So what is the difference between High School cool and Adult cool? Well we define our own brand of cool when we become confident in our own skin (if you’re lucky), confident in our career, and confident in our love life. Adult cool can be the 40 yr. old father who still dresses like the cool cats of his day, or it can be the child-at-heart uncle who delights in doing projects around his house. Cool is a mindset, it is confidence, and adult cool to us here at the Hall of The Black Dragon is when you get to the point where nobody can question your sense of style, you are good where you are.
Teenage cool however is being accepted by everyone else, it’s a tribal type of mentality where you do things to be seen as normal by others. Many adults are still stuck in this mindset worrying a bit too much about how people view them as opposed to doing their thing and shining on their own merit. How much easier to your life would it be to have your own sense of style, where another adult can say “you know what? That damn Jim is one cool sunovabitch”?
Playing competitive dresser or that guy who tries too hard to be cool will lead to more resentment than acceptance from outsiders. When you get past the age of 22 (since College still yields a very High School type of mentality) it can become a rude awakening on how little other people think about you, your style, or your life. It’s a cold, cold world but the coolest people are still respected for being level-headed. These people are cool to themselves though, they don’t do it out of effort or want for other people’s acceptance.
Celebrity cool on a budget
One of the driving forces of faux cool by adults is in our bootleg copying of celebs in every facet we find attractive. When “cool” rappers began to brag about driving Bentleys, regular adults ran out and bought Chrystler 300s (an affordable car that loos similar). Women dress the way they see the hottest celebs on the red carpet for Oscars, they want red-bottom shoes because Mariah Carey has them. Many of us do these things without even thinking about them.
The word cool historically has been associated with smoking, drinking brown liquor, and not giving a damn about a bitching wife. Cool was the guy with the afro, dressed to a tee, in shades slapping fives and yelling “right on” during the blaxpoitation era. Cool is cultural, it is what people strive to be for the ultimate acceptance in society. Cool was Arthur “Fonzie” Fonzarelli but unfortunately folks, all of these brands of cool is reminiscent of the non-adult kind… do you agree? Happy Days was meant to be High School, black folks were just generally viewed as cool to outsiders in the 70’s and James Dean posing like a million bucks is a swagger that most men will never have… James Dean was James Dean.
Adult cool is what we should strive for instead of being a cheap knock-off of our celebrity heroes. Adult cool is being that guy who doesn’t stress the big things but handles them in his own way until they are solved. Adult cool is a lady finding ways to effortlessly make her outfits work so that she looks good always. Adult cool is truly what you make it in order to be good with yourself in a manner of confidence and comfort.
To truly grow up is to drop the trifles that no longer matter and move on to being comfortable doing what it is that makes us happy.See some words or phrases that you don't understand? Check out The Dragon's Lexicon.