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Mar 09

Let’s face it – the prospect of a sober St. Patrick’s Day may leave you feeling a bit out of the loop. The holiday, which is highly popular all over the world, has a reputation for being a pretty big drinking day. Let’s be clear – there’s nothing wrong with having some beers on St. Patrick’s Day. But for some, having a few beers isn’t really an option. If you’re in recovery, hoping to provide a child-friendly celebration, or simply not a drinker, it’s easy to feel left out on St. Patrick’s Day. But you don’t have to feel that way. In fact, in many ways, a sober St. Patrick’s Day is a better St. Patrick’s Day. You can focus on the true history behind the holiday It may surprise you to learn that St. Patrick’s Day isn’t really a heavy drinking holiday in many… [Read more]

Jun 13

While single men and married men can hang-out and do many things together, there are a few zones that are just awkward when you’re single. Like it or not there are two differing factions when it comes to your social life. There’s the Player’s Club for Singles and the Couple’s Getaway Club for Married folks. Awkward feelings tend to arise when a member of one of these Clubs tries to enter into the other without the proper credentials. Being that I have been the awkward single guy at many a Couple’s Getaway, I’ve compiled a list of events that you should probably avoid attending as a single man. Weddings (when you’re the last friend single)  If you have a great group of friends and you’re the last one left not married, attending that guy’s wedding will put a lot of attention on you. Prepare to have all the newly married… [Read more]

Nov 24

The other day I thought to myself, how do you know when someone is a friend? How do you differentiate between a friend and someone who finds you useful and convenient? This was a tough question and while many people have varying answers to it, I boiled mine down to scenarios. A friend will come to help you even when they lack the resources and means to. A fine example that I can refer to is my nightmarish moving days when I tried to do it solo and a random friend would pop up to help. While you may see this as trivial, you have to consider the full story. I had given out ample notice that I would need help moving at x date yet everyone who promised help couldn’t attend. I’ve had this happen three times in my life and all three times, three… [Read more]

Aug 25
Three men at a bachelor party

Having attended and partially hosted a number of bachelor parties, I have learned that it is very easy to get the groom burned instead of entertained and sent off into the magical world of marriage. Most of the problems that arise from this tradition is due to men behaving badly, and though most of it is avoidable, you will always have an idiot losing his mind and burning everyone in the process. Selfishness and a spotty memory comes with the alcohol that flows at a bachelor party, so it becomes really easy to forget why you’re there. The bachelor parties that end up being the most successful tend to be the ones where the groom’s true friends are there. Friends who want to make sure that whatever they do, the man is entertained and sent off properly. Disaster strikes when you have a married guy… [Read more]

Jul 30

We all know that girl who has a kid or kids and who has not owned up to the sacrifice that comes with putting someone else’s life before hers.  She is the one who is still living her life the same as it was prior to her becoming pregnant. This girl gives off a “babysitter” feel and not a “child rearing” feel. Consequences of the child’s future do not enter her mind, usually because she was either never taught to care for a child (only to “watch” the child) and never had a positive role model on how to do so. I want to give advice to this woman. Not because I look down on her, but because I think she needs to wake up in order to reap the many rewards of motherhood.  If you are a woman who leaves your kid with your mother on… [Read more]

Jun 02
Happy couple kissing in park

“I always questioned why is it when I do my hair really nice, do my make-up all cute and wear flattering clothes … no men approach me, but when I just be kind of basic, wear jeans and a t-shirt, put my hair in a pony tail and wear little to no make up, guys seem to have more compliments for me.” – Dakota On a former article (Dear Dragon: Why Do Men Seem Intimidated By My Beauty), Dakota made the above comment which received quite a number of answers. One which struck a chord with me due to it’s familiarity: I want a girl that I can just relax with, someone who is chill and confident and knows that I like her the way she is, and someone who likes herself the way she is. If I see a girl who looks nice but… [Read more]

May 29
Scene from A clockwork Orange - Alex and Gang beat up a homeless man

On one of the writing forums that I frequent, a female member asked if the popular trope of men being at odds and fighting it out before become best friends is a real one. Quite a number of men chimed in—myself included—and we let her know that it’s unrealistic. As men, we seek out other men of like interests, and we meet our comrades doing things that we love. Violence is rarely a good cause and effect of positivity in a young person’s life. The friends that I fought in High School were already friends and the beat down to establish respect is a little different from our topic today, which is bullying and the misconceptions we have of it. Coming up we have all witnessed bullying, and many of us remember sitting back tight-lipped about it wondering: Why doesn’t the kid just fight back… [Read more]

Jan 21

There have been plenty of times in the last few years when I’ve seen the family members of friends getting over on them in one way or another. Some family members use their loved ones to get loans (that they don’t intend on ever repaying), to get free room and board, and to get limitless help–when life knocks them down. While it’s noble to offer help without want of payment to a family member, we all know that there are some people who will cross the line and take it to another level beyond charity. Let’s talk about bad friends and family members, and why we cannot treat everyone the same based on relationship ties. To the users and abusers, life isn’t about one hand washes the other, it’s about squeezing. If you have it to give, they have the hands to take, and they… [Read more]