The topic of the day is about bullying and the internet. This topic has gained ground due to a number of suicides that occurred after some kids did things to others to embarrass them on the web and it resulted in that kid taking his life rather than dealing with the hell. Everyone seems to have a comment on bullies, but most utter the same cliché crap that they believe is true since they’ve heard it so many times: Never back down from a bully, fight back and they will learn to leave you alone. While this is true in the sense of light bullying ie: One kid who tries you day to day, or a couple kids who give you wet willies and wedgies. It isn’t true for cyber space, a tribe of your peers and the anonymous trolls of the internet.
Bullies deserve to die a deadly bloody death
Well not really, but any child that has been severely bullied has this sentiment, and they mean it from the bottom of their hearts even into adulthood. For those of us who haven’t been severely bullied, our only connection to their hell is what we have seen on television and movies. We think of the kids stuffing the tiny one in a locker, knocking over his lunch and hiding his books. Severe bullying is that plus constant ridicule, getting others in on the joke, and making it a daily thing for not one year (most kids go to the same school for multiple years) but for many. The bully becomes your nemesis, his friends a bunch of stupid hyenas and you wish upon them death, because death is final and only finality would remove them from your life.
Why do you think every adult that went through this can remember their bully’s names first and last. Celebrities laugh at their old bullies apologizing to them through emails, Eminem did a song about his bully, good kids have ransformed into mischievous hoodlums because of their bullies. Oh no, it’s no happy, easy cliché to overcome a bully, it takes seeing red and snapping. In the movie Let The Right One In and it’s American version Let Me In, the little boy Oskar/Owen is bullied in the way that I describe here. Little Jaden Smith had the same thing going on in the new Karate Kid and he did what everyone says to do – he fought his bully. Bullies bounce back, they can be relentless and they come with followers, as Dre from Karate Kid found out, fighting may not earn you respect from the bully,but it always earns you attention.
The Bully is being bullied
Most of the time a bully is lashing out at a weakling because they themselves have been bullied, abused or is going through it. I find it funny that this same mentality goes into the hazing rituals of fraternities and gangs – the “they did it to me so I am going to do it to you” mentality. Most bullies have issues, a few just feel they have privilege, the victims – want them to get out of their lives.
Sometimes a victim wants to change schools hoping that the prison of the school day would be different if the environment were to change. They would meet new friends, no-one would know them and they would be rid of the bully that had been punking them since 2nd grade. They can’t ask mom to transfer because they’ve tried that several times already. They skip school for peace, they feign sickness, and they hide from their opressors, it is a daily hell that no-one understands. The parents say to hit back, the teachers say to rat them out but you know that either will result in the situation worsening. Better and easier to just snuff it, say goodbye to the cruel world and just call it quits. Ya the cliches aren’t helping people, they really aren’t.
Increase the severity of punishment for bullies
Lets face it, for a kid who gets bullied, the school system is Alcatraz and every bully is a rival gangster waiting to run his shank into their eyeball. Right now the punishment for bullying is a mere annoyance that serves to infuriate the offender moreso than sobering his efforts, whatever is being done is not enough. In prison when you murder you can get 25 years to life in a cell, in the school system there needs to be something on the level of expulsion and the parents being held accountable for these little monsters.
Now that suicide is a factor in these hard times, the empathy for bullies must come to an end. If you’ve never been severely bullied then please reserve judgment on those who have, it is never easy and it is a thing that stays with you the remainder of your lifSee some words or phrases that you don't understand? Check out The Dragon's Lexicon.