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Jan 21

There have been plenty of times in the last few years when I’ve seen the family members of friends getting over on them in one way or another. Some family members use their loved ones to get loans (that they don’t intend on ever repaying), to get free room and board, and to get limitless help–when life knocks them down. While it’s noble to offer help without want of payment to a family member, we all know that there are some people who will cross the line and take it to another level beyond charity. Let’s talk about bad friends and family members, and why we cannot treat everyone the same based on relationship ties. To the users and abusers, life isn’t about one hand washes the other, it’s about squeezing. If you have it to give, they have the hands to take, and they… [Read more]

Jul 10

“Never let the game get ahead of you, get a better view” – Snoop So, I have a story for you and it is one that I think you can identify with because it has affected all of us in one facet of life or the other. You all have been there and with the facade of life being “fair” many of us run around in circles only to end up feeling disappointed. We listen to the people who got lucky–as they dole out advice from a place of privilege–and we think that they have it all figured out, so we copy them. Sound familiar? Well let’s get into the story. A guy (lets call him Ronnie) walks into a casino and within a few minutes, he hears one of the patrons screaming because she hit the progressive on a slot machine. A man to his left claps his… [Read more]

Jun 23

Maybe I’m odd, but I can honestly say I have never looked at another woman and wanted to copy or steal her look. Sure, I see women from time to time and give them a mental thumbs-up for on-point fashion sense, but I’ve never wanted to take a picture so I can transform myself into a carbon copy of any of those women.  When I express this to my female relatives and friends, they tend to look at me with slightly raised eyebrows. They think I’m not telling the truth. I hear things like “Come on, Dani…you mean to tell me you’ve never ripped off someone’s look?” And because of this cliché response that I get from them, I’ve come to realize that it is a common and prevalent thing for women to imitate each other’s appearance/style. Despite it being a common occurrence, I still… [Read more]

Jun 02

There will always be people around us to uplift us as well as tear us down and it may come as a surprise to us. Family members that we assume will have our backs will become jealous, overly judgmental and extremely negative. The troll on your Facebook that you have as a political sparring partner may end up being your best ally when it comes to your goals and aspirations in life. Positive people are a breath of fresh air, and they show up in the strangest places. Negative people come in many forms and they strike when we least expect it. A lot of people who mean well will play devil’s advocate at times when we need their support and will kill our spirits with their opinion. Oft times this opinion comes from a place of fear because they would not be willing to the things that you… [Read more]

May 23

There has been much discussion lately about women that date broken men only to be disappointed continuously in the end. Women that get with men struggling and weather the storm for a time in hopes of helping their partner find a place of normalcy. And why not? Many good men take on multiple jobs and more in order to support a woman going through school or going through hardships. Relationships are built on support before anything else right? But what I want to talk about today is a specific dynamic, the one where a woman finds a man in a bad situation and chooses to become the light in his life. Let’s not confuse these “saints” with women that purposefully find “projects” to enhance and show-off to their fellow white-collar girlfriends as the women in this situation genuinely want to help their men. In many… [Read more]

Jan 15

You’ve probably heard the saying don’t blame the player blame the game (we could probably say don’t blame the player blame the dame), but what kind of friends do you have, if you can’t trust them around your girl? There are two very different opinions on trust, one pretends that men have no self control, and the other makes women into blameless victims. Some guys believe that it’s the ultimate test of their girl’s loyalty if she can suffer the whims of the crowd and then there are guys who believe that their boys should know better, even if their girl is giving them positive feedback when they push up on her. This all goes to show that some men do not abide by the rules. The man laws clearly state that you should place your friend’s woman in the same category as moms and… [Read more]

Jan 08

Contrary to popular belief, it is very easy for a man to tell on the first date if he will be able to get a second. Most of the signs are there, but men do not see them right away. Several times I have walked down memory lane with my current boyfriend, discussing our first date and how he had no idea that I was looking to be more than friends. It can be difficult for a man to figure it out solely from the body language or the way she looks at him, but the signals are definitely there. If you pick up on them, there will be no guessing as to whether or not she will want to see you again. 1. She keeps the conversation going A bored and uninterested woman will not listen intently to your stories and she will definitely… [Read more]

Dec 19

If you are a woman that has a guy in your “back pocket” due to any number of reasons, he may become a hindrance to your love life. Many women have a guy that they want, but refuse to go their with him for one reason or another. This leads to the guy being placed in the friend-zone, or her back pocket (as we will call it here) and regulated to little more than buddy status. When you look at this woman’s list–of course she has a list–it should not be a surprise that back pocket guy encompasses much of what is on there. For a man who isn’t looking to settle down, the back pocket is nice, warm and cozy, because it can easily translate to sex with no strings attached.  It is the perfect situation for a player, especially if there are several… [Read more]