Results For "judgment"
Jan 14

Imagine that you come home from a long, stressful day of work, and you walk inside of your house to find that you’re in The Twilight Zone. Your vision blurs, you lose your balance, and you end up in a long hallway lined with doors. The hallway seems to go on forever, and when you try one of the doors it opens up to a large 60″ television, an assortment of game systems–with games–and the cushiest seat known to man. Sounds awesome, right? The next door has a new PC, fast internet, and your Facebook profile is beckoning you to hop on and engage with friends and family. You close the door fast (that Facebook crack rock is mean!), now understanding that the doors all lead to comfortable, fun things, but you want to know what’s at the end of the hall. As you start down the hall peeking into… [Read more]

May 20

They say that all we need is love but in reality all we need is someone that fits into our world that worships the same god we do, stays thin, is of a “good” height, and can broil a mean fish dinner (Afro Samurai reference ftw). Our standards can seem—for lack of a better term—ridiculous when we write them down on paper can’t they? Everyone has their flavor but many of our preferences are echoed by so many that it seems like a normal thing to demand them of people who can’t fix it. Like height! Seriously? In any event, the following list is of ten deal breakers that I have heard over the years when it comes to dating. 1. Hygiene isn’t just a greeting Get it? Like “Hi Gene”? No? Okay whatever. Ever get into a relationship with someone that you really like only to… [Read more]

Jan 13

It’s a common thing for a group to look outside at another group–especially one it deems it’s opposite–and speak down on them in the most negative way possible. We see this happening with Christians and Atheists, nerds and “bros”, feminists and alpha males, the list goes on. One of the most unspoken rivalries that is going strong today however is that of the hustling Capitalist versus the opinionated “normal”. I really don’t know what to call the opinionated “normal”, hence the stupid title. If I was to describe this person, it would be someone deemed as chronically “normal”. It is a person who is normally married, employed with mid-level wages, or their wife/husband is, and they are good with where they are in life. This person is an unrecognized enemy of the hustler because the attacks they lobby against one another are done within the… [Read more]

Nov 01

“Hot damn hoe, here we go again.” – MC Lyte When Jay-Z learned that Cristal Wine didn’t have black people in their best interests, he quickly dropped them and let it be known publically that he no longer supported them. Now that Barneys New York is under investigation, his silence suddenly makes him labeled as the biggest coon in the world to Black America.  Why do people think that because Jay-Z is black and ridiculously rich, that he will turn into Jesse Jackson overnight? Go ahead and mull that over while I sit here shaking my head. For years upon years Shawn “Jay-Z” Carter has given us the raw facts about who he is. We all know who Jay-Z is; he is a hustler, survivor, and one of the luckiest men on earth with a great portfolio, successful wife and a beautiful baby daughter. Jay-Z has never… [Read more]

Sep 27

There you are in a dystopian future where sex leaves you marked with a line on the underside of your arm. The only way to avoid more marks is to keep having sex with the same person, since the mark comes with every new sexual encounter. How much different would we be when it comes to sleeping around, infidelity and player rank? Many men go into relationships hoping that the love of their life has a minimal sexual track record. We don’t take into account that the one partner our lady had probably slept with her over 100 times but we push to know if there has been multiple partners. If the mark existed in society then the lies that women feel pressured into telling about their sexual past would diminish greatly. The men who push to have this information would be forced to show… [Read more]

Aug 06

I feel like I’ve been seeing articles and blogs all over the place talking about people that are living their lives childless. As if it’s some kind of condition. As I was making my coffee this morning I heard a journalist leading into a story on this topic and asked the question, “Have Americans really become so selfish that ‘having it all…’ means having no kids?” Really? I was instantly transported back to when I worked with sixth grade girls and we were having a discussion about what it means to be a woman and one of the students turned to me and asked, “Don’t you wanna be a woman, miss?” Confused since I was hovering right around the ripe old age of 30, had a full time job, my own car, apartment and a had received at least two college degrees, I asked her… [Read more]

Jul 19

There will be times that come along in a man’s life when the pressure of family, friends and society leads to the single life seeming inadequate. It’s quite unfortunate how nosy people can get and how much judgment is levied upon others when they don’t fit into the slot of “normalcy” that the rest of the mundane world has created for them. Whenever I get those sort of questions I either answer them honestly or tell that person to mind their own business and not worry about mine—depending on who it is—but I understand that my frank attitude is not one that many of you have. One thing that I want to bring across to you young men out there who have felt the need to lie to long distance parents, friends and others that you are dating someone is that you will feel a… [Read more]

Jul 02

Whenever there is a crisis it seems that the first line of defense that people always take is to shame the perpetrators into changing. In our modern, cynical society this strategy is a waste of time. Shaming and repeating the same accusations also tends to make the accusers look like whiners versus garnering support from those who watch from the sidelines. It is akin to a court trial where the court looks for an accusation, a judgment, and of course a verdict which could lead to punishment. The way that we have been going at deadbeat dads is like a judge who keeps on repeating the accusations without allowing the court proceedings to move forward. So what should we be doing? Personally I believe that there are 2 factors that can possibly slow the tide of absentee fathers. These factors are the abandoned male children… [Read more]