Results For "flirting"
Jun 09

Male and female relations in a general sense are not unlike race relations… It’s very important for a single male to keep female friends and attractive women who are genuinely good people are an absolute necessity. Why? Well, as a single man going through life it can become very easy to see women as an alien race with feel-good cookies that are only available if you can get past their defenses. Much of this thought process comes from the many toxic women that we come across in life and if a man has no balance—like a good female friend—it can be very easy to go down a dark path. Consider a day when you—the standard male with no female friends—goes to work and sits in a meeting where you are being liberally harassed sexually by female coworkers. In the back of your mind you check their privilege,… [Read more]

Jun 27

“Is it true? Can it be? How could she be DATING someone when she’s been so friendly with me on chat! NO! That BITCH! How could she!” Guys (more males than females in my estimation) get “friendly” wrong so often. Some (insert A LOT) of us females like the attention we get online and will waste ENORMOUS AMOUNTS OF TIME emailing with you, sending you photos of ourselves, chatting with you about what kind of coffee we prefer. You don’t like coffee, but you play along. What are the chances you are REALLY going to meet this chick? I mean c’mon! For those of you who think that flirting on Facebook is no different than online dating, you’re wrong. Facebook flirting is worse than online dating because people on Facebook aren’t on a dating site. They are on a social networking site SOCIALIZING. For the ladies out there… [Read more]

Dec 31

One of the best ways to get comfortable with women is to learn to be a natural flirt – the same way many of them do. We all know women who bring about a rise in men whenever they come around smiling, talking and doing things that are near the line of flirting but just don’t cross it. Men have struggled with the concept of flirting since the beginning of time because quite frankly we have too much reverence for women. We are afraid of what they will think, how it will look and oh my god she may actually “gasp” reject us! Flirting without expectations means that in a social atmosphere you are suave and debonair, you touch hands, you make borderline naughty jokes, and you just don’t give a damn what anybody thinks – within reason. We all know that there is a… [Read more]

Sep 17
beautiful black woman

In my old age I’ve found that women send back signals that many of us should pick up on but don’t due to our inability to understand them. No I don’t mean obvious crap like touching your hand, giggling, or I don’t know – flirting with you. What I am talking about is the involuntary mannerisms that let you know whether or not she’s approachable. Think about the things that a woman does when she’s comfortable around you and think of the other things that she does when she doesn’t care for you. Everyone is different and we all have our own ways of showing discomfort and relative comfort with one another. Within a setting of many people, different interactions and uninterrupted focus, a focused man can determine whether it’s worthwhile to ask a woman out or not. Real Life Example – The Meeting with… [Read more]

Jul 19
two women flirting

So you are at your local dive with a few of your people and your buddy shows up with 2 women – one being his girlfriend and the other a friend from work. You all start kicking it and you notice the girl is actually pretty damn cute and is really friendly to you. What does the average guy ask himself at this point? Does she like me, or is she playing nice because we are all out and she wants to have a good time? Many times the way a woman responds to us when flirting can be confused to the way she acts when she’s just being friendly. Consider the Starbucks barista who is the common offender of this type of thing. The barista is forced to smile and be courteous to the patron who sees her smile, attractive face and warm behavior… [Read more]

Jul 04

Well, you had a good run… You and your girlfriend hit it off at first, but now things have fizzled and you realize she’s just not right for you. Although there’s no way to guarantee that she won’t be upset, letting her down gently is the best way to go. Here are 5 ways to tell a girl you want to break up with her without incurring her wrath. 1. Ditch the “we need to talk” line For the love of all things, do NOT send the hopelessly vague yet alarmingly familiar “we need to talk” text. If you have to text her and can’t call, text something like “are you free tonight?” or “can I stop by?” if you plan on talking to her about this in person (which I would recommend over a passive break up email any day). Keep your request to… [Read more]

Dec 20

One of the major disconnects that men and tomboys have is the fact that a rough-and-tumble girl usually has a large collection of guy friends. It would be silly to assume that a woman who partakes in things that are almost exclusively boys club would bond mostly with women when men are what she’s going to be most comfortable around due to her day-to-day. Many people assume things from a distance and although the friendship may be innocent to her, for the guys in her circle 99.9% of them are trying in their own way to have sex with her. As men we carry a lot of stigmas towards these women, not to say that women don’t have their fair share. In the last post I did on tomboys we had women commenting that they are all lesbians and a bunch of other noise so… [Read more]

Aug 16

A few times I have been blindsided by a woman giving me a compliment and having to fight my male assumptions to accept it and move on without playing myself. It took a long time of receiving compliments, assuming them to be flirting, returning the flirt and getting shot down for doing so, to get to this point of nonchalance. I’ve learned that women may flirt, but their version and our version are very different and it’s easy to misread their intent or overshoot your possibilities. Intelligent Reality vs P.Brain Lusting As a man we have 2 ways of thinking that can assist or negate our ability to co-exist properly with women. When you meet a woman and she breaks pattern to do things like: buy you a drink compliment you grab you on the ass grab your package We get excited, we freeze –… [Read more]