It’s a bit sad that we cater so much to the outgoing social women that we tend to generalize and paint every woman with the same brush. While many women may have girlfriends, take pleasure in using girl power to make things harder in the dating game and comment on relationship blogs, they are not the whole.
Socially awkward women are everywhere, some are beautiful physically, some are beautiful mentally, and others are just normal. We never speak to them because they shrink back into the background as props and watercolor to our animated series of life.
The bold, sometimes loud girl commands attention in a room; she likes us but wants us to chase her while her socially awkward friend would love to talk to us but doesn’t know how to make it happen.
As men we know it’s as simple as some eye contact, a little smile, or just some indicator that it is safe to come over; but even these small gestures are too much for the girl who wants to just disappear. When I see interviews with Twilight actress Kristen Stewart she strikes me as this type fo girl and as you already know she is heavily scrutinized for it.
How does a guy know a socially awkward woman is interested?
There really is no good way for a guy to know when someone so shy and put off by a crowd likes him because she is so different from the standard girl. Even worse we may even embarrass a woman like this out of reacting to something she tries as flirting but comes off as her being an idiot (guilty).
In the movies this type of girl would come over to talk to the handsome lead and end up tripping and spilling drinks on his shirt. Life isn’t exactly a movie so instead of telling her it’s okay, taking her shy hand and engaging in some conversation that leads to a long lasting romance, we would probably see red and cuss her out.
She makes no eye contact or sends any legit signals so we immediately get upset if she’s beautiful. In a man’s mind a beauty being goofy and doing something off to attract us could be seen as her trolling or doing something to get her friends to laugh. Blame the bitchy outgoing beauties of the past for this one.
So how does an awkward woman get the attention of a man without it becoming an embarrassing and harmful experience? You have to take some risk and play it slow ladies.
If you’re a nerdy girl
One of the quickest roads to attraction for a male is to completely blow our mind with your knowledge on a particular topic. Men fall instantly in love with women who can talk sports, video games, tech or any other supposed “guy” topic with them.
Break the ice by mentioning the game that is on his phone or PS-Vita and the rest is history – all we need is an indication that you are available to talk. If that’s too forward then start up conversation via an online resource; I’ve seen solid love connections come from MMORPG, chat rooms, forums and even blogs.
If you’re not a nerdy girl
Non-nerdy girls have it hardest being that us nerds as a sub-culture are known for our social awkwardness; we are supposed to be shy. If you’re hot and socially awkward you have to play with your uncomfortable fears until you can handle them.
Eye-contact make you look away fast… keep trying it and the guy will get the hint. Look, if a woman keeps looking at a guy and he doesn’t get the hint then it’s his loss – trust me. The only thing you have to worry about is conversation – too little or too much can be scary for a man who doesn’t know just how much you are into him so try to ask him about himself with as much small talk as you can if you find that you are just going to sit there silently hoping to not mess up.
Goofy girls with bad conversation are actually cute to some guys and if you survive the initial interaction he will have a handle on your awkwardness and do his best to accommodate you.
There are so many bad women out there polluting the dating pool that I urge you quirky, socially awkward types to at least try. At the end of the day it will always be a difficult feat to date but with the tips I have given you in this article hopefully it won’t be so daunting.See some words or phrases that you don't understand? Check out The Dragon's Lexicon.