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Don’t you hate nosy people? I know I do. Many of us men come up being extremely private to the point where we turn off family members and friends just by the amount of silence we keep about our love lives. Oft times this code of silence comes from being burnt one too many times by big-mouthed people who make us feel uncomfortable for our preferences and choices throughout our dating lives. Having dated a number of different women from across the spectrum of race, style and class – I know all too well the comments and hurtful jokes that gets thrown at single men for their choices. When I was in college I dated a number of light-skinned black girls, not because that was my thing, but because they were the ones who were talking back to me. You know the game denizens, hell if you read my articles enough, you know why this… [Read more]

When we meet someone we accept them on one level and tolerate them on another. Basically it is rare that you meet a friend or lover that doesn’t have some trait that we have to look past in order to accept them. It is for this reason that change in a relationship has to be gradual in order to ease the other person into it or they will run for the hills at the sight of what you have become. In our society I believe that weight and religion are the main 2 offenders of the change rule for people. Now some of you may say “no Greg, it’s gotta be money and the pressure of marriage that puts strain on relationships” but I would counter that someone being bad with money doesn’t happen overnight and marriage pressure happens to everybody in one way or another. No, we like for our lovers to remain the… [Read more]

Now that I have experienced what it is to have a “failed marriage”, I often wonder why I am still hopeful about getting married again, and making it work. With the high rates of divorce and broken relationships, heightened by the recent debacle of Kim Kardashian, it is so easy to become cynical about “I dos”. Everybody has a personal rule as to what assures success or sure failure in marriage. I have heard advice ranging from “live with the person for at lest year, as in a trial run”, to the other side that says “If you shack up, your marriage is guaranteed to fail”.  There are also those who counsel – “Make sure you get to “know” the person. Date for at least one to three years”; yet I have a friend who got married two weeks meeting her husband, and in June of 2012 will celebrate their 40th anniversary. In twisted reference,… [Read more]

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Why spend a mint on a huge wedding only to lead a life of hard grinding, a debt ceiling that is as tall as a cathedral and an unhappy wife/husband bitching about money? Now as your friend and/or family member we have to hear you complain about your financial situation and how hard it is to keep up… yet you have a double income coming in. Why didn’t you think of this before showing up everyone with your 6-figure wedding bash? How is it impressing people if they already know that you’re about to spend 10+ years in the trenches struggling and putting strain on your marriage by working a way out of the hole that you’ve put yourself in? Recently I went to the wedding of a good friend of mine and it was small, intimate and very cost-effective. The couple love and understand one another to the point that they worked hard to… [Read more]

As if by magic, as soon as you turn 20 the question rears its ugly head. “When are you going to get married?” To be fair, I have been dating the same man for almost 3 years now and we have discussed the concept of marriage. Lucky me, we both seem to be on the same page. Marriage is something we are both interested in, but not something we want to rush into. I’m actually quite skeptical of marriage. The sacrament does not mean that you and your partner will never part. It does not mean you are each other’s slaves and it does not mean the relationship is easy. Love exists even if there is no marriage. The ability to have a family exists even if there is no marriage. People can live their whole lives together, happily in love, with many children, and never walk down the aisle. The only thing marriage gives… [Read more]

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Newsflash, another celebrity is getting divorced! After 72 days of marriage, Kim Kardashian’s romance with Kris Humphries took a tragic turn as the E! reality star filed for divorce. Has the speedy termination of her wedding caused American youth to think twice about marriage? Probably. The truth is, Hollywood has been a long running bad advertisement for marriage in general. Seventy-two days is awesome! That’s about two whole months! I can list at least 5 Hollywood couples that didn’t last half that long. As a matter of fact, I think I will. Zsa Zsa Garbir and Felipe De Alba’s marriage was annulled after one day of marriage in 1982. Ms. Garbir was a big deal in early Hollywood. She even stared in the 1952 Moulin Rouge. This was her 8th marriage, and it wasn’t her last. Pop Star Britney Spears and Kevin Federline made headlines in 2004 when they married and had the ceremony annulled… [Read more]

Editor’s Note: I use very strong language in this post so care bears beware. There seems to be this attitude from people on the outside that the woman you cheat on your wife with had better look a lot better than your wife does. We take for granted the situation with which you meet and eventually begin sleeping with these women and instead imagine the world that Hollywood gives us in terms of “the jump-off”. Consider Tony Soprano, a husky mob boss on HBO’s The Sopranos who leaves the thick goodness that is his wife Carmella (played by Edie Falco) to go play in some of the most beautiful Italian and Russian women’s bedrooms. Tony pursues these women because he doesn’t respect his wife and family, he is a predatory person in all aspects of his life so marriage vows are a joke – he sees them, he woos them and then he jumps them… [Read more]

If you and your lover are always together, sharing friends, sharing hobbies, living, eating, breathing together every second of the day, you may start to find that your “still single” friends are not as friendly as they were back when you were in the salt mines together. What you may not realize is that you have informally lost your name in lieu of some combination thing that you are being referred as behind your back. You are no longer Bill and Jennifer, you’re Bennifer, no longer Sean and Elizabeth, you’re Shelizabeth. you have put this crown unto your head by making the mistake of being with your lady/man ALL THE TIME. Let Me Explain… I have 2 sets of happily married friends, one guy will come out with us solo and then return home when the night is over. We see his wife on events labeled “family”, at cookouts, on poker nights and during sporting… [Read more]