“hey baby, hey baby, damn shawty you fine! Hey red! Come here!” – Editor’s note: Some women respond to this. Here on the Hall we refer to them as birds! There are certain things that men will do that will not vibe with others but they will continue to do it with some fools notion that it is part of the man code. One of the most annoying examples of this is when a man sees a woman by the side of the road and he decides to pursue her by slowly driving or parking in the middle of the street. This happens a lot in the hood and on college campuses where a dude will hold up traffic in order to try and talk to a woman despite whether or not she’s giving him positive feedback. What makes it annoying is he will look back at you – another male – with that look… [Read more]

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Everybody knows Han Solo from Star Wars, he is the quintessential Bad Boy that women fantasize about. He’s good looking, he shoots first and asks questions later, he’s a rogue, a scoundrel, and a dead-eye with a blaster. Han Solo has outrun Darth Vader’s goons, he’s taken on the legendary Boba Fett and the cherry on his exciting life (beyond the list) is the fact that he bagged himself a princess. In a world of magical Jedi and terrible Sith Lords, Han is a regular guy who manages to survive. But you’ve all seen the movie so let me close his resume and get to the point. Han Solo is the dark knight that women look for in the faux thugs that they date and sometimes marry. What If Han Were a Real Man of Today? I think people give Han more love than he deserves because they cannot identify with the space-aged world of… [Read more]

You know the confusion and misinformation on men and our choice of hairdos will never come to an end in the black community but maybe I can shed some light on the observations I’ve made amongst my fellow “men of color”. The natural hair movement is in full effect as former perms are being replaced rapidly by ceasers, afros and natural braids. With this movement there will be those who tell you that they made “the big chop” for hair health reasons and others who say that it is only another hairstyle that they are trying out. The stigma with natural women however seems to be that they are all stuck-up, Erykah Badu types that point fingers at women who kept a perm or weave. Just Look Good in Your Tresses One of the other tired attack memes on black males (besides our inherent love for fat blondes and prison… rolls eyes) is that we… [Read more]

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Let me preface this article by saying that I know there are times when a woman is the aggressor. When a big 6ft 250 lb gorilla chick will club her man to emasculate him and any retaliation results in him being thrown in jail. I get that, I understand it and I know when it comes to fights the man is playing with a 7 and a 2 off suit. Still, if your sumo girlfriend socks you I have no beef with you for socking her back, what I do have beef with is if she comes out the mouth at you (and you are strong enough to  literally bench press her), you closing your fist and pounding her. That’s not cool, a strong dude can check a woman without going there, why do you? As a child growing up into adulthood most little boys are taught that it is not okay to hit girls…. [Read more]

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Where my rag wearing soldiers that Love to watch the dough stack Never leave the house without their strap (That’s what I’m looking for) They know just what a woman need Keep a big bank roll and a bag of weed When it’s time to go down they ain’t scared to freak, (That’s what I’m looking for) Where my Rolley wearing thugs who Claim they don’t love you But any time you want something done, they do it (That’s what I’m looking for) The ball all night type Frontin’, screaming, thug life That’s the type of nigga I like (That’s what I’m looking for) -    Da Brat “That’s What I’m Looking For” So I had a conversation with a close friend of mine that is going through a break up and she questioned her odds at finding another man now that she has children.  She said that the pool of quality men is very shallow… [Read more]