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Jul 20

When you’re the token “good guy” in a company of women, there will be times when you will be called upon to play the part of Ambassador For Men. The following is a survival guide to help you rep us right and survive the fires of a man-hater. Men, once in a while you will find yourself surrounded by a flock of birds, pecking at you in attempt to have you bleed out the man laws. Most of the time it will be at a house party, but it can happen at work, at a bus stop, or at a car wash window while you watch your pride and joy being buffed and waxed. It is times like this when a man must figure out if he is steadfast in his principles or confused and dazed when made to answer on the fly! Be sure… [Read more]

Oct 09

So many different studies have come out showing that “powerful” women are not the desired mates of their male peers. While there are a handful of power couples who somehow make it work a la Francis and Claire Underwood of Netflix’s House of Cards, the pattern seems to stay with “competition” causing a rift in the relationship. As we all know, compromise is one thing that keeps relationships solid, but support is the other big factor isn’t it? I think of “power couples” and I think of ego, a lifetime of “going it alone” and two people tempered in the flames of “the grind” where disappointment in humanity, money over everything, and keeping oneself shielded from exploitation is the norm. For two individuals like this to work, one would have to back down and let the other lead. I don’t care how many ideal scenarios… [Read more]

Aug 14
black woman thinking

Reading the articles and general attitudes of the single women in the Washington DC area it seems that the search for a good, successful, single man is done out of want for a status symbol as opposed to a loving mate. Ladies correct me if I am completely off base with this but what would you assume if a man was to write the following inquiry from a place where women are scarce: “I have everything a woman could ask for around here; I have a new Benz, a plush apartment, all my teeth, a Doctorate, AND I’m about to make partner! Why are all the good girls around here acting as if they’re gold that I can’t afford?” I’m going to go out on a limb and say that question would put you on the defensive even without me having to name the area,… [Read more]

Dec 21

Editor’s Note: Don’t be a reactionary troll from my title, read the article. According to a lot of men, the idea of a suitcase carrying woman in a pantsuit does not vibe well with the happy housewife image that is the conservative ideal. This accounts to many of the issues women with strong careers have with finding a peer (in business) to date and marry. Men aren’t necessarily looking for a “lesser” woman to marry but they are looking for a woman who fits into the mold of what is shown as the ideal. Donald Draper looks for Betty Draper not a Peggy Olson aka the career driven go-hard that’s pretty but focused on the prize. Sure this doesn’t account for every male who shies away from single professional women but it describes a healthy chunk of us that run for the hills when we… [Read more]

Sep 14

There’s only a few times when a man can go out with a bunch of single women and not look like a fool to other men in observance: If one of the women is his girl, or a chick that he sleeps with (a lot). If he’s banging all of them and they refer to him as “daddy”. If he’s a parent/chaperone and they are under age at some event. Any other time and he will be the subject of harsh judgment by male standards. Some men assume that the man (pound puppy) in a flock of birds is either gay, or some loser playing bff in hopes that he will gain some pity booty by the end of the night. Reality says that this male is normally some cat that doesn’t realize the folly of his ways. Here are a few misconceptions by the… [Read more]

Feb 28

One of my friends (a young lady that we’ll call Veronica for the sake of this article) is on the market for a guy. Like many of us who choose life over romance throughout our years, Veronica finds herself on the north side of 30 and in want of a guy who will accept her. Given my history with Veronica I knew what it was that she enjoyed. She is active, she does martial arts, dances in parades and is a big time artist. These qualities make her atypical of the standard black girl mold and it was what attracted me to her in the first place (forever and a day ago when we were a thing). Now I am in one spot and happy and she is beginning to feel the need for love after many years of flying solo. The few guys that… [Read more]

Feb 06

I am about tired of these commercials, not because of the underlying clueless racism in them, but the fact that they are tired and very late to the party. Last year (2010) it was open season on black women as blogs and the media took to task the “solving” of the black woman’s single problem. Every single day on “black blogs” there was post after post bemoaning the plight of these women in their single-hood, while an underlying and sometimes well hidden insult was  being ushered against the black male. This was black people attacking black people about a problem that isn’t exclusively black – but let them tell it. From the war that ensued between the successful  but single women and the “relationship experts” who chose to capitalize on it their rose the image of the bitter black bitch. Who is The Bitter Black… [Read more]

Dec 28

Look ladies and gentlemen, if you are with a new love that makes you feel like a million bucks all at the expense of your child then you need to wake up and realize that you are being selfish. While it’s important that you take care of your happiness along with your child’s during his/her 18 year stint in your home, it is still important that the child is happy. I’ve seen it from I was a shorty, single women moving in assholes on their children in hopes that the two will warm up to one another in time. Let me be completely honest with you, many guys will NEVER warm up to your children based off the fact that they aren’t of his seed. Hell he may end up treating his own flesh/blood like shit while keeping you up on that golden pedestal, is… [Read more]