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I wish that we would all reveal our cards at the table when we go out on dates. Either that or wear shirts with our issues stamped on them so as to warn our potential future mates that they are in for a bumpy ride. Imagine getting this info upfront via a t-shirt design when going out on a date: Emotionally Unavailable WARNING! Daddy Issues but great sex Lacks friends, will cling hard Psycho Girlfriend in Training Has Multiple Children… With Different Dads/Moms Momma’s Boy Sucks at Sex and Refuses to Learn Nazi Neat Freak / Disgusting Slob Closet Racist / Sexist / Homophobe (pick your poison) Potential to Stalk It’s funny how we fill out online surveys and questionnaires in order to find our “perfect match” through online dating but still leave out the main reason our last lover dumped us and moved on. Why can’t we be honest with ourselves? Isn’t that the… [Read more]

One of my friends (a young lady that we’ll call Veronica for the sake of this article) is on the market for a guy. Like many of us who choose life over romance throughout our years, Veronica finds herself on the north side of 30 and in want of a guy who will accept her. Given my history with Veronica I knew what it was that she enjoyed. She is active, she does martial arts, dances in parades and is a big time artist. These qualities make her atypical of the standard black girl mold and it was what attracted me to her in the first place (forever and a day ago when we were a thing). Now I am in one spot and happy and she is beginning to feel the need for love after many years of flying solo. The few guys that she had encountered throughout life had been for lack of… [Read more]

Many people have misconceptions about the concept of online dating; I have heard many people get advice from friends to stay away.  People who tell others to avoid online dating are generally people who do not understand it themselves, and have probably never tried it themselves either.  This trend can also be seen if you start to look through some of the online dating profiles where you see comments like, “I never thought I would be doing this.”, or “apparently it has come to this me making a profile online.”, like it’s some sort of last death march for their dating life. Online dating is a perfectly normal way to meet people What these people do not realize is online dating is a perfectly normal way to meet people in this day and age.  The belief that all people who are on an online dating site are somehow undesirable, or incapable of finding a date… [Read more]

Dating has evolved over the last fifty years, and with the evolution of online dating and streamlined air travel the world has become smaller.  What I mean by that is simple; you can wake up in Florida hop on a plane and be in Los Angeles in about five hours as long as you have the means to purchase a plane ticket.  This gives you access to thousands more potential dates than you could have had about five decades ago, so with all of these choices and ways to meet people why would you bet the farm on one person?  To say it in a traditional sense, why would you put all of your eggs in one basket? Too many people are focusing all of their time and effort on one person without having a backup plan just in case it does not work out.  This is a common mistake and should be avoided at… [Read more]

So you use the internet for work, gaming and surfing porn but somehow online dating is still taboo to you. Why is this? Don’t you know that as time passes on and you become busier, more locked into a routine and more inflexible to change, the dating pool will shrink to a mere cup? With online dating you can have your cake and eat it too. Instead of forcing in time to troll the bars of TGIF and Bennigan’s looking for tipsy, happy hour single, you could easily login, scroll through some attractive profiles and try your hand at a connection. Given the stigmas with online dating and the “uncool” factor that gets associated with it, many people (especially women) will express their uncomfortable feelings about trying things via the internet. We are adults, if appearing “cool” still matters to you, then nothing I say will help your plight anyway. The people who find online… [Read more]

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I seem to come across articles daily bemoaning the plight of the single black female, no not women of color but black women specifically. I will say this to you black women, you aren’t the only ones that are sick and tired of reading these statistics and blog fodder so don’t feel like it’s the world against you. One of the reason these articles are so hot for journalists is because it inspires immediate emotion and bitterness from the accused. Hell go to any blog about the subject and hear the echoes of how sh-tty us black men are and how you all need to start looking elsewhere. Well the dragon is here to help you move on and break the stereotype. Unlike other blogs who wish to highlight the problem and air out your dirty laundry, we offer you suggestions and solutions, from the viewpoint of a black male. One thing that I keep… [Read more]

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As you know, I am a big backer for online dating. In this cyber age of 9 to 5 jobs, side hustles and responsibilities, it gets tough for a single guy to break routine and go fishing for booty. And who do you have pushing you to date? Your married friends (who probably got hitched young thus having zero experience in the dating field), your hen pecking mom and probably a nosy co-worker or two. Maybe you just got lonely, you start realizing that you are constantly the 5th wheel when you hangout with friends and it begins to bother you. So you try the traditional means, you hit up a loud, nasty club/bar where some drunk, loser chick either ends up wasting your time or giving you her number – or the ass if she likes  you enough (don’t you love how I say this like it’s easy). If the club fails you could… [Read more]

Anybody else ever get this message from women seeking a date? “Hi I like your complexion, I really think we need to hook up, blah, blah, blah” Well I have yet to got this one from non black women but I am willing to bet it’s on the tip of their tongues when contacting me. What’s the deal? this is a new one to me yet lately, I’ve gotten quite a few women emailing that “compliment” in the last month or so. Everytime I see this, I think “fetish” or “shallow” because seriously who would say such a thing? Some quick sex is one thing but I probably won’t take you serious when you say this. I realise that dark skinned men are some sort of fad thing for girls nowadays but this is just weird. I remember the early days of school up until college where girls were looking for the bright, near-white type. Now… [Read more]