Results For "single"
Aug 31
stressed out single mother with baby

Editor’s Note: It seems like every time I go on a mommy website these days there are tips for scheduling your day, weekly menus, to daycare or not to daycare, or managing your adult life with your children. While these are all great tips, I never see anything about help for dealing with all of those decisions when they take a toll on your sanity to a point of self-medication. We all have a hard day now and then, and some of us just want to decompress on the couch when the kids go to sleep. But there are others, quite a few I might add, who put them to bed and say the cliché “I need a drink”. AND they mean it whole-heartedly. This is a telltale sign of the parent struggling with keeping it together while raising little people who watch their every… [Read more]

Jul 30

We all know that girl who has a kid or kids and who has not owned up to the sacrifice that comes with putting someone else’s life before hers.  She is the one who is still living her life the same as it was prior to her becoming pregnant. This girl gives off a “babysitter” feel and not a “child rearing” feel. Consequences of the child’s future do not enter her mind, usually because she was either never taught to care for a child (only to “watch” the child) and never had a positive role model on how to do so. I want to give advice to this woman. Not because I look down on her, but because I think she needs to wake up in order to reap the many rewards of motherhood.  If you are a woman who leaves your kid with your mother on… [Read more]

Jun 18

Men, do you have a career deal breaker when it comes to your dating? If not, why don’t you? It’s a rhetorical question really, being that I know for a fact that we still think in a traditional sense when it comes to a mate and what he/she brings to the table. There is still pressure on the male to have ambition, have a career, and have money, but as men our pressure on women still goes toward the physical, ie: stay skinny, be pretty, don’t annoy me. Why is it that we aren’t looking for our mates to have a career that is deemed “respectable”, and why aren’t we saying things like “a woman that does (insert job) is not a woman that I want to date”? It has been perfectly okay for women to proudly proclaim that they don’t date “(insert job)”, so… [Read more]

Dec 19

If you are a woman that has a guy in your “back pocket” due to any number of reasons, he may become a hindrance to your love life. Many women have a guy that they want, but refuse to go their with him for one reason or another. This leads to the guy being placed in the friend-zone, or her back pocket (as we will call it here) and regulated to little more than buddy status. When you look at this woman’s list–of course she has a list–it should not be a surprise that back pocket guy encompasses much of what is on there. For a man who isn’t looking to settle down, the back pocket is nice, warm and cozy, because it can easily translate to sex with no strings attached.  It is the perfect situation for a player, especially if there are several… [Read more]

Dec 16

Quite often we are reminded of the hate and loathing that we as a people have for fakers, show-offs and loud mouth whiners. We hate them so much in fact that those of us that have earned the medals, the battle scars and the 3-level house feel inclined to hide it lest we be treated with the same disdain as the big-mouths next door. Why do we take modesty so far? Well the way that the public views celebrities is a good indicator of why many men and women hide their “medals”. People dislike the rich as a whole, they run comparison checks with their own lives when a friend or loved one has some success, and then they react in a way to make themselves feel better. It reminds me of those drivers who make dumb decisions then when they see that you are… [Read more]

Nov 06

Sometimes I admire women who really know what they want in their 20’s and truly wait to have kids until they are well into their 30’s. Other times, I’m glad I’ve got the experience almost completely out of the way in my early years to enjoy the later years with my man. However, there is that one thing that I cannot get past, who am I without my daughter? While we are on the verge of taking SAT’s and ACT’s, up to our necks in college applications and tours, her need to spend all of her spare time with her friends, I am left with the question of who I am. I never got a chance to experience adult things without the baby in tow or the burden of finding a baby sitter, or worse, sitting at home when a baby sitter was not available…. [Read more]

Jul 19

There will be times that come along in a man’s life when the pressure of family, friends and society leads to the single life seeming inadequate. It’s quite unfortunate how nosy people can get and how much judgment is levied upon others when they don’t fit into the slot of “normalcy” that the rest of the mundane world has created for them. Whenever I get those sort of questions I either answer them honestly or tell that person to mind their own business and not worry about mine—depending on who it is—but I understand that my frank attitude is not one that many of you have. One thing that I want to bring across to you young men out there who have felt the need to lie to long distance parents, friends and others that you are dating someone is that you will feel a… [Read more]

Jun 03

Recently Samsung launched an ad that featured the stereotypical “lazy husband” trope that has been levied on males for as long as I can remember. In the past those of us who did not fall within this stereotype would shrug it off and ignore it but in 2013 things are much, much different for men. The difference with regards to this ad is that men from all over the internet are speaking out against it and swearing off of Samsung’s products. Why Are Men Upset? Every day we are reminded that we are rapists, underachievers and absentee fathers by women with a larger-than-life podium (internet blogs) whose main agenda is to shame manhood while pretending that they are out for equality. While the issues of black men and white men (when it comes to our women) have been very different from one another, there is… [Read more]