Dating can be fun but many times after what you thought was an awesome first date, you are stuck wondering why your phone calls aren’t being answered or the person’s profile (for you online daters) is no longer viewable. To help you understand what it is that you may have done to lose that perfect date, we have made a list of secondary red flags that people see that aren’t as popular as the typical stuff. You know the standard flags of: bad hygiene, being rude to waiters, texting or using the cellphone, not really listening but waiting to talk, those type of things. Check out the list of innocent red flags and if you’ve been guilty of one in the past, you may want to reconsider doing it on future first dates. 10 things that may impact your first date negatively: 1. Admitting that you are only attracted to her because of her nerdiness… [Read more]

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I’ll never forget the day in High School after some big to-do about Martin Luther King (it was February, Black History Month) when I was in line for my lunch being stared at by a blonde haired girl who looked like she wanted to cry. Without warning this girl started asking me what I wanted for lunch and loading my tray up with items that I could have gotten myself, making me feel weird and uncomfortable along with the confusion that flooded my mind. I didn’t know this girl but I thought about it later (after politely telling her to leave me alone and putting back the items) and I realized that I was her chosen charity case due to the white guilt that comes along with tales of slavery, Jim Crow laws and lynching. Now I am not a veteran nor have I served in the United States Military but I can imagine that… [Read more]

What do you say to a child that has to go to school every day when they know that they will be subjected to abuse? Do you tell them “oh you just stand up to that bully son! I will not be upset if you get suspended for fighting back!” Or do you tell him/her to go to the principal? While parenting is one of the hardest jobs ever, you cannot dismiss bullying as a growth mechanic that will teach your kid a valuable lesson about life. The reason I say this is because no bullied child ever gets over the scars even as adults. Yes, the grade school taunting will make someone self-conscious even if they’re 40 and a CEO of a business. It doesn’t help that the bully is some loser now on a jail rotation and dying. It doesn’t matter that you conquered life and have a beautiful family and more money… [Read more]

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My dear women (and men) of the world, if you are silently complaining about the 3-minute man in your life, you do us all a disservice by keeping it to yourself. If you think that a man automatically knows that he sucks at sex then you are wrong. If you think that a man knows the importance of satisfying your urges as much as his own then you are wrong. Finally, if you think that a man will not try to “fix” his sexual issue after he learns it then you are wrong. Machismo decrees that a man be a sexual dynamo for his woman but when you keep it a dirty little secret you both will lose. Suck at Sex? Then She Will Cheat! I don’t care if you’re the most humble woman in the world, if your guy hasn’t gotten you off in years and I come along and accomplish it in 30… [Read more]

There are many insecure men, countless actually and while they may not come off that way on the surface, in reality they are scared to death. What Makes A Man Insecure The quick answer to this question is society. The same problems that plague women, plague men just the same. Men feel that if they aren’t the richest, most handsome baller in the world, women will not want them. If they find a woman that loves them, it makes them worry that she won’t stick around. There is no cure for a man’s insecurity, he has to cross that bridge of confidence on his own. If a woman is with a man like this she will have many nights of consoling him, telling him she isn’t going anywhere and dealing with his jealous overreactions. A Man Shouldn’t Compare Himself To His Woman If you’re a confident man then you don’t add up what you have… [Read more]

Look as a man you are going to be tempted with beautiful “strange” at least once in your lifetime and it won’t matter if your wife is as beautiful and lusty as a Jada Pinkett-Smith or an Angelina Jolie-Pitt, you are going to think really hard on it. Come on man, you mean to tell me that you are so much greater than every other man that you could never in a million years be tempted to rendezvous with a seductress? Of course you will and for the weaker men who fold to the allure of strange ass you have a choice in HOW to deal with your guilt, your shame, and your WIFE! Why be an asshole about it? Become a cheater but for the sake of your nuptials and family become a “respectable cheater”, by keeping omerta and keeping your people unaware. The following are 5 simple steps in this process to help… [Read more]

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Many times we are faced with the unfortunate situation of squaring off with our “better half” over a disagreement. Some couples settle things passive aggressively, some come to fisticuffs (don’t do it fellas) and others come to a ground and go right back to loving one another. For the people who aren’t fortunate enough to settle things in a fight – the worst things are said, heard and remembered. These verbal barbs are sometimes worse than punches as they stay with you forever and can make for you to really hate your partner. The following list contains some of the most venomous words heard by men when their women are intent on causing hurt. For you men reading, let me know if any have been left out. 10 Things Women Say in Arguments To Hurt Men It’s funny how much you hate your father when you’re just like him in every way. You need to… [Read more]

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One of my favorite cable series as a “History Homer” is Spartacus on Starz, the show is not for the prudish as there are hardcore sexual and homosexual scenes, violence, rape, limitless drama, and full frontal nudity of men and women equally. Homophobes stay far away from it as it will scar you beyond measure, but you regular folks out there ought to check it out if you get a chance. Spartacus: Blood and Sands introduced us to many powerful characters, some honorable, some ruthless and some who were just plain evil. Of all the men and women that we got to know personally, none was more honorable than one Oenomaus the Doctore for the Ludus of Batiatus. Oenomaus The Gladiator Legend Oenomaus was a legendary gladiator whose skills were beyond match, so much so that he was destined to win the coveted Rudis (a wooden sword of freedom) which was awarded to only the… [Read more]