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Aug 25
Three men at a bachelor party

Having attended and partially hosted a number of bachelor parties, I have learned that it is very easy to get the groom burned instead of entertained and sent off into the magical world of marriage. Most of the problems that arise from this tradition is due to men behaving badly, and though most of it is avoidable, you will always have an idiot losing his mind and burning everyone in the process. Selfishness and a spotty memory comes with the alcohol that flows at a bachelor party, so it becomes really easy to forget why you’re there. The bachelor parties that end up being the most successful tend to be the ones where the groom’s true friends are there. Friends who want to make sure that whatever they do, the man is entertained and sent off properly. Disaster strikes when you have a married guy… [Read more]

Jun 25

In a memorable episode of AMC’s Mad Men the leading man Don Draper ran into his ex-wife (pun intended) at a location where her husband and his wife weren’t in attendance. Scandalous? Sure It is, but realistic? A bit more than we would like to admit. I have always felt that matters of the heart are one thing but sex is in its own category of things. When we have broken the barrier of nakedness and sex with a partner, rekindling those old flames to “jump right back in there” tends to not feel as taboo as it should for us, now does it? This is the main reason why I had to tell my long lost beauty of a college sweetheart goodbye when I settled down with the woman of my life. I knew that if she was anywhere within reach, horny, and trying me – chances… [Read more]

May 20

They say that all we need is love but in reality all we need is someone that fits into our world that worships the same god we do, stays thin, is of a “good” height, and can broil a mean fish dinner (Afro Samurai reference ftw). Our standards can seem—for lack of a better term—ridiculous when we write them down on paper can’t they? Everyone has their flavor but many of our preferences are echoed by so many that it seems like a normal thing to demand them of people who can’t fix it. Like height! Seriously? In any event, the following list is of ten deal breakers that I have heard over the years when it comes to dating. 1. Hygiene isn’t just a greeting Get it? Like “Hi Gene”? No? Okay whatever. Ever get into a relationship with someone that you really like only to… [Read more]

Nov 26

In another one of those “studies that tend to piss women off” it was recently found that the secret to marital bliss—for men—is in having an attractive wife! In a study, published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 450 newlywed couples were given the lab animal treatment for four years and psychologist Andrea Meltzer along with her team came to the conclusion that a woman’s beauty plays a major role in her husband’s marital satisfaction. On the flip-side a man’s attractiveness served little impact on his wife’s happiness throughout so it will suffice to say that we are as shallow as we are said to be… or worse. No, not really… keep reading. It leads me to think of a scenario where a man is having a hard time connecting with his beautiful wife but every time he wakes up and sees her… [Read more]

Aug 08

“Dear Dragon, I really enjoy your website and seem to agree with you on many of the articles you post. I’d like some advice on the ways of living a single life.  Every time I meet up with them the conversation seems to eventually turn to how I shouldn’t be single (as if its some kind of hardship), how they wish I was as happy as they are (I’m happier than they seem to be), how I “deserve” someone (What does that even mean?). Then out come the list of potential girlfriends, or even worse than the list we “accidentally” bump into one of these women. I’ve tried telling them that I am happy doing my own thing for the moment, that I hate blind dates, that I have plenty of time to marry should I wish to in the future, that I’m concentrating on my… [Read more]

Aug 05

Many times in the past I have asked married people to stay in their lane when it comes to singles, their dating, and their love lives. The reason for this is the incessant pandering, needling, and urging that married friends tend to do in order to beg their single friends to join the club. Can’t stand to be miserable alone I guess (I kid), but I can count on my hand the number of married couples I know that don’t do this.  Recently a buddy of mine met a lady that he really liked and since she was posting so many photos of them having a good time together they agreed that flipping dat ‘ol Facebook switch would not be a big deal. A relationship status to match their reality and then all of the guessing by admirers, nosy folks, and well-to-dos would go away…. [Read more]

Jul 18

When the book, He’s Just Not that Into You by Greg Behrendt hit bookshelves it seemed like it was a much needed dose of reality for some ladies; giving women a glimpse of how men are really seeing you and how many men are simply turned off by certain behaviors.  While also providing women with the harsh truth that when men treat you badly and you forgive him time and again, that we are enabling their shitty treatment of women. “Don’t spend your time on and give your heart to any guy who makes you wonder about anything related to his feelings for you.” – Greg Behrendt Not getting married or not being proposed to simply will not make the world stop from turning. Finding someone that makes you happy and fits into your world the way that you need them to and you for them… [Read more]

May 09

Is marriage the gold standard that all couples are meant to reach in their relationship? If we do not have a diamond ring and wedding bands circling the third finger of our left hand, a home with a picket fence and children are we missing the mark somehow? Speaking strictly from my own experiences of dating, love and marriage – I don’t think so. Some research has shown that cohabitation is a sort of illusion of a trial marriage type of thing. And that is only correct if we are assuming that marriage is the end goal. And also assuming that marriage equals commitment; and sadly to say that when we have a human factor involved – there is no guaranteed commitment. To be clear, I am not anti-marriage but I am also not pro-marriage; I am in a committed relationship with my partner and… [Read more]