Results For "unity"
Jul 28

While I have many favorite things that I truly enjoy in this world – the sound of the goal scoring horn at a Rangers game in Madison Sq. Garden… a perfectly seared, medium-rare porterhouse steak for 2 that’s actually just for me… and the searing metallic vocals of Judas Priest front man, Rob Halford – a premium cigar paired with a deliciously brewed concoction will forever rank high on my list.  When it comes to hand rolled cigars, you could say I know my stuff. As an editor for Cigar Advisor magazine and a lover of the leaf for over 20 years, I’ve dedicated an awful lot of time to this wonderfully smoke-filled passion. I’ve been incredibly fortunate to visit cigar producing nations like Honduras and the Dominican Republic, walking the tobacco fields and touring the factories while gaining a life changing glimpse of an… [Read more]

Jun 22
Young entrepreneur starting a business

Tips On Starting Your Own Business Coping with an unexpected career setback can cause a lot of stress and anxiety, and it can be challenging to know how to forge ahead. While many people will stick with the path that they were already on, others will look at a career setback as a sign that they should forge a new path by starting their own business. There are a lot of considerations to work through when it comes to starting your own business, but there is a lot of great advice available to make the process flow more smoothly. Look at your interests, skills, and passions to pinpoint the right business idea The first step in creating your own business is to pin down the right idea. There are many options available when it comes to starting your own business, and it is important to… [Read more]

Jan 04

Men of the world, 2012 was not our year… not by a long shot and if we continue on in the same vein as we have been we will accelerate the demise of masculine identity in this modern society. If we are going to make resolutions then becoming better men should be one of them. What is a better man? A better man is a better version of who you are – a more confident version, one who will not let the mainstream convince you that being a man is a bad thing. A better man is a hero to boys, an icon to follow for the confused and unaware, an avatar of where we should be going. The following list of things are steps we could all take to become better men and it isn’t some hogwash textual castration disguised as a “good men… [Read more]

Aug 23
lane cries to draper

There’s something that just feels wrong about a man who whines and complains. Nobody has patience for it, and nobody wants to hear it. Machismo has always been attributed to the strong, silent type; men who take action when the time calls for it but keep it to themselves otherwise. The only acceptable time for a man to complain is prior to action and if there is no intent on action then that man becomes every bit akin to a barking Chihuahua – loud, annoying, and only able to garner sympathy from his owners. We have all been in the presence of a complaining, whiny man and I am more than sure that he grated on your nerves as much as he would mine. Men, if you want to stand apart in society then you have to pick and choose your verbal battles and avoid… [Read more]

Mar 12

Getting laid off sucks man let me tell you. It is a slap in the face of someone who has been a stellar employee and has done everything within his/her power to stay in the good graces of a company. A layoff unlike a firing is unavoidable, you are in the way so you get cut; your company can no longer afford you, specific to this article – your company gets bought out and the new boss wants to wipe the slate clean. If you see the layoff coming you can prepare yourself (at the bottom of this article are some bullet points to help you do this), but if you get blindsided… with no severance… that is the stuff that “going postal” is made of. So how do you know that you’re about to be out of a company, a job and a bi-weekly… [Read more]

Jan 17

Long distance relationships are tricky and take quite a bit of navigating as you work your way through knowing a person and building a memory bank. For those of us who have our lover just around the corner who we see practically every day, knows the challenges we face and will agree that long distance relationships are not for the feint of heart and the insecure. When you are in a long distance relationship, you tend to depend on different means of contact as a measure of the health of your relationship. When you don’t hear from your sweetie, you might resort to second-guessing yourself by asking, “Is he thinking about me?” “Is someone else siphoning her affection?” Many times these shadowy bits of our imagination are dispelled by the next call or visit, and in some cases may open up a keg of insecurity… [Read more]

Aug 16

A few times I have been blindsided by a woman giving me a compliment and having to fight my male assumptions to accept it and move on without playing myself. It took a long time of receiving compliments, assuming them to be flirting, returning the flirt and getting shot down for doing so, to get to this point of nonchalance. I’ve learned that women may flirt, but their version and our version are very different and it’s easy to misread their intent or overshoot your possibilities. Intelligent Reality vs P.Brain Lusting As a man we have 2 ways of thinking that can assist or negate our ability to co-exist properly with women. When you meet a woman and she breaks pattern to do things like: buy you a drink compliment you grab you on the ass grab your package We get excited, we freeze –… [Read more]

May 06

There’s a great wish in the African American community for a wonderful utopia known as UNITY. The word brings about images of 70’s era movies where everyone picks their blow-out afros, slaps high-fives and echo “right on” in unison. This reality was lived out by our parents but now the word has become pure fantasy. A fellow AA writer and myself discussed this unity thing and devised that there are 7 layers of division that keeps black unity a myth. This list may not be black exclusive but it plagues us and keeps us separated in a major way. The 7 Layers of Division in Black America: Layer 1 – Bourgee vs. Ghetto Middle/Upper Class vs. Lower Class for those confused by the derogatory terms. These two classes of people don’t necessarily hate one another but cannot coexist due to different outlooks and prejudice towards… [Read more]