I’m Sorry I Messed Up, Are You Dating Anybody Right Now? The game of courtship can be a rewarding one, men earn themselves a beautiful, loving mate and women earn romance stories to brag to their girlfriends about. One of my best friends planted his wife’s engagement ring amongst the branches of the tree that they first kissed under. It is no doubt that she will tell that story forever – they just celebrated the birth of their second child, it’s a beautiful thing. The majority of my friends are seemingly happy in their marriages, so the statistics of divorce rates, alimony and child support woes that I read about daily gets balanced out just by hanging out with them. One thing I’ve noticed however is that all of them were either married out of High School or a few years after college – the younger 20s. As myself and other men of my age… [Read more]

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Valentine’s Day is coming boys, and you must be prepared if you do not want to be the butt of your girlfriend’s jokes when she is talking to her friends. Even if she loves you forever, and always appreciates you and your efforts, unfortunately it is the time of the year to take the time to prove how much you love her back.  In the process, you must keep in mind to impress her friends as well, as it is inevitable that their reactions will matter to your girl.  Here are a few tips to make sure you stay in the “perfect boyfriend” category. 1. Money Isn’t Everything. I’ve told you once before and I think it’s time to reiterate.  Women are the most impressed when it is apparent that you have been thinking of them.  For instance, boyfriend 1 has no idea what to get his girl but he knows she likes chocolate.  He… [Read more]

So if you’re like me and you have had enough of Johnny Media and this Tiger Woods circus, you have probably started making jokes or contributing jokes at the cablinasian’s expense. Well one of the discussions among “the boys” about Tiger’s fall from alleged grace is not so much why’d he cheat but where did he go wrong in getting caught. To most men, and some women it seems that Tiger’s hustle was wrong, he teed up for a Player’s game but bogeyed every hole (no pun intended) by literally screwing the help. So in my quest to figure out what he could have done differently, I consulted a Wiseguy. After all wasn’t it Goodfellas that explained the necessity of a goomah to take out on fridays? Who better to ask than a practitioner and relative master of the art, of course all names will be withheld here but I wanted to know. How do… [Read more]

Lets face it folks, when you find someone to love, you tend to get a lot of good out of it but there are some bad things that can come into the mix. One of the bad things about the relationships is you tend to fall within an unhealthy comfort zone. The extra time which was spent in the gym or Club (building the sexy body needed to attract the next person) is replaced with eating out in restaurants, ordering in and watching television on the couch. Pretty soon into the relationship you cease to look like an athlete and begin to look like a traditional mom or dad. So what makes relationships so fattening? I’ll tell you what it is, working out is either a chore to you, or you aren’t paying enough attention to yourself. What most experts suggest you do is to use your partner as a springboard to promote proper nutrition… [Read more]

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I am a woman with many strictly platonic relationships with men over the past decade or so.  We are friends not because of some undercover attraction, but because we have either gone through something together or have just always been there for each other like family.  Recently, one of my boys reconnected with his old high school sweetheart and is head over heels. I hadn’t heard such joy in his voice in years so when I saw her name in my Facebook inbox, my first thought was “oh, maybe she’s trying to throw him a surprise birthday party or something”. But then I remembered he was born in March.  Considering that I never even met the girl I couldn’t think of a reason other than here comes the drama, why is this chick writing me”.  So I read it: “Nia, Nia, Nia: Hi there. I gotta admit, when I first got back in contact with… [Read more]

You’ve probably heard the saying don’t blame the player blame the dame, but what kind of boys do you have, if you can’t trust them to leave your girl. I remember the first time I ran into this problem was when I dated a really attractive girl in college. Some of my supposed friends thought it was cool to try and get with her behind my sleeping back, unknowing that she was reporting back to me about every incident. There seems to be two very different opinions on this thing, each placing the brunt of the responsibility on either side. What I mean is we have guys who believe that it’s the ultimate test of their girl’s loyalty if she can suffer the whims of the crowd and then there are guys who believe that their boys should know better, even if their girl is giving them positive feedback when they push up on her…. [Read more]

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Many of us have been caught up with an attractive woman who would not let us “seal the deal”. She does just enough to keep you around but when you proceed farther, she shoots you down or limps away quickly. The term for this is normally called Dick in the Glass Jar Syndrome because in essence you are being trained to become an extra dick in case the one she wants does not work out. Everyone hates to be lonely and the people who suffer most from this fear are people who have been in relationships for a long time. Some people avoid it by being serial daters or serial girlfriends, you never see them alone, yet they are never with someone for a good amount of time. Now I know guys will get defensive and macho then lie that they will dodge the syndrome if they see it coming. But let’s be honest about… [Read more]

It should be common knowledge that women tend to hate on each other more than anyone else on the planet. Just go out on a date with a wife/girlfriend/friend and observe the comments she makes (or the looks she gives) to other women, if you are clueless about this. Well I was curious about whatever happened to some of the musical groups of my past and girl band SWV was up on my list today. After doing some sleuthing I found out that one is married, one likes girls, and one is an author! When I saw this, I immediately looked up the book Player HateHER by Tamara Antrice Johnson (TAJ) and Katrina R. Chambers. Here is an excerpt: “For instance, you’re having a get-together at your house and you realize you still need a few extra odds and ends from the grocery store. You think to yourself let me hurry and get there before… [Read more]