“Dear Dragon, I read your site often and I am a big Jessica Alba fan (seen her on your top 100) but my girl is giving me all sorts of grief about her. What do you say about a girl who gets jealous about your celebrity crush? I notice that she even talks about dudes like Bradley Cooper and I don’t even trip over it but she get mad over Alba? Sup with that?” – Frustrated Fred Men of the Hall, take this however you want to take it but if you are with a new girl and she freaks out over your liking a celebrity woman or watching porn then you are in for a world of hurt if you stick around. There is nothing positive that comes out of dating a control freak with low self-esteem and that chick will ruin you and waste your time by the time she’s finished. A… [Read more]

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There’s an understanding amongst men (sometimes expressed in conversation) about women when it comes to dating. Men as a whole expect that a bachelor, with money, and a good head for conversation can bag any chick he wants all because we have women bottled up into a casual stereotype for our understanding. We see women as the prized deer (with horns) that we have to coax into our trap nice and easy, just before pulling the trigger and snacking on venison burgers. The coaxing of course is assumed to be money, charm and a whole line of bull. So what are some of the things that your casual male date may be assuming when he texts you the address to the comedy show that you planned to go see? Take a look at these 5 things… sure they won’t make you happy, but trust me – it is what it is. 1. Women Can Be… [Read more]

Long distance relationships are tricky and take quite a bit of navigating as you work your way through knowing a person and building a memory bank. For those of us who have our lover just around the corner who we see practically every day, knows the challenges we face and will agree that long distance relationships are not for the feint of heart and the insecure. When you are in a long distance relationship, you tend to depend on different means of contact as a measure of the health of your relationship. When you don’t hear from your sweetie, you might resort to second-guessing yourself by asking, “Is he thinking about me?” “Is someone else siphoning her affection?” Many times these shadowy bits of our imagination are dispelled by the next call or visit, and in some cases may open up a keg of insecurity like a leaking ulcer demonstrated by questions and accusations of… [Read more]

Once in a while when a man and a woman is dating there begins to surface a set of questions from the woman as to whether the man is still interested or not. Women let me get this out there first before I address the questions; men aren’t going to give you their heart and intent on a subject matter just because you ask it. This goes for dumb questions like asking a man if he’s gay and it goes for seemingly innocent questions like whether or not we’re bored. Most of the time we either don’t know or we won’t tell you for fear of it becoming the subject of the night. Let a man chill the hell out and he will value your company more than you think. I like to call the question circus “hen pecking”. Have you ever seen chicken go at some feed when there’s barely any left? They peck,… [Read more]

There are many insecure men, countless actually and while they may not come off that way on the surface, in reality they are scared to death. What Makes A Man Insecure The quick answer to this question is society. The same problems that plague women, plague men just the same. Men feel that if they aren’t the richest, most handsome baller in the world, women will not want them. If they find a woman that loves them, it makes them worry that she won’t stick around. There is no cure for a man’s insecurity, he has to cross that bridge of confidence on his own. If a woman is with a man like this she will have many nights of consoling him, telling him she isn’t going anywhere and dealing with his jealous overreactions. A Man Shouldn’t Compare Himself To His Woman If you’re a confident man then you don’t add up what you have… [Read more]

Look as a man you are going to be tempted with beautiful “strange” at least once in your lifetime and it won’t matter if your wife is as beautiful and lusty as a Jada Pinkett-Smith or an Angelina Jolie-Pitt, you are going to think really hard on it. Come on man, you mean to tell me that you are so much greater than every other man that you could never in a million years be tempted to rendezvous with a seductress? Of course you will and for the weaker men who fold to the allure of strange ass you have a choice in HOW to deal with your guilt, your shame, and your WIFE! Why be an asshole about it? Become a cheater but for the sake of your nuptials and family become a “respectable cheater”, by keeping omerta and keeping your people unaware. The following are 5 simple steps in this process to help… [Read more]

Dating is a game, and with that game comes a lot of misconceptions. One of those misconceptions is when women think that they are “getting over” when they get a free drink or dinner from a guy – then they break off contact or don’t give him the phone number. This concept can be illustrated in the following quote taken from an article written by a woman who was lamenting on why she doesn’t like “nice men”. “On the other hand, to women looking for a quick ego fix or just a free drink, nice guys read “sucker”. Nice guys are easy to take advantage of and score freebies from. You teach people how to treat you, so if you act insecure and needy, people (and that includes women) will treat you as such. Insecurity is a major turnoff.” This is the problem with SOME women (please take note that I did not say all… [Read more]

Although much has been said about how independent young women are today (they earn more than men in big cities, boldly ask out attractive men, and confidently remain single when no suitable mate can be found), clearly there are still some women who can be defined as clingy when they’re in  a new relationship. A lot of men do not enjoy dating clingy women because they feel it hinders their ability to have a life outside of the relationship, and internally it reveals just how insecure the woman they are dating is about herself.  No one wants to date a person who runs around fearing they are going to be dumped or cheated on every minute. To be fair, it’s normal to feel a little insecure when you first start dating someone because the relationship’s status is so up in the air, but there is something called quiet insecurity.  When you start letting it show… [Read more]