Results For "friendship"
Nov 24

The other day I thought to myself, how do you know when someone is a friend? How do you differentiate between a friend and someone who finds you useful and convenient? This was a tough question and while many people have varying answers to it, I boiled mine down to scenarios. A friend will come to help you even when they lack the resources and means to. A fine example that I can refer to is my nightmarish moving days when I tried to do it solo and a random friend would pop up to help. While you may see this as trivial, you have to consider the full story. I had given out ample notice that I would need help moving at x date yet everyone who promised help couldn’t attend. I’ve had this happen three times in my life and all three times, three… [Read more]

Sep 19

Ladies, how well do you know us men? Are you guilty of the base assumptions that we all want to run around unwashed, play video games and sleep with anything that lets us? Do you see us on a deeper level, one mired in the traditions of the guys that get portrayed in movies, books and other media? Well the following points are some things that you may or may not know about us. Sure every man is different in his own way, but I would be willing to bet that most (outside of #2) are guilty of the following: 1. We Like What We Like Almost daily I read articles by women that somehow feel that putting down a sad story in blog form will convert the men that continue to ignore them into changing their minds. Many men are stubborn and while you… [Read more]

Aug 08

“Dear Dragon, I really enjoy your website and seem to agree with you on many of the articles you post. I’d like some advice on the ways of living a single life.  Every time I meet up with them the conversation seems to eventually turn to how I shouldn’t be single (as if its some kind of hardship), how they wish I was as happy as they are (I’m happier than they seem to be), how I “deserve” someone (What does that even mean?). Then out come the list of potential girlfriends, or even worse than the list we “accidentally” bump into one of these women. I’ve tried telling them that I am happy doing my own thing for the moment, that I hate blind dates, that I have plenty of time to marry should I wish to in the future, that I’m concentrating on my… [Read more]

Jul 23

The friends with benefits game can be a great one – if you find the right people to play. Mere friendship doesn’t guarantee that you will have this amazing, no strings attached, soul connecting sex and conversation and then go on with your fantasy sport draft or whatever else you have to do once the front door closes. Research and studies have found that the friends with benefits (FWB) relationship is one that can prove to be quite successful, but I would imagine that the failed attempts at FWB are a bit harder to conceptualize as well as locate. Mainly because if your FWB did not work out it is because one person in the relationship did not feel that it was simply a FWB relationship. And there we have it: hardest part of making a FWB relationship work is being able to define and hold down… [Read more]

Dec 05
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Friends are the select group of people that you choose to have in your life. Often time your friends are the ones you call with a crisis… even before family. Not to be confused with associates, which are those people you hang out with in good times but in bad are missing in action. Friends are few and far between and when you find real ones you’ll know. So what I can’t understand is why people put their friends (and sometimes family) on the back burner until they are in need. Your girl breaks up with her man and now she’s creating a puddle on your sleeve. Meanwhile this is the same girl that you haven’t seen in months. This happens way too often among women. They get in relationships and that is all that matters… That is until something is wrong in the relationship. But I… [Read more]

Sep 18
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Despite what standard culture will have you believe, It is not impossible to become friends with your former lover. Many believe that because you had sex with somebody in the past, there’s no way you’ll be able to be friends with them once the connection is over. It really all depends on the individuals involved; if your ex is immature and will use the friendly relationship as some way to “hold on” to your previous relationship – then of course it might not be a good plan to keep them around. Life is too short to hold grudges and it seems absurd to exclude someone from your life that you cared about and had great times with. They probably understand you more than anyone else, and beyond the physical attraction, is a really good friend. You made a conscious choice to make this person a… [Read more]

Jul 04

Well, you had a good run… You and your girlfriend hit it off at first, but now things have fizzled and you realize she’s just not right for you. Although there’s no way to guarantee that she won’t be upset, letting her down gently is the best way to go. Here are 5 ways to tell a girl you want to break up with her without incurring her wrath. 1. Ditch the “we need to talk” line For the love of all things, do NOT send the hopelessly vague yet alarmingly familiar “we need to talk” text. If you have to text her and can’t call, text something like “are you free tonight?” or “can I stop by?” if you plan on talking to her about this in person (which I would recommend over a passive break up email any day). Keep your request to… [Read more]

Mar 01

Have you ever made the mistake of assuming a co-worker or classmate is a friend when in actuality you were merely their “work-buddy”? It is a mistake that many people make, given the fact that the joking, stories exchanged and favors borrowed are very much like the interactions we have with our actual friends in life. While I have met a number of real friends through work and school, I always made sure to mentally separate them from the people I am cool with who aren’t truly my friends. Don’t get me wrong, while it sounds harsh on the surface, what it does is to remind me that certain expectations should not be placed on the work-buddy. In our adult lives it can become very easy to have one’s job become one’s life. You start out ambitious, ready to impress but before you know it… [Read more]