Results For "mentality"
Oct 31

“I sexed more with conversation than I ever did with my penis or my tongue.” – Iceberg Slim If you’ve read any of Robert Beck’s books you will understand why his genius and mastery of words reflect a complex creature that could not be summed up simply as a pimp. His words had a way of putting you in the moment, lulling you into his reality of wire hanger whippings, luxurious hotel rooms, and the drugs of the time that kept him so aloof that he earned the street moniker Iceberg. Pimping is a cruel, evil institution that has been strangely glamorized in Hollywood and music alike, but to say that the mythical pimp (not the real kind) does not hold a certain appeal to damaged young men is to be dishonest or dare I say ignorant to the culture. What is it about a pimp that… [Read more]

Oct 02

Do the people in your life stress you out when they bring up the word “vacation”? If yes, then welcome to the club my friend, here’s a jacket and a cigar, have a seat. For those of you whose idea of a vacation is to squeeze in as many activities as possible within an agenda, let me explain to you why many of us “workaholics” opt out of your plans if possible. Some (not all) of us are so pressured by our jobs that time away becomes time punished due to the backlash that occurs on our return. For the outsider who isn’t in a position like this privilege makes them say “you need to get away! You work too much.” This makes a lot of sense when you’re on the outside look in but it will not compute in the mind of the painfully… [Read more]

Jul 25

Ever wonder if men treat beautiful women any different than a cute chick when dating? Well the answer to that would be yes and it is something that many men will never admit. Many guys will feign confidence and doing things for themselves but there is nothing like the feeling of being out with a beautiful woman as every guy in the building looks on with what you assume is envy. It’s a machismo thing that many women will never understand but if a man is on a date with a beauty, he will constantly check the room to make sure that the other guys are noticing. Mix in another couple with an equally or more beautiful woman and he’ll chill out but don’t let him think that he is with the best looking woman in there – his head will be the size of… [Read more]

Jan 29

Shame on me for reading an article on marriage from the king of conservative websites, but my curiosity led me over to Fox News to read Steven Crowder’s A man’s top 5 reasons to grow up and get married. Expecting a solid piece giving new energy to the notion of marriage, I instead got an offensive piece of Beta man garbage rife with insults at any man who didn’t fit into the married club. The narrative was one of fairy-tale fantasy that directly contradicted the realistic view that intelligent married couples have been trying to present in the last few years. The pragmatic married couple who single folks respect will tell you that marriage takes work, it takes sacrifice, and the rewards may not always be worth the effort. The people who argue for marriage will tell you that for all the hard times you… [Read more]

Sep 13
woman in bed

Everyone has an opinion about tattoos, from concerned parents, to people whose only experience with them is seeing Wiz Khalifa on a music video. We can all agree that tattoos have blown up into the mainstream at a rate that is faster than the speed of light and a culture once reserved for “true rebels” has become another fad like dreads, piercings, and bleaching one’s hair. But so what? Personally I admire tattoos, being an artist I cannot help but glare in amazement at a Yakuza-caliber sleeve on someone’s arm, or a well done likeness of someone’s parent, favorite celebrity, or cartoon character. When I see subpar work, or something I feel is just plain stupid (ice cream cone on the face), I keep it to myself and keep it moving. I wish everyone else would do the same (let people be) yet almost weekly… [Read more]

Jul 09
woman in white

I am lucky to know many beautiful women in my life and I will say that when you are blessed with looks you are forced to command the type of treatment the world will give you because by default it will be negative. Hate is the way of society, it just is; if you have money you are called greedy by those who don’t and if you are famous you are labeled abnormal or a weirdo through rumor and gossip. This crabs in a bucket mentality of people forces them to tear someone down who is better in any degree in order to normalize them. For this – a beautiful woman is automatically viewed a s a bitch, a whore, a man-stealer, stuck-up, dumb, lazy… I can keep going. I have sat in conversations where someone was unnecessarily labeled like this by someone who was… [Read more]

May 29
james dean

So what is the difference between High School cool and Adult cool? Well we define our own brand of cool when we become confident in our own skin (if you’re lucky), confident in our career, and confident in our love life. Adult cool can be the 40 yr. old father who still dresses like the cool cats of his day, or it can be the child-at-heart uncle who delights in doing projects around his house. Cool is a mindset, it is confidence, and adult cool to us here at the Hall of The Black Dragon is when you get to the point where nobody  can question your sense of style, you are good where you are. Teenage cool however is being accepted by everyone else, it’s a tribal type of mentality where you do things to be seen as normal by others. Many adults are… [Read more]

May 08
Single father dilemma

There comes a time and age when a single man settles on the fact that the woman he ends up with will have a ready-made family for him. It’s the price we pay for showing up late to the ball; by the time single guy has defeated the work-force, made his bones, and decides on the whole nuclear family bit at 30+, his queen-to-be will have already danced the dance with another man. The bachelor accepts this, tries to look past it for love, and hopefully does a pretty damn good job of snapping into the role once they are married. Now of course there are many single men who hold out of their Golden Pegasus with no kids, but these guys aren’t exactly successful when it comes to sealing the deal. Baggage has a lot more faces than merely having children with another man,… [Read more]