for long periods of time. It was as if the interruptions were accepted, known and unable to break the flow of discussion. To this day I cannot fathom how people are able to communicate like that. As I got older I began to realize that I had somehow been shifted into a category of people who are meant to be the sponge for others who feel the need to vent, brag or complain. If I am talking a lot it’s either because you’re an old… [Read more]

Before I start let me say this: Women, you will not find this easy to wrap your head around because like it or not men see sex a lot differently from women. While there are some women who defy this generalization, most men have absolutely no qualms with having no-strings attached sex. What this means is that there is a difference in friend-zone for a man and a woman dealing with someone that they tried dating before. When a man fails to impress a woman enough to sleep with her and become her man, she will slap him firmly into the friend-zone where he has access to talking to her but little else. Most men absolutely hate this crap and it takes some time and observation before he realizes that he is in it. For women however if she dates a guy that she’s into and she lets him have sex with her and she… [Read more]

6

My dear women (and men) of the world, if you are silently complaining about the 3-minute man in your life, you do us all a disservice by keeping it to yourself. If you think that a man automatically knows that he sucks at sex then you are wrong. If you think that a man knows the importance of satisfying your urges as much as his own then you are wrong. Finally, if you think that a man will not try to “fix” his sexual issue after he learns it then you are wrong. Machismo decrees that a man be a sexual dynamo for his woman but when you keep it a dirty little secret you both will lose. Suck at Sex? Then She Will Cheat! I don’t care if you’re the most humble woman in the world, if your guy hasn’t gotten you off in years and I come along and accomplish it in 30… [Read more]

1

I have noticed that many people like to stress over the person that their ex has moved on to marry, date or sleep with. They observe the new lover and run comparison checks with themselves in order to laugh at her if she did worse, or feel salty if she did better. While I personally would never partake in this activity it seems to be a sort of curious human nature, which most people are guilty of. One of the most devastating things a man can fathom is that his girl of many years will run off and become a lesbian. It is a huge blow to his ego, an offense aimed squarely at his lack of a potent sex game. A blow that must not be known by his peers lest he be laughed at and lose face for being such a weak man that his woman would feel the need to forgo the… [Read more]

1

A few times I have been blindsided by a woman giving me a compliment and having to fight my male assumptions to accept it and move on without playing myself. It took a long time of receiving compliments, assuming them to be flirting, returning the flirt and getting shot down for doing so, to get to this point of nonchalance. I’ve learned that women may flirt, but their version and our version are very different and it’s easy to misread their intent or overshoot your possibilities. Intelligent Reality vs P.Brain Lusting As a man we have 2 ways of thinking that can assist or negate our ability to co-exist properly with women. When you meet a woman and she breaks pattern to do things like: buy you a drink compliment you grab you on the ass grab your package We get excited, we freeze – confused, wondering why she would do such a thing, ego… [Read more]