Results For "misunderstanding"
Jun 13

While single men and married men can hang-out and do many things together, there are a few zones that are just awkward when you’re single. Like it or not there are two differing factions when it comes to your social life. There’s the Player’s Club for Singles and the Couple’s Getaway Club for Married folks. Awkward feelings tend to arise when a member of one of these Clubs tries to enter into the other without the proper credentials. Being that I have been the awkward single guy at many a Couple’s Getaway, I’ve compiled a list of events that you should probably avoid attending as a single man. Weddings (when you’re the last friend single)  If you have a great group of friends and you’re the last one left not married, attending that guy’s wedding will put a lot of attention on you. Prepare to have all the newly married… [Read more]

Feb 10

There’s a lot to be said about hustling. You will find that a lot of “hustlers” brag on their ability to take a beating and “do what it takes,” but is that something to brag about? Their life is not really enviable, is it? It’s not enough to hustle, just like it’s not enough to be self-employed. – which people brag about quite a bit. Speaking from experience, a good number of people who brag about having their own thing are not doing as well as they would have you believe. Remember, entrepreneurship is a lonely journey. After several years of writing my own checks and grinding out 12 hour workdays, the idea of “being my own boss,” paled in comparison to the idea of “getting out.” I never bragged about my hustling but I know that a lot of people envied me for “setting my own… [Read more]

Mar 24

One thing we can all agree on is that we look to a leader to guide the way. Many associate leadership with bossing someone around which is understandable given the types of “managers” that populate the work force nowadays. But don’t get it twisted, a leader is a bit more than that. This misunderstanding of leadership becomes even more prevalent when a man hears a woman say that she desires a husband to “be a leader” in one breath while claiming independence in another. It may sound confusing but it’s not when you understand the concept of leadership. A Leader Versus A Boss Just from reading the titles “boss” and “leader” I am willing to bet that your mind rings negatively to one and positively to the other. Am I right? A leader seems elected, as in someone you want to follow whereas a boss… [Read more]

Aug 15

Are you easily manipulated? I am quite sure you answered no to my question but if you are a Twitter user then chances are you have been manipulated and led to anger by someone’s tweets. Think about it, were you one of those people who got suckered into championing a cause off of Twitter only to find out later that you were wrong? I’ve noticed something about Twitter and I am sure that many of you have noticed it too. Twitter has become the staging ground for passive aggressive attacks and for goading celebrities into responding. As a writer I know all too well how easy it is for people to mistake my intent and miss out on context whenever I write. Throw in my cynical and sarcastic wit and you get a huge divide between those who get it (and laugh) and those who… [Read more]

May 21

As we become more vocal about our needs, wants, and humanity, a lot of things that have been stereotyped as the norm for us have been proven otherwise and it is blowing women’s minds. One of these “things” happens to be the stereotype that all men are sex-craved animals. Some women get into marriages assuming that they can use their Mountain of Venus as a bargaining chip, a reward for hubby washing the car, mowing the lawn, or any number of other chores; but chances are nowadays that hubby ends up barely being in the mood to begin with. What comes of this is a woman desperately seeking answers to the lack of sex-drive that her man seems to have and then the accusations begin to fly… Does he have another woman, is he obsessed with porn (you gotta love this one), is he drinking… [Read more]

Apr 02
Mixed couple in bed fighting

There have been quite a few guys that have gotten in trouble for masturbating in the absence of their girlfriends or wives. Why did they get in trouble? Well it is normally a mix of mistrust, misunderstanding and naivete by the woman. See a man may look at masturbation as a means to an end, he has the urge and he wants to alleviate it as soon as possible. Some women counter that they should be enough to satisfy a man’s desires, but men require action at a much more aggressive rate than a woman does and a woman who has a problem with her man masturbating is probably not a sexual nymph that is willing to go at any given moment. Hence the problem. It is for this reason that I advise men to get with women who match their tastes in sex and… [Read more]

Jul 29

Dear Dragon, I was at a bar with a buddy of mine and as we were leaving a group of gals cat-called him over to them and they began talking. After about 5 minutes of this I go over there and the chick he was talking to introduced me to her friend. Trying to obey the Man Laws on being a wing man, I chatted up her friend and things were going great. For some reason my friend got really quiet with his chick and she proceeds to come over and join in on our conversation. She then put her hand on mine and took me away from her friend, telling me to ask for her number. Looking up for my bud, I noticed he had left when I wasn’t looking and in front of me was the hot chick that he was talking with… [Read more]

May 12

There is a common understanding amongst men that most guys have a flavor (type of woman) that they are predisposed to. While the lusting for extremely young, old or muscular women is seen as taboo and disturbing to a number of guys, having an exclusivity to a race really isn’t as abnormal as the media makes it out to be. I know white guys who have blonde fetishes, redhead fetishes, Asian fetishes and I use fetish to mean women they go nuts for just because they are within that pool. I know black men who have Latina fetishes, Russian accent fetishes and light-skinned, caramel bi-racial fetishes. I even know Asian men who have fetishes for blond girl-next-door types. These are all lusts that are seen as a big horrible, racial issue when it comes to relationship chats about race. Embittered women will bemoan the constant… [Read more]