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Editor’s Note: Don’t be a reactionary troll from my title, read the article. According to a lot of men, the idea of a suitcase carrying woman in a pantsuit does not vibe well with the happy housewife image that is the conservative ideal. This accounts to many of the issues women with strong careers have with finding a peer (in business) to date and marry. Men aren’t necessarily looking for a “lesser” woman to marry but they are looking for a woman who fits into the mold of what is shown as the ideal. Donald Draper looks for Betty Draper not a Peggy Olson aka the career driven go-hard that’s pretty but focused on the prize. Sure this doesn’t account for every male who shies away from single professional women but it describes a healthy chunk of us that run for the hills when we know a woman is an earner. Men who seek a… [Read more]

There’s only a few times when a man can go out with a bunch of single women and not look like a fool to other men in observance: If one of the women is his girl, or a chick that he sleeps with (a lot). If he’s banging all of them and they refer to him as “daddy”. If he’s a parent/chaperone and they are under age at some event. Any other time and he will be the subject of harsh judgment by male standards. Some men assume that the man (pound puppy) in a flock of birds is either gay, or some loser playing bff in hopes that he will gain some pity booty by the end of the night. Reality says that this male is normally some cat that doesn’t realize the folly of his ways. Here are a few misconceptions by the men that hang with groups of women: Other dudes will… [Read more]

One of my friends (a young lady that we’ll call Veronica for the sake of this article) is on the market for a guy. Like many of us who choose life over romance throughout our years, Veronica finds herself on the north side of 30 and in want of a guy who will accept her. Given my history with Veronica I knew what it was that she enjoyed. She is active, she does martial arts, dances in parades and is a big time artist. These qualities make her atypical of the standard black girl mold and it was what attracted me to her in the first place (forever and a day ago when we were a thing). Now I am in one spot and happy and she is beginning to feel the need for love after many years of flying solo. The few guys that she had encountered throughout life had been for lack of… [Read more]

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I am about tired of these commercials, not because of the underlying clueless racism in them, but the fact that they are tired and very late to the party. Last year (2010) it was open season on black women as blogs and the media took to task the “solving” of the black woman’s single problem. Every single day on “black blogs” there was post after post bemoaning the plight of these women in their single-hood, while an underlying and sometimes well hidden insult was  being ushered against the black male. This was black people attacking black people about a problem that isn’t exclusively black – but let them tell it. From the war that ensued between the successful  but single women and the “relationship experts” who chose to capitalize on it their rose the image of the bitter black bitch. Who is The Bitter Black Bitch? Well turn on your television and you won’t have… [Read more]

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Look ladies and gentlemen, if you are with a new love that makes you feel like a million bucks all at the expense of your child then you need to wake up and realize that you are being selfish. While it’s important that you take care of your happiness along with your child’s during his/her 18 year stint in your home, it is still important that the child is happy. I’ve seen it from I was a shorty, single women moving in assholes on their children in hopes that the two will warm up to one another in time. Let me be completely honest with you, many guys will NEVER warm up to your children based off the fact that they aren’t of his seed. Hell he may end up treating his own flesh/blood like shit while keeping you up on that golden pedestal, is that worth your child’s sanity? I want to meet your… [Read more]

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Happy Hour This is easy-mode scamming for the young wolf. Think about it, you have a collective of women from the office, some single, some unhappily married and most cougars that are looking forward to some two-for-one drink action, a little eye-candy (which is where you come in) and some good laughs (all you again). Attending Happy Hour frequently with the same bunch can lead to a chance at sexy Tina from Marketing or Julie from Accounting when she’s loose off of some Tanqueray. Just play it cool, keep your ears open for the clues and eventually you will be able to slide in and out of that spot with ease. This like all of my suggestions is not a 100% certainty, but there is no hookup easier than an office hook-up, especially when you see these women for 7+ hours in the day. Trust me you grew on them the same way they have… [Read more]

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It has been discussed millions of times but as much as it has been made to look like common knowledge, it really isn’t. If you are a drop-dead gorgeous woman who hasn’t gone into modeling, acting or porn, your dating pool by default will be a shallow one. This fact is usually dispelled by women who don’t fit the mold of this with statements such as “you can have ANY guy you want” or “you’re one to complain”. This gives the beauty instant guilt resulting in the not-so-hot girl feeling better about herself and the beauty thinking there may be some truth to this. The problem with this myth however is that a typical guy will be intimidated to make first contact and if the beauty pushes up she will be instantly placed into the slut category. For a seasoned wolf, the beauty will be tried because the wolf knows more often than none a… [Read more]

Once in awhile as a man you will find yourself surrounded by a flock of birds, pecking at you in attempt to have you bleed out the man laws. It is times like this when a man can figure out if he is steadfast in his principles or confused and dazed when made to think about it. If it has never happened to you, be sure and prepare yourself for it because it will occur if you find yourself in the company of more than 2 women, one being freshly single and alcohol being involved. If you don’t understand what it is I am getting at, just picture a collection of women in a question and answer with one guy as to “why do men do this?” My testing came about during the 50th birthday of my mother, as I played bartender to a good number of patrons, most being older, single women who had… [Read more]